Guest Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 I've been talking to a girl for about 3 mo. mostly by e-mail. Usually, no less than 3-4 exchanges per week. Last two weeks, however, they got suddenly and drastically less frequent. It has been over a week since last contact. Nothing has happened--no arguments, disagreements, no anything...I called and left a message a week ago and after not hearing anything for a couple days I sent an e-mail (just a regular old e-mail like I always send). I want to call just to make sure she is ok, but I don't want to be a bother. It is very uncharacteristic of her to go so long without responding. ONE THING that did happen right around the time the contact diminished was she dumped her bf. I'm hoping she is just taking time to get over him. Does that seem like a possibility to you? I am getting really paranoid, but I know I haven't done anything wrong. Input? This is really killing me but I want to play it cool and I don't want to be pushy so she can have her time and space. It was about a 10 mo. relationship she just ended so I know that is never easy...but how long should I wait before trying to call or e-mail again? Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 When you say you have been talking to this girl... is this someone you are interested in? Where did you meet her? Did you know she had a bf when you first started talking to her? Could the breakup possibly be because he found out she was talking to you? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 When you say you have been talking to this girl... is this someone you are interested in? Where did you meet her? Did you know she had a bf when you first started talking to her? Could the breakup possibly be because he found out she was talking to you?I am very interested, at the least in being good friends and possibly more. She actually initiated the contact and we met in college. No, I didn't know she had a bf and from what she has said, which is very little, it was on and off. He is apparently a loser that she really cares about but sees that he is not changing. I'm not the cause of the break up, she did that because of his actions. But she did say she really cares about him so I'm guessing it's been hard for her. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 Well let me tell you, just because she said they were on and off doesn't necessarily mean its true. I can remember times when I felt I was about to break up with someone and made myself seem a little more available then I was. Perhaps she had every intention of breaking up with her bf but he didnt' know that. There are alot of possibilities here. Unfortunately, I don't know the whole story so I can't give you a direct answer. It seems you have made several attempts to contact her. I'm sure she knows you want to talk to her. If it were me, I'd leave it at that. I don't want to tell you what I think you should do because again, I don't know the complete story but somehow something keeps telling me the bf might have found out she was talking to someone else, and maybe somehow convinced her to give the relationship another try. That is the only thing that keeps coming to mind. And that is of course a complete assumption. Maybe someone else can offer another possibility. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 Well let me tell you, just because she said they were on and off doesn't necessarily mean its true. I can remember times when I felt I was about to break up with someone and made myself seem a little more available then I was. Perhaps she had every intention of breaking up with her bf but he didnt' know that. There are alot of possibilities here. Unfortunately, I don't know the whole story so I can't give you a direct answer. It seems you have made several attempts to contact her. I'm sure she knows you want to talk to her. If it were me, I'd leave it at that. I don't want to tell you what I think you should do because again, I don't know the complete story but somehow something keeps telling me the bf might have found out she was talking to someone else, and maybe somehow convinced her to give the relationship another try. That is the only thing that keeps coming to mind. And that is of course a complete assumption. Maybe someone else can offer another possibility.hmmm...i never really thought of it that way. I don't think that is the case because I don't think we are at a romantic stage in the relationship...so I don't think I would be seen as a threat. We're really just getting to know each other. I'd be surprised if he didn't try to get her back. She is a terrific girl. Maybe she is preoccupied with that whole situation at the moment? As long as it isn't me, I can deal with it. She doesn't seem flighty so I can't imagine that I've done anything wrong, but I'm sure you can understand my paranoia. Link to post Share on other sites
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