Guest Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 Is there a certain age where it becomes weird to still have never been in a relationship? I am a High School graduate and almost 18 yrs old and I've never had a girlfriend. In High School you always overhear people talking and everything, and it seems like there is a very limited amount of people who haven't dated by the time they have graduated. I guess what I am trying to get at is... Is there a certain age where it is considered abnormal for someone to still not have gone on a date? Yeah.... you can see why I'm on the Self-Improvement sub-forum, lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 Is there a certain age where it becomes weird to still have never been in a relationship? Hmm... I would say 65 is pushing it a little. Quite whinin' and count yourself smarter then the rest your age!! People get involved waaaaaay too younge these days. I did as well. Hell, I was engaged at 17!!! Needless to say that didn't work out as planned, and thank the Heavenly Father it didn't!! High school is for crushes, sports, driver's license, art, sleeping in, part time jobs... there is plenty of time for relationships. I am 22 and I am in my second relationship ever. Most women my age I know have had like 10 or more, and I'm thinking "Oh my, how have they not lost all their hair from the stress??" Your answer is no. There is no certain age, don't let peer pressure tell you that you must have someone hanging off your arm to be "normal". There is no "normal" anyways. Be who you are. When the time is right and you feel comfortable with yourself and the situation, you will discover the joys and tears of a relationship. Don't push it, once you enter into one you will wish you spent more time doing things in your single life. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 I think about 45. Seriously, there's no 'abnormal' when it comes to this. Frankly, I think people should wait until they're at least 18 to start dating and probably later. Youthful relationships don't last 99.99% of the time so why go through a bunch of breakups while you're going through puberty and transitioning from high school to college? Who needs that many hassles in their life simultaneously? Be thankful you've thus far avoided the mess. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 I think about 45. Seriously, there's no 'abnormal' when it comes to this. Frankly, I think people should wait until they're at least 18 to start dating and probably later. Youthful relationships don't last 99.99% of the time so why go through a bunch of breakups while you're going through puberty and transitioning from high school to college? Who needs that many hassles in their life simultaneously? Be thankful you've thus far avoided the mess. Wow OC, I think we are finally in agreeance on something!! Somebody bust out the champagne!! Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 Well, we might be in agreeMENT about something... :p Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 Well, we might be in agreeMENT about something... :p Oh no... here we go with the spelling issue!! Should have known this would have been short lived! Hey, I just looked agreeance up... I spelled and used it correctly!! Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 Is there a certain age where it becomes weird to still have never been in a relationship? I am a High School graduate and almost 18 yrs old and I've never had a girlfriend. In High School you always overhear people talking and everything, and it seems like there is a very limited amount of people who haven't dated by the time they have graduated. I guess what I am trying to get at is... Is there a certain age where it is considered abnormal for someone to still not have gone on a date? Yeah.... you can see why I'm on the Self-Improvement sub-forum, lol. Don't feel bad. Honestly, I never had a GF through highschool. Some people just have no desire to ever be in a relationship and I totally respect that. Its the judgemental type that will think and call you abnormal for not having a relationship at a certain age. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 Hey' date=' I just looked agreeance up... I spelled and used it correctly!![/quote'] Haha... well, we all knew what you meant, and that's all that matters to me. But agreeance is not a real word! Back to the thread. I agree with everyone here - don't sweat it... you'll have less "baggage" when you meet that someone special. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 Haha... well, we all knew what you meant, and that's all that matters to me. But agreeance is not a real word! Main Entry: agreeancePart of Speech: nounDefinition: the act of agreeingExample: Usage of the site constitutes agreeance with these terms.Usage: considered obsolete and a bastardization of `agreement' Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 Go ahead and bastardise the English language if you want, but... it's still not a word. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 It discomfrazzelates me when people make up words Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 It's not made up silly, its slang. It's even on Dictionary.com. I knew I didn't make it up because I've heard it several times. It's better I use a word that is "usable" instead of talking like this... Eye thank u shud jus get a gf so u dont fill like u arnt normal cuz than mayB u wud fill normal... Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 Actually- agreeance once was a word. It is considered to be an "unword" now. In other words, people are familiar with the intended meaning, but you won't find it in the dictionary. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 It's more that English has gone right to hell. But guys who haven't dated at 18 won't. Link to post Share on other sites
--- Posted July 8, 2006 Share Posted July 8, 2006 I'm 17 and i've never been in a relationship... sure, there are times where i feel left behind when i think about my friends and the relationships they've had. But i realised that there is no need for a relationship right now, it might be good practice for future relationships when you've matured a lot more, but its nothing you desparately need. Though if you're in your 40s and you still haven't been in a relationship, then you're in trouble. Link to post Share on other sites
HeyYouGuys Posted July 10, 2006 Share Posted July 10, 2006 One of my boyfriends at college didn't have a girlfriend until he was 20. He was a perfectly normal guy, nice-looking and all that. It just happened that that's the age it happened at. Don't worry so much. You're really young and still learning about life. There's plenty of time for relationships. I think too many people get into 'relationships' nowadays just to be in one, not because they're really all that into the person. By the way, I don't call those relationships. I call them 'arrangements of mutual convenience'. LOL!!!! It will happen in it's own time. Not worth worrying about. You're perfectly normal! Link to post Share on other sites
Walk Posted July 10, 2006 Share Posted July 10, 2006 I didn't get into a relationship until I was 21. Wish I'd waited even longer. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted July 10, 2006 Share Posted July 10, 2006 Depends, on what is meant. I entered into different parts of relationships at different ages and some are deeper than others. Childhood sweetie @ 13 (almost married her) 1st real LTR @ 18 ONS & 1st REAL GOOD BJ @ 21 (her BJ technique is the one to beat ) Marital material LTR @ 25, 28, and 30. Still good ole' JB on my end. Link to post Share on other sites
Heavenseventeen Posted July 19, 2006 Share Posted July 19, 2006 Thanks everybody. I'm 17 and I've never had a boyfriend either. I felt bad, especially when I asked a boy and he wasn't interested because I'm fat. But it was a blessing in disguise. Now I'm losing weight and will definitely have more confidence. I bet he wasn't expecting me to keep on like he didn't mean diddly squat. Ha! Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted July 19, 2006 Share Posted July 19, 2006 I was 20 when I met my first boyfriend. For the most part, I don't think I would have survived the whole high school dating thing because even while I had crushes on some of my classmates, it would have been like dating a brother or something (I grew up in a small town). When I did start dating, I already had 2 years of college under my belt, the guy in question was older, and best of all, he wasn't from my hometown, so I didn't feel strange when we got involved. don't fret not dating at a young age – it'll happen when the time is right for YOU. Meanwhile, enjoy yourself pursuing pleasures you want to pursue. Link to post Share on other sites
crazy_grl Posted July 19, 2006 Share Posted July 19, 2006 Don't worry about it. I had 2 boyfriends when I was in high school, but I don't think I was really grown up enough to actually have a relationship. I'm 24 now, and I think I'm just about getting there. There's a lot more to get out of life than dating. Enjoy the single life while you can, and don't let anybody make you feel bad because you haven't had a gf yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 Is there a certain age where it becomes weird to still have never been in a relationship? I am a High School graduate and almost 18 yrs old and I've never had a girlfriend. In High School you always overhear people talking and everything, and it seems like there is a very limited amount of people who haven't dated by the time they have graduated. I guess what I am trying to get at is... Is there a certain age where it is considered abnormal for someone to still not have gone on a date? Yeah.... you can see why I'm on the Self-Improvement sub-forum, lol. I'm 25, and I've never been in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
trebon Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 I have only had one relationship, I was 15 and it literally was a fluke. A txt from a stranger from nowhere but it lasted until last month (5 and a bit years) without that I wouldnt have had anyone either and Im kinda scared thts my lot! I thought I had been clever and beaten the young romance thing as we were both about to move in together with proper jobs and everything and it fell through - I think it takes a lot of maturity to maintain a meaningful relationship. That could take until you are almost 30 before anything clicks but still - if you get to about 45 somethings gone wrong. So there's plently of time yet! Link to post Share on other sites
forsythe Posted July 24, 2006 Share Posted July 24, 2006 Hi, I got into a relationshiop much younger when i was probabl;y... umm... actuallyi was 18 myself i think!! ok... one before that too. basically i've had about two relationships before and they both sucked cos it was all so not right... being physical and sopending money and wasting time.. and the relationship wern't genuine either. all about "being in a relationship": rather than having a meaningful relationship. now i'm 22 and been dating for like... 18 - 20 months. it's great cos i think differently now... i could say i think better now than i did when i was like 16 or 18. anyway... i dont know where the heck i've gotten with this reply. my god i'm not even thinking. i gotta get back to work! take care... but hey when you do fall in love and it just happens without you making it happen... it's the best. it's better than any relationship you would "make" happen. you know... it should be in the natural order of things... or whatever... man!! whats with me! Link to post Share on other sites
Sally00 Posted July 24, 2006 Share Posted July 24, 2006 Uh, I have no earthly idea. I had my first "boyfriend" when I was 14. The furthest we went was holding hands though lol. We were too young to know anything. I didn't have my first real boyfriend till I was 18. Link to post Share on other sites
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