Eddie 510 Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 ive been with my girl friend for 6 months. recently her father (who is a pastor) found out we were having sex. he told us not to see each other. but we still had feelings for each other so we kept talking and going out. jus a week ago i introduced my friend to her at a volleyball game and i thought it was kool. he liked her sister and wanted to talk to my girl about hooking it up. her sister rejected him and my girl started talking to him as friends. now keep in mind that were a couple and love each other but we cant talk face to face or have a completly physical relationship. basically i jus found out she was talking bout leaving me and jus really bad things bout me and said she loved him and wanted to be with him no matter wut happens (to him). it hurt me so much that i was at a party and cried infront of everyone. cuz they kissed and i found out (didn’t see it). it really hurt but i love this girl and want to give her another chance. should i? i havnt ate a single meal in 5 days,i cant sleep i only get 2 to 3 hours a night. im stressed and depressed jus thinking bout it. she says that it was a mistake and shell never do it again she promises but she said that when we first got together. this is the first time she cheated on me ever. alott of people say its cuz shes young and confused and jus wants sumone to be with and lean on cuz we cant be intament. and since we cant physically have a realtionship at this time thats why this happend. i really want to be with her but dont want to get hurt again. she said she wont hurt me no more but im not sure if i can belive it. i am willing to trust her tho and give a second chance. shes 14 and im 16. am i waisting my time or should i try again? i need help cuz it comes to the point that i dont want to live without her. not suicidal but i just stay in my room crying, not eating, throwing up. and wanting to hurt myself. she said she thought i didnt care bout her but i do. i bought her a cell phone and pay for the bill and she would use that fone to contact my so called friend. but now she wants me to be with her and promises to be faithfull. i really love this girl id do anything for her but im confused and not thinking straight. shes not a bad person and sounded really sincere bout how she loves me and is really really sorry for wut happend and how it wont happen again. i belive her but theres still that doubt. i really love her tho. should i give it a go or not? Link to post Share on other sites
Violet87 Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 Okay, I hope this doesn't sound confusing. On one hand, I think cheating is wrong and there's no excuse for it. She needs to make up her mind who she wants to be with. On the other hand, I think you both are too young to be in any sort of serious relationship (let along a physical one). Give yourself some time to heal. Whether you take her back is up to you. It will take work and effort for her to make up for what she has done. I would advise if you do decide to take her back, let her earn your respect and trust again. Also, I would suggest that you two take things slow, in regards to the relationship. Your gf is just 14, which I consider pretty young. No need to rush things to such an intimate level. BTW, why are you paying her phone bill? Shouldn't she or her family do that or atleast pitch in, even if you did buy the cell phone for her? Link to post Share on other sites
tearful_soul22 Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 you're both young and many loves will come in and out of your lives. take it easy, enjoy your life, and don't get too stressed about things that are fixable. if you think she can be trusted, then stay with her and see how far the relationship can progress, but if you have your doubts then i suggest you try nc for awhile just to get a clear perspective of things. take care and i wish you the best! Link to post Share on other sites
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