Mary3 Posted July 8, 2006 Share Posted July 8, 2006 Well I think part of the problem is posters who care too much. There is a such thing as caring too much. There comes a point when everyone has to realize that it's none of anyone's business what I decide to do with my relationships. There comes a time when I need to be left alone to my own devices. The people here care too much and don't respect me enough to allow me to make my own mistakes. You are not God and it should not be your concern what's going on in my love life. I personally find most of the advice here to be destructive. There is nothing constructive about criticism here. I still don't believe LS is for everyone. Coming to this place can work against you. I think this place is turning into one big joke too. It started off on the right foot when it opened in 1997. If I was a completely healthy person then I would not even bother to register to come here. I would have no reason to. But maybe it's time for me to find another website that will benefit me. Some folks find this place to be theraputic and healing but I don't. In fact I feel worse at the end of the day after reading comments. I suppose if anyone's goal is to make me feel worse then they are doing the right thing by criticizing me. I encourage you to continue doing what you are doing if your goal is to put me down. Mary could be lying through her teeth too. She could be making all of this up as we speak. Hello ?? You decide to post here and its none of our businesss ? If you do not want it to be our business why do you post here ? Did someone force you to sit here and type these letters ? No ,we are not God. We are members. We post to help. If you want Gods help then ask Him. I can promise you one thing. I will not respond or care anymore about your posts. Feel better now ? You sound like you need some help. Help we cannot give you. If posters are putting you down then thats an individual problem you can address with them or just decide that you don't want to come here anymore. I don't advise that but you seem to loathe this place. So do whats best for you. Did you bother to read the hundreds of other posts and in there somewhere a lightbulb goes off and you get some clarity ?? I don't have any answers for someone who has a closed mind with strong opinions on how he was treated here. I try to honestly help. Sometimes the posts are funny and outrageous. If you approach your life without an open mind then its definately going to be more difficult for you to accept ANY kind of outside help. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted July 8, 2006 Share Posted July 8, 2006 Hermit crabs make great pets! and alaskan king krabs make good eatin' Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted July 8, 2006 Share Posted July 8, 2006 and alaskan king krabs make good eatin' LOL ! I have a stuffed Gorilla and he doesn't eat much food or make alot of noise,... Link to post Share on other sites
Author john1776 Posted July 9, 2006 Author Share Posted July 9, 2006 Hello ?? You decide to post here and its none of our businesss ? If you do not want it to be our business why do you post here ? Did someone force you to sit here and type these letters ? No ,we are not God. We are members. We post to help. If you want Gods help then ask Him. I can promise you one thing. I will not respond or care anymore about your posts. Feel better now ? You sound like you need some help. Help we cannot give you. If posters are putting you down then thats an individual problem you can address with them or just decide that you don't want to come here anymore. I don't advise that but you seem to loathe this place. So do whats best for you. Did you bother to read the hundreds of other posts and in there somewhere a lightbulb goes off and you get some clarity ?? I don't have any answers for someone who has a closed mind with strong opinions on how he was treated here. I try to honestly help. Sometimes the posts are funny and outrageous. If you approach your life without an open mind then its definately going to be more difficult for you to accept ANY kind of outside help. I don't think you cared before so I don't see it as any loss that you refuse to post on my threads from here on out. There's actually 2 or 3 members that I trust and you are not one of them. At least we're both happy. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 I don't think you cared before so I don't see it as any loss that you refuse to post on my threads from here on out. There's actually 2 or 3 members that I trust and you are not one of them. At least we're both happy. Okay, I won't care then. Whatever makes you the happiest Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 John, I see you more clearly now and do understand where you're coming from. You discovered signs that point out that your girlfriend was cheating. Perhaps she wasn't, but the fact is - you don't trust her. Whether it's her who didn't appear innocent enough or you who have issues, it doesn't matter; you can't be with a person you don't trust. You will trust a girl when you find one who will be completely trustworthy in your opinion. You think you're not good enough for her and you're probably right. We (people) have this magnificent sixth sense to feel how others respond to our personality. However, you do seem to be afraid of getting close to anyone for the fear of being hurt. I don't know what happened to you in the past. You might share your childhood experiences with us if you wish to (did your mom and dad love you, give you affection and attention, did they fight, divorce...?). Of course, no one here will pressure you to share any information you're not comfortable with. You also sound pretty young to me. I think you should open up your heart and not be afraid of the possible pain. Be tougher and stronger! Make yourself be! Having a broken heart is not worse than being homeless. Have you ever been homeless? I've never been either of it, but I've been dumped and as much as it was hard (with two babies and no job or friends), my emotional pain is a relative thing - it depends on how much space I give it. People are replaceable (not parents and children, but everyone else - yes). There is no college that teaches you to be strong, to move on, to get past your fears and insecurities, to cure your pain, and be happy. But that's the main "education" we need. We need to wash our brains about how life can be beautiful. We should take advantage of the good things in life to feel good and pass quickly by the bad things without looking at them or turning around. Courage is the most valuable trait a person can have. Everything that has been achieved in this world took courage and strength, from building the planet to surviving through wars and diseases, from giving birth to children to facing death... A man with no courage is an unhappy man. Sometimes we need to change things on the outside, sometimes it's only on the inside. Link to post Share on other sites
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