what is Friendship With Benefit???--sorry i m naive

[bunnyear]

sounds like what he said to me/

 

a new type of friendship that one share good thing of life.

from food to fun and sex.

and after sex there is more as long as we intrigue each other.

 

 

sounds like a contract.

 

i thought we r f-buddy.

 

but he does talk about his life / his house/ his dog/ his wife/ his work/ his family.

and he said he likes me more than just sex.

 

we are in 2 countries.

meet up in each other's country and sex in hotel. out for fun.

 

i m confused.

is it F-buddy or mistress?

but I do not take any penny from him. (he didnot offer neither)

no one is taken.

[LucreziaBorgia]

1. i thought we r f-buddy.

 

2. but he does talk about his life / his house/ his dog/ his wife/ his work/ his family.

 

3. and he said he likes me more than just sex.

 

 

1. It sounds like that is what you are.

 

2. FWB do share details with each other. They are friends as well as lovers.

 

3. Of course he does. Unfortunately it falls short of commitment and monogamy. As long as commitment and monogamy are absent all it can really be is FWB. I guess technically you are a mistress too, since he is married.

[bunnyear]

is this a fair , same-level, equal contract?

 

who benefits who?

or we benefit each other?

 

as I want to be EQUAL.

 

I dont want his dinner or city break treat.

 

i d like to pay for dinner sometimes too .

and i can f*** him heartless and have friendly talk too. and playing the balance act.

[Violet87]

From what I know, Friends-with-benefits are usually friends who share a sexual relationship without promise and commitment. Usually it's never a good idea to become one because one person usually ends up more attached (hoping for something more eventually) then the other person.

 

You may not want to hear this and I hope I'm not being too judgemental, but personally, I don't think it's ever a good idea to get involved with a married man who has a family. Basically you're becoming his mistress (treat on the side) that he will use for free sex whenever he wants to because he can. You're the second fiddle, because at the end of the day he goes home to his wife and kids. From the looks of it, it seems as if he's benefiting more from this then you (although he has much to lose from this). He will tell you what you want to hear to keep stringing you along until he's done with you. Why would you want to get involved with a guy who won't put you first. Plus the guy sounds like a cheap a**h*** anyway, considering he's willing to cheat when he has so much going for him and so much to lose (wife, kids, and career).