Intelligent guys successful at NC. Application of sophisticated strategies

[Guest7]

I need feedback from guys whose ex wants to re-establish contact after a period of NC, or who have already successfully re-established contact/relationship.

 

Girls could also comment if they were the dumpers (symmetrically .

 

My questions are:

 

- How long did the NC last?

- Were you behaving like a desperate before the begin of NC?

- Was she jealous? If yes, why?

- Did you have sex/anything close to sex with other girls during the NC that she knows about/suspects?

- Did she start dating another guy soon after the begin of NC? Do you (honestly) think he was better looking than you, but much less valuable non-physically?

- Was your relationship a long-distance one?

- Any other important details?

 

Let's compare, analyze and learn the best way of dealing with our problems now.

 

MSN:

Any intelligent, (over)emotional guys want to discuss the strategies and experiences in very detailed details? Leave your msn screennames, I will appreciate this.

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[Pantero]

 

My questions are:

 

- How long did the NC last?

- Were you behaving like a desperate before the begin of NC?

- Was she jealous? If yes, why?

- Did you have sex/anything close to sex with other girls during the NC that she knows about/suspects?

- Did she start dating another guy soon after the begin of NC? Do you (honestly) think he was better looking than you, but much less valuable non-physically?

- Was your relationship a long-distance one?

- Any other important details?

 

1. Lasted for about 3.5 to 4 months.

 

2. No, I took it like a man. I did not let her know anything about how I felt or how I was doing a day after the break-up. No emails, phone calls, texts, nothing. Not even any mass emails or what have you. Avoided her friends and all the places she hangs out. Frankly, it was kind of a shock since it seemingly came out of nowhere. Slowly, however, it dawns on most of the people who are dumped that their ex stopped having feelings weeks before they initiated the break.

 

3. I don't think she was jealous. I honestly don't know wtf her deal was/is.

 

4. I haven't been on a date or seen anyone since the break (which was 4 months ago).

 

5. Here's my situation. My friends are all dating HER friends. So naturally, she hears things about me through them as I hear things about her through them. Most of the things I hear about her, I hear indirectly since I don't ask about her at all. I did hear she went on a date with some dude after we broke up (I don't know how soon). From what I hear, it didn't work out and she's still single. I have no idea who he is or what he looks like, and I'm making a conscious effort to not find out or really give a s***.

 

6. We lived 10 mins. away from each other.

 

7. She still emails me - mostly includes me on mass emails. She emailed me directly once to congradulate me on graduating from the police academy. She, of course, knew about that through the grapevine.

 

I'm just moving on with my life and my career at this point. So whatever. If I meet someone then I meet someone. If not, then oh well.

[Diver012]

- How long did the NC last?

- Were you behaving like a desperate before the begin of NC?

- Was she jealous? If yes, why?

- Did you have sex/anything close to sex with other girls during the NC that she knows about/suspects?

- Did she start dating another guy soon after the begin of NC? Do you (honestly) think he was better looking than you, but much less valuable non-physically?

- Was your relationship a long-distance one?

- Any other important details?

 

 

1. Still going on. Not planning on re-establishing contact.

2. No. I just wanted closure. Never got it. It was at that point I went NC

3. No she was not jealous that I knew of

4. No, not seeing anyone at the moment.

5. Dont really care who shes seeing, what he looks like, or anything else related to her personal life.

6. No

7. I work with this woman, when I do see her I look past her completely. its the only solution that I can think of to keep true NC.

[numsey]

1. About 1 month on my part (she would still call me and text message me)

 

2. No, pretty much accepted the situation the next day.

 

3. Yes, actually it drove her insane.

 

4. I didn't but she thinks that I did. One our mutual friends told her that I went party/clubbing evry night. Which I did.

 

5. Yes she did. Dont really judge other dudes but,...hell yea I looked better.

 

6. Nope, broke rule number 1. I wrok with her.

 

7. We are back together now and have been for about a month and a half now. So far everything has been going great but only time will tell.

[Lenny]

- How long did the NC last?

- Were you behaving like a desperate before the begin of NC?

- Was she jealous? If yes, why?

- Did you have sex/anything close to sex with other girls during the NC that she knows about/suspects?

- Did she start dating another guy soon after the begin of NC? Do you (honestly) think he was better looking than you, but much less valuable non-physically?

- Was your relationship a long-distance one?

- Any other important details?

 

1) Two days

2) Yeah, totally

3) During the relationship - a bit. I don't know about now.

4) No, but had it on mind and made some arrangements during the NC.

5) No, I don't think there's serious competition for me. But maybe.. If yes, he'd be better looking for sure, I am good looking myself.

 

She hasn't changed her status on myspace to single, though. She's deleted most of our pictures together, though.