Guest Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 I have a question. I have noticed my husband who is 36, likes to go to photobucket, and look at peoples recent pics. No they are not nude or anything, and I don't have a problem with him going there, he likes to see some of the funny things people put up. However, I notice alot of what he goes too, are pictures of really young girls. Like high school and college age. Yeah its a good thing they are not nude, so I probably should just shut my mouth on it, but its just weird. He will see some peoples pictures, that will have their user name (the name that submitted the pics) and he will click their name and then put in his favorites to return to later on to see if they have addded new pictures. The ones that are in his favorites are young girls, like high school or college. For the record yeah he used to look at porn and still does on a occassion and yes they are young girls. I know it says 18 blah blah, and these girls on phototbucket I'm sure are 18 too. Anyway, my question is, do others feel he must have thing for younger girls? It doesn't matter if its porn or clothed pics from photobucket, it just seems thats what he looks at alot is the younger girls. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 Uh, yeah, he has a thing for young girls. I think going to photobucket and looking at girls' pics is kinda strange for him to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Nicholas Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 To be fair, he has a thing for young women. The fascination itself is not unhealthy. I wonder if you should give him a little bit of privacy on the computer. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 To be fair, he has a thing for young women. The fascination itself is not unhealthy. I wonder if you should give him a little bit of privacy on the computer. I don't know...there's something creepy about him looking at 'real' girls' pictures, as opposed to porn girls. Link to post Share on other sites
Nicholas Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 Well, it seems as though porn girls were his first choice, but he opted for peace instead of a defense of that choice. That seems to be a theme in the modern American marriage. If there is perversion to be found in all forms of mental unfaithfulness, it's no wonder the divorce rate is so damn high. The perverts have it coming! Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 I was thinking the same thing norajane. These girls are hopefully not putting their pictures up to attract the attentions of older men. Whereas with porn it is a given... It just seems a little to real to me. He could have a teenage daughter by now, and she might have some "cute" looking friends... hmmm, I would be concerned. Link to post Share on other sites
Nicholas Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 Oh, Christ; why stop there? Yeah, I would be concerned that this fella might even take a crack at his own non-existent teenage daughter... what a hypothetical sicko. Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 LOL okay mr. sarcastic I was just stating when you look at it in that (obscure) way... it isn't as acceptable as she is making it sound... I just don't understand what he would be getting out of this act... Oh and I was speaking about her young fresh friends If it was his hypothetical daughter that would be a whole other nonexistant issue... Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 I think as another poster stated " the fascination itself is not unhealthy." might be a little true, sure men especailly will probably always be fascinated with the "youthfulness" of young women, but at the same time I would be a little concerned as well. Nowhere in her post did I see her mention where he was looking at other things on that photobucket site, other than young girls. I have seen pics on there before too, and while they might not be really distasteful, they are more or less pics of peoples vacations, holiday parties, college parties, girls and guys getting drunk, etc it still makes you wonder why it is, he is just looking at young girls, or women rather,pics and nothing else. IMO, to answer the OP question, yes I think he has a thing for younger girls. Link to post Share on other sites
lovelifelots Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 what man doesnt like to look at younger women? dam i like lookin at young guys (23+) dont mean im a pervert!! its natural... if he was lookin at girls who were pre pubecent i'd worry then Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 Oh come on. Really. He can't look at porn, so he looks at attractive younger women. What is the big deal? I suppose when you get married you're only ever supposed to look at your spouse? I was under the impression that almost all men in existence like to look at younger women. I'm just saying. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 Oh come on. Really. He can't look at porn, so he looks at attractive younger women. What is the big deal? I suppose when you get married you're only ever supposed to look at your spouse? I was under the impression that almost all men in existence like to look at younger women. I'm just saying. Thanks for the replies. I understand what you all are saying. Its not that big of a deal I don't guess, they do have their clothes on after all. And yes it is natural to look. I forgot to add though in my orginal post, and this may or may not make a hill of beans to anyone, but when he was on porn, and yes he looks at that still sometimes, he was on a site about fmailies that are nudist. Good for them if thats their choice. However he frequenlty visited sites that had fmailies enjoying activities on the beach playing etc, or in nudist coloines. However there were many shots of young boys and girls around the ages of 5 to say 12 or 13 years old nude. Personally IMO, if he is looking at porn of 18 year olds or older is one thing but kids that age, and I don't care if they are with their families or not, theres a problem there. So yeah maybe photobucket pics of high schoolers and college girls is not that bad. Link to post Share on other sites
scrybe74 Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 Oh come on. Really. He can't look at porn, so he looks at attractive younger women. What is the big deal? I suppose when you get married you're only ever supposed to look at your spouse? I was under the impression that almost all men in existence like to look at younger women. I'm just saying. I agree with BO.... to add tothat I think it sounds like you yourself may have a problem with porn. You said that "he used to look at porn" which I'm assuming he turned it down for your benefit. He's probably looking at pictures of young attractive women instead. Could be worse. But if you think that's 'creepy' because the women are 'real' might you consider talking to him about it and ease up on your (possible) resistance to him looking at porn? And give him a little privacy too? Just a little advice. Take it or burn it. Link to post Share on other sites
sugarplum Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 I agree with BO.... I realize this has nothing to do with the OP, but could you call her something else next time! Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 If people would go back and re-read the OP it did say he used to look at porn and still DOES on occasion. I'm assuming that means he used to look at it alot but not as much as he once did. Anyway I think the real issue here is that for whatever reason it bothers you. And I see where you said he looked at nude families with pics of children in them that belong to a nudist colony. YES thats a problem right there. The clothed pics might not be a big deal, but yeah theres an underlying issue there. Have you talked with him about it? Is he still looking at the pics of nudist colonies with children in them? Link to post Share on other sites
climbergirl Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 I have a question. I have noticed my husband who is 36, likes to go to photobucket, and look at peoples recent pics. No they are not nude or anything, and I don't have a problem with him going there, he likes to see some of the funny things people put up. However, I notice alot of what he goes too, are pictures of really young girls. Like high school and college age. Yeah its a good thing they are not nude, so I probably should just shut my mouth on it, but its just weird. He will see some peoples pictures, that will have their user name (the name that submitted the pics) and he will click their name and then put in his favorites to return to later on to see if they have addded new pictures. The ones that are in his favorites are young girls, like high school or college. For the record yeah he used to look at porn and still does on a occassion and yes they are young girls. I know it says 18 blah blah, and these girls on phototbucket I'm sure are 18 too. Anyway, my question is, do others feel he must have thing for younger girls? It doesn't matter if its porn or clothed pics from photobucket, it just seems thats what he looks at alot is the younger girls. Wow.....way to jump all over this girl that her husband......... A. can't look at porn or B. she has told him to stop I saw nothing to suggest either. The crux here is that most men I know find a variety of women of all ages attractive, but usually there is a main theme (dark hair/blond hair/athletic or skinny) on who they find attractive. And if their main/only theme is 'high school'........well, yeah, I think that's creepy. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 Thanks for the replies. I understand what you all are saying. Its not that big of a deal I don't guess, they do have their clothes on after all. And yes it is natural to look. I forgot to add though in my orginal post, and this may or may not make a hill of beans to anyone, but when he was on porn, and yes he looks at that still sometimes, he was on a site about fmailies that are nudist. Good for them if thats their choice. However he frequenlty visited sites that had fmailies enjoying activities on the beach playing etc, or in nudist coloines. However there were many shots of young boys and girls around the ages of 5 to say 12 or 13 years old nude. Personally IMO, if he is looking at porn of 18 year olds or older is one thing but kids that age, and I don't care if they are with their families or not, theres a problem there. So yeah maybe photobucket pics of high schoolers and college girls is not that bad. The fact the OP came back and explained more about the things he has looked at, I guess got overlooked. And on the first page I did ask if she had talked with him about this. I have seen all kinds of pics on photobucket before and the OP mentioned thats all he looked at was young high school girls and college girls, theres more on photobucket than just those girls but the fact he doesn't go to anything else but that, yeah theres an issue there. Link to post Share on other sites
Sassy Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 Clothed or not being young it is still sick! Do you two have kids ? How would he like someone viewing his kids that young? i seen dateline and they are getting these sick pedifiles for talking with young kids. To each's own but if you have kids I would be leary of him messing with them. JMO Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 To each's own but if you have kids I would be leary of him messing with them WOW! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 30, 2006 Share Posted June 30, 2006 Clothed or not being young it is still sick! Do you two have kids ? How would he like someone viewing his kids that young? i seen dateline and they are getting these sick pedifiles for talking with young kids. To each's own but if you have kids I would be leary of him messing with them. JMO Yes we have 3 kids. Ages 11, 9 and 6. actually when he was on the nudist sites of families with small kids nude yes it bothered me. Yes I have talked with him about it before and why he felt the need to look at girls that looked young, and his response to me was, "Because they remind me of you." I said, "what do you mean they remind you of me?" He said they look like teeny boppers like you do!" Why I am flattered, he thinks I look like a teeny bopper, but if I do then why look at them? Sounds like a cop out answer and a justification to look at them personally. Link to post Share on other sites
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