john1776 Posted July 1, 2006 Share Posted July 1, 2006 Well I've been with my gf for 3.5 years and her father's side of the family has been putting pressure on me to marry her. This pressure has not come from my girlfriend herself. Her dad and his side of the family would ask me when I was going to marry her. All that served was to put pressure on me and I"m fed up with it. There is a reason that her dad is doing that. I don't think it's because he likes me. I think it's because he just wants his daugther to marry someone who will give her a free ride for the rest of her life. My girlfriend has not put pressure on me as of yet. She's 28 & I'm 26. If anything she's kind of fed up with her dad asking questions about marriage. She's irritated with other people butting into our relationships. I told her last week that it does not matter what other people expect out of our relationship. What matters is that she and I are both happy. That's one of the reasons I asked her if she's happy with the relationship as it is. She said yes. I don't believe there should be any set rule as to when to get married. That's really a personal matter between the two people involved. It just gets frustrating sometimes when you have family members who want to butt in and ask why we haven't gotten married yet. It's really none of their concern. Now I can understand where her father is coming from if he's concerned about my intentions with his daughter. Maybe he is concerned about the possibility of me cheating and then dumping her. If that is the case then I can see it from his perspective. My girlfriend knows that I'm not going anywhere. I'm going to stay with her as long as she is happy. I am planning to have a talk with him about all of this next time he asks questions about marriage. If he's concerned that I'll just get up and leave at any time then I want to reassure him that he's got nothing to worry about. If anything I'm the one who's worried about her up and dumping me one day. Link to post Share on other sites
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Outcast Posted July 1, 2006 Share Posted July 1, 2006 You just posted a post about pre-marital counselling. So are you getting married or aren't you? Link to post Share on other sites
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