Lost4Words Posted November 25, 2001 Share Posted November 25, 2001 Well, shortly after I read your response Laurynn, my ex called once again! It was just after 3:00 in the morning when the phone rang. It startled me because who would call this early in the morning? I thought it was a crank caller so I picked it up. It was her of course. I asked her why she was calling me so late and she said she wanted to talk. But not talk about our relationship but just talk. I told her I was very tired and that I had to work in the morning! She said that was fine but before I say goodbye, I took your advice (Laurynn) and asked if she did not call me anymore. I told her that her calling me will only prolong the hurt and sadness that I am still feeling and trying to be friends is unacceptable at the moment! I also wished her well with her future and so forth but before I could finish my sentence, she started crying non-stop and then she hung up! Now why is she crying? I'm the one who is saying goodbye and she's the one crying! I'm the hurt one remember? I feel guilty doing that because I love her so much but on the other hand I had to be strong! What's wrong with this picture now?!?!?! I need help again! Link to post Share on other sites
dora Posted November 25, 2001 Share Posted November 25, 2001 Was she drunk-dialing? Just curious... Well, shortly after I read your response Laurynn, my ex called once again! It was just after 3:00 in the morning when the phone rang. It startled me because who would call this early in the morning? I thought it was a crank caller so I picked it up. It was her of course. I asked her why she was calling me so late and she said she wanted to talk. But not talk about our relationship but just talk. I told her I was very tired and that I had to work in the morning! She said that was fine but before I say goodbye, I took your advice (Laurynn) and asked if she did not call me anymore. I told her that her calling me will only prolong the hurt and sadness that I am still feeling and trying to be friends is unacceptable at the moment! I also wished her well with her future and so forth but before I could finish my sentence, she started crying non-stop and then she hung up! Now why is she crying? I'm the one who is saying goodbye and she's the one crying! I'm the hurt one remember? I feel guilty doing that because I love her so much but on the other hand I had to be strong! What's wrong with this picture now?!?!?! I need help again! Link to post Share on other sites
Laurynn Posted November 25, 2001 Share Posted November 25, 2001 Yeah, as Dora suggested, it's possible she was drunk when she called (or had been out drinking previously)...maybe she was just having a moment of weakness......and that could have explained why she started to cry. People are usually more emotional after drinking (well, lots are, some are just plain mean). You did the right thing. Either she wants to get back with you, misses you and realizes she shouldn't have broken up with you and doesn't know how to admit she 'screwed up' by ending things...... Or she still cares for you as a friend and is so naive about relationships that she doesn't see anything wrong with calling you up all the time. I guess you have 2 choices here. Call her up, tell her you'd like to meet face to face to talk (not over the phone). If she agrees, then ask her what's up......is there a deeper reason why she's been calling so much lately.....is she having second thoughts about wanting to get back together but just doesn't know how to go about saying it. Encourage her to be completely honest.....with herself, and you. If she makes it clear she just wants to be friends, then tough titty said the kitty, for her. For now, you two should just not have any contact because it's really impossible to 'be friends' when one person still loves the other. OR...you could just put this all behind you and stand your ground. You've told her how you feel, you've told her not to contact you again, surely she must know you're hurting...and the ball is in her court. How long did the 2 of you date? What were the reasons for her breaking up? What ages are you both again? Just one word of caution: sometimes when people break up with you, even though they don't want to be in a relationship, they've grown so 'used to' you being around that they really do miss you.....they miss the companionship....you're like an old shoe, very familiar and comfortable...and they don't want to give that up. BUT, for the person who didn't want to break up, maintaining a friendship (at least for the first couple of months) is far too hard...because every time they see/talk to that person, they miss them even more....and it stirs up the hurt each time..sort of like pouring salt on a wound. So give us a little more info if you can L Link to post Share on other sites
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