Hiding her purse

[JadeStar]

OMG...NOOOO! I wanted to know what was in the purse!

 

 

And yes you're right you do need to look at the bigger picture and get to the bottom of why she does it. Even if its something she has always done, like you say she has told you, theres still a reason for her doing it.

 

 

 

 

Jade

[Mz. Pixie]

Gee, of course she's going to say that. You need to do some snooping. It's wierd.

[blind_otter]

I am a purse hider, too. If I'm in public I leave my purse in the car and carry my wallet in a dude-like manner.

 

If you've had people close to you steal from you, or if you grew up without any expectation of privacy, you get freakish about those sorts of things.

[most]

That would be my guess too....she is hiding something.

[a4a]

I am a purse hider, too.

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Hi my name is A4A I am a purse hider. I started hiding my purse when I was about 13. All my friends were hiding their purses, I know it was wrong but I wanted to fit in. Then I started to like it more and more. I have quit hiding my purse, this is my third year I have been clean.

 

Really tho OP...... she is hiding something in that dang purse..... even the people who admit they are purse hiders gave a reason. Not just :because I have always done it.

 

I don't own a purse so no clue about hiding one.

[Tim'sAngel]

I am a purse hider, too. If I'm in public I leave my purse in the car and carry my wallet in a dude-like manner.

 

If you've had people close to you steal from you, or if you grew up without any expectation of privacy, you get freakish about those sorts of things.

 

 

I'm the same way. I bought a clutch that is feminine and holds all my cash and cards and even some lip gloss!! I take that everywhere with me, and if I want to bring in a purse I can just slip in in there and it serves as a wallet.

[Walk]

If you've had people close to you steal from you, or if you grew up without any expectation of privacy, you get freakish about those sorts of things.

 

You have answered my unending question as to why I am so paranoid about people snooping through my stuff! It seemed so stupid to me, to hide stuff when I wasn't doing a dang thing wrong. There's not even anything juicy, or worth finding, but I still either keep my laptop under constant vigilance, or booby trap my journal so I know if someone's been in it.

 

I had no expectation of privacy for 29 years.

 

Thank you. I actually feel kind of relieved now.

[blind_otter]

You have answered my unending question as to why I am so paranoid about people snooping through my stuff! It seemed so stupid to me, to hide stuff when I wasn't doing a dang thing wrong. There's not even anything juicy, or worth finding, but I still either keep my laptop under constant vigilance, or booby trap my journal so I know if someone's been in it.

 

I had no expectation of privacy for 29 years.

 

Thank you. I actually feel kind of relieved now.

 

I'm glad to be of service, my darling walk.

[Guest]

She is hiding something from you. Don't be afraid to confront her more on the topic because you may be afraid of the answers she has. Point out to her everytime she does it and press for answers each time.

[Walk]

She is hiding something from you. Don't be afraid to confront her more on the topic because you may be afraid of the answers she has. Point out to her everytime she does it and press for answers each time.

Why?

 

What will that create except a more hostile environment?

[jobo777]

She told me that I am free to look inside her purse anytime. She has always done this because of "past" experiences and she is a "VERY" cautious person. She said that she ia also a "private" person. I said that I have nothing to hide from her, and she agreed that she has nothing to hide from me either. I have noticed her leaving her purse around more so I won't "wonder" what is in it. (Upon looking in her purse, there was nothing of interest. I think I'm more confused now trying to figure out why women carry puses if nothing is in them of use.) ha

 

XOXO

[JackJack]

Glad you finally got to the bottom of it. However, if this is something she has always done becasue of past experiences you might want to offer her to get some counseling for it. I can understand why she may do it, especailly if she had past expierences where others betrayed her trust. But even though its understandable doesn't mean its really a helathy thing for her to do. Even though there is nothing in her purse she doesn't want you to see, the whole point of her carrying it around is that fact that the purse represents some bad things that happened before. Just ask her if shes willing to talk with someone on the matter.

[blind_otter]

offer her to get some counseling for it.

 

even though its understandable doesn't mean its really a helathy thing for her to do.

 

Just ask her if shes willing to talk with someone on the matter.

 

Unless the purse hiding behavior is affecting her quality of life, there's no reason to get counseling.

 

Not every idiosynchrasy needs to be smoothed out into someone else's image of normality.

 

I'm just saying.

[JackJack]

Unless the purse hiding behavior is affecting her quality of life, there's no reason to get counseling.

 

Not every idiosynchrasy needs to be smoothed out into someone else's image of normality.

 

I'm just saying.

 

 

I understand and I agree. However, I was just saying, that if she carries it around becasue of her past experiences, whatever they may be, betrayal etc, then perhaps if whatever happened was delt with or laid to rest, she wouldn't feel the need to carry her purse around or hide it. But you're right, as long as its not causing a major problem in their relationship, then its probably ok.