Mike Posted November 22, 2001 Share Posted November 22, 2001 Ok, so now things have got worse! Remember I had the problem about seeing a girl behind her 'boyfriends' back? well he is back on the scene now (has been away for a few months) and they live together in a communal house. The other night we had this long chat her saying she doesnt know what she is going to do and wanting to know if we couldnt work it out would i be happy going back to being friends. Frankly, this sucks. What im thinking is if she loves him so much and doesnt want to hurt him by leaving him, why did she go to me in the forst place? And needless to say, after we had this mini argument i called over and she was all over me again. This stinks Should i get out before i really get hurt? Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Mojo Posted November 22, 2001 Share Posted November 22, 2001 hi mike, think of this: if this girl is willing to basically cheat on her boyfriend (go behind his back...it's all the same), then what would stop her doing the exact same thing to you if you became involved with her? whether he was away or not is not the issue. this girl does not know where her loyalties lie. you were right when you questioned that if she really loves him, why did she pursue things with you. sounds to me like you were her substitute guy while her boyfriend went away. her comment re "she doesnt know what she is going to do and wanting to know if we couldnt work it out would i be happy going back to being friends" sounds like her way of indirectly saying, "i don't think it will work out and to save face, let's be friends, eh?". yes, this does suck. i think she is playing head games with you and is only thinking of what she wants here, regardless of other peoples feelings. not only has she played you, but she's played her boyfriend too. yeah, she's a real catch. in conclusion: i think you should get out before you get really hurt, because the odds are, she will do the same thing to you. use your head and not any other part of your body. best wishes and don't forget about all the SINGLE girls out there Link to post Share on other sites
tkgirl Posted November 22, 2001 Share Posted November 22, 2001 I hope you don't allow yourself to be played by this girl anymore. It sounds like she is very selfish, you deserve better! I totally know what you are going through, though...I just went through almost the exact same thing and it sucked! Here's my story: I started seeing this guy a while back and at first it seemed like he was really into me. But then I find out he still wasn't completely over his ex. He said he was and plus she moved all the way across the country. But then when she came out for a visit, well... he kept that a secret at first, tried to get back with her, it didn't work out, so then he wants me back. Not knowing the whole story at first I took him back. Big mistake! I realize now all he really cared about was himself and he just didn't want to be alone. Sound familiar? We shouldn't let ourselves be used like that, right? Just hang in there, it will get better! Like Miss Mojo said, there are plenty of nice SINGLE girls out there. I hope you find one soon...be strong and whatever you do, please don't go back to HER! Good Luck! Ok, so now things have got worse! Remember I had the problem about seeing a girl behind her 'boyfriends' back? well he is back on the scene now (has been away for a few months) and they live together in a communal house. The other night we had this long chat her saying she doesnt know what she is going to do and wanting to know if we couldnt work it out would i be happy going back to being friends. Frankly, this sucks. What im thinking is if she loves him so much and doesnt want to hurt him by leaving him, why did she go to me in the forst place? And needless to say, after we had this mini argument i called over and she was all over me again. This stinks Should i get out before i really get hurt? Link to post Share on other sites
sparkle Posted November 22, 2001 Share Posted November 22, 2001 I agree with Miss Mojo and tkgirl. Get out now and don't waste any more time on her. If I remember correctly, were you the one showering her with gifts? If so, I hope you realize that it made no difference whatsoever. Any girl who lets you "buy" your way into her life is not worth going after anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Mike Posted November 23, 2001 Share Posted November 23, 2001 well i wasnt the one showering her with gifts sorry lol i went and did it again - the other night i got the whole going back to friends deal and within 30 minutes she was round here all over me again! now she wants to see me again at the weekend when he goes home for the weekend - he lives 200 miles away and goes home most weekends. im thinking in my head 'no' possibly the most annoying thing is her always saying she has never loved anyone the same way as me, but personally i think this is all due to the 'excitement' of an under the table romance. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Mojo Posted November 23, 2001 Share Posted November 23, 2001 mike, i hate to be so blunt but she is a BLOODY USER!!!! (phew! got that off my chest!) did i mention that she's also playing head games with you? she doesn't deserve your attention. she's being highly unfair to you and to her current boyfriend. don't get caught up in her games. i think you realise she is playing you. i'd hate to think you'll realise it to the *full extent* when it's too late and she's played you for a fool. her actions are self-serving. man, i can't stand it when people behave like she is. anyhoo, good luck Link to post Share on other sites
tkgirl Posted November 23, 2001 Share Posted November 23, 2001 mike, i hate to be so blunt but she is a BLOODY USER!!!! (phew! got that off my chest!) did i mention that she's also playing head games with you? she doesn't deserve your attention. she's being highly unfair to you and to her current boyfriend. don't get caught up in her games. i think you realise she is playing you. i'd hate to think you'll realise it to the *full extent* when it's too late and she's played you for a fool. her actions are self-serving. man, i can't stand it when people behave like she is. anyhoo, good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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