Lost4Words Posted November 25, 2001 Share Posted November 25, 2001 As you can see from my Subject, my ex called me again! She used a friend of mine name and therfore my roomate gave it to me. Anyway, I didn't want to hang up on her (but I really wanted to) so we talked for a bit. She told me the job she has right now is so much fun and that she's glad she left her old job (That's where we met). She asked how I was and I told her that everything was cool (Truthfully, I'm still emotionally wrecked) and so forth. During our conversation there were some things that bothered me a bit. First thing is that she's still saying some of the nicknames she givin' me when we were together. That caught me off guard! Secondly she asked if I was seeing anyone. Of course I told her no immediately, then she giggled! Is it funny that I'm not with anyone right now? I assume she is because she's a very outgoing person and when we were together plenty of guys would hit on her even though they knew she was with me! Well we spoke for a few minutes more then I had to go! As soon as I hung up I felt so depressed! Why is she doing this to me! Is she trying to call just to make me feel depressed? I'm really starting to hate her. Someone please help?!?!?!?! Link to post Share on other sites
Laurynn Posted November 25, 2001 Share Posted November 25, 2001 You mentioned that you're starting to hate her..well, hate's a pretty strong feeling but go ahead and feel angry about these stunts she's pulling. Sometimes when a relationship ends and you're feeling very hurt and maybe not being very objective about things, getting "angry" is a good way of moving on with your life. If you're hurting and lonely and missing the person, you're in a real rut, and you're very vulnerable.....but if you can stop and try to see things from a different perspective, and take note of thing crappy things that person has done to you (or IS doing to you), that anger you feel can really help you in healing. You should be angry at her, I think. If she has half a brain in her head, she'd realize that you're still hurting and that her contacting you is only making things worse. The fact that she giggled when you answered her question about whether you were seeing anyone, I don't know what that was all about. Either she was giggling because she was embarassed that she asked it, or else she's just a catty little bee-itch. You have to find some way to stop talking to her...even if it means you don't take any calls from anyone for a week or two (so that she can't trick you into taking her call)....or, stand your ground and the next time she does, just tell her...."look, you wanted to end our relationship...it's over. I don't mean to be rude here, but I don't see the need to be buddy-buddy with each other, I don't need to hear all the details of your life, your day, your busy social calendar. All that stuff ended when our relationship ended so I wish you well, now I have to go. Please don't contact me again, take care." You have to try to be strong. See how rotten you feel now? That's only going to happen each time she pulls this crap. You're never going to feel better if you continue to talk with her. She's thoughtless, insensitive and immature. Time to take the bull by the horns. I know it's hard, believe me I know. I've been in your shoes many times, so have just about everyone at one point in their life (or many times). Get angry! Keep telling yourself that you don't deserve her crap/games.....be tough, put yourself first. Hang in there, time does heal. Laurynn Link to post Share on other sites
sparkle Posted November 25, 2001 Share Posted November 25, 2001 I totally agree with Laurynn. Follow her advice. Link to post Share on other sites
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