Sally00 Posted July 12, 2006 Share Posted July 12, 2006 What's up with women and boobs? Is your self esteem tied to a pair of breasts? Does it make you feel more of a women to fill out your clothes or is it that you don't feel sexy without other men looking at you? I really want to know why people's self esteem is so tied to their physical appearance and not who they really are? I'm not trying to be argumentative but ladies please expound on this obsession for bigger and perkier boobs. I agree with everything you said. I have small boobs. Yeah, sometimes I wish it atleast LOOKED like I had SOME boobs... but in reality, I don't really care. Boobs are boobs. You don't see people going around saying "Hey.. I want a longer neck" or "I want longer eyelashes" or "I want my arm to look shorter." Sounds ridiculous huh? Cuz it is. Why the hell would you want more weight on your chest and having a greater chance of back pain?? And of course your boyfriend/husband would agree to a boob job. They're GUYS. (Ok, some guys are actually decent enough to tell you NOT to get implants because they love YOU for YOU.. and not your damn boobs. I'm lucky to have a boyfriend who likes my small boobs). People...they're just CLUMPS OF FAT ON YOUR CHEST. It actually sickens me to think people are into that... and aren't a lot of girls these days into being SKINNY? I'm so confused. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 You don't see people going around saying "Hey.. I want a longer neck" or "I want longer eyelashes" Don't know about longer necks, but long eyelashes are gorgeous on women and men. My mum taught me to always rub vaseline into my lashes at bedtime for a more lustrous and fluttery look. PS - thanks for the WB, Touche & BFR. Must try not to slip too much into bad old habits though... Link to post Share on other sites
MarnieGirl Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 Don't know about longer necks.. actually, there is a group of people who do in fact, utilize neck stretchers. they look like their necks are wrapped in metal coils. well, they are wrapped in metal coils. it's crazy looking, and they are way into it. i wish i could remember who they were. i was little, and it was in national geographic. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 actually, there is a group of people who do in fact, utilize neck stretchers. they look like their necks are wrapped in metal coils. well, they are wrapped in metal coils. it's crazy looking, and they are way into it. i wish i could remember who they were. i was little, and it was in national geographic. I've seen those pictures too. As to who they are, Google always has the answers... http://www.chiangmai-chiangrai.com/longneck_karen.html Link to post Share on other sites
scrybe74 Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 I'm sure you'll get a lot of advice on this so I'll stick to one issue. (I'm a guy BTW) Breast implants can look REALLY GREAT in clothes (cleavage anyone?), bikinis, lingerie, etc. But.... They don't really feel all that nice. Whenever I was with a girl with fake boobs...I was really excited to get to them. Once I got there....kinda....kinda was a let down. I'd take slightly sagging but real boobs over fakes anyday when it comes down to getting intimate. It's kind of a dillema...looks great...feels fake. Or looks ......real but feels awesome... Link to post Share on other sites
vi_pn Posted July 19, 2006 Share Posted July 19, 2006 I think they will improve my self image. I havent been the same since I had a Baby. I joined a gym a couple of weeks ago and having trouble making my self go. I worried that I am expecting surgery to fix everything and I dont have alot of money so i dont even know how I could feel that way. I need of source of reality and some motivation. Even if I get into shape on my own I still want the implants. I have no one supporting this surgery execpt for my husband. That makes it harder. I wouldn't suggest it....and I don't have big boobs. The question you need to ask yourself is why YOU really want breast implants, what's the honest reason? Because I'll tell ya what...getting any kind of plastic surgery is not going to fix the REAL problem...meaning it's all in your head With that said, you should first fix the problem on the inside(emotions/self-esteem issues). I believe getting plastic surgery(breast implants) is just a temporary "high" which you'll eventually come down from...then you're left with no money and probably even a worse self-image from before because it's not the real YOU. Also, would you want unwanted attention from guys? If your husband is happy just the way you are (which he should be!) then why put yourself through the pain of getting surgery? And actually he shouldn't even be a factor in this matter, except that it's considered major surgery and complications can occur. Take it from me....I've always wanted breast implants, but considering my body type/shape it would look awkard for me to have big boobs. Being 5'8" 115 lbs and big boobs wouldn't look right, it wouldn't look natural. Just look at runway models (besides victoria's secret models) they are all rail thin with little to no boobs, why? Because boobs are made up of primarily fat....so if they had big boobs, they wouldn't be able to walk down the runway without looking hunched over right? We're mostly born with balanced porportions. I understand you have a husband, but if you're at all worried about what others think, well I got news for ya....all the guys I have ever come across in my life time have never said anything negative about my boobs, you know why? Because I'm confident in who I am, and how I look, and guys pick up on that They love a confident woman no matter how big her boobs are. So please save yourself the time and money and invest it someone that can offer you help on your underlying issues. FYI-breast implants require routine maintanence..so to speak..and of course it's not cheap! Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted July 19, 2006 Share Posted July 19, 2006 exercise 4x a week and spend the money on books and clothes. screw the tacky implants. really, what could be more gauche? Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted July 19, 2006 Share Posted July 19, 2006 vi_pn, your'e 5'8 ,115? NICE! Don't touch that! Link to post Share on other sites
vi_pn Posted July 19, 2006 Share Posted July 19, 2006 vi_pn, your'e 5'8 ,115? NICE! Don't touch that! Thanks, and trust me I'm not! I certainly don't want to spend money on back surgery later on in life And plus I wasn't born to look like a bimbo lol Link to post Share on other sites
Heavenseventeen Posted July 19, 2006 Share Posted July 19, 2006 Yes, if it is what she wants, then we cannot stop her. The main thing that worries me is the fact that she says she only wants cup size C. Everytime I see this on TV, they end up going for bigger ones. And when they see the consultant, they end up adding their nose, hips, etc to the list. Plus afterwards they find something else to "fix"... Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted July 19, 2006 Share Posted July 19, 2006 One time I was out, this guy I was friendly with walked into the pub wearing a pair of plastic breasts. For the entire night, other men were trying to grab, borrow and steal them. Reading this thread has given me a flashback. I've got this mental snapshot of him flopped back in a seat like a rag doll, mopping the perspiration from his brow in a drunken fluster, then using his arms to protect his fake boobs from yet another "tit man". He was genuinely pissed off by that stage, and I wish I'd had a camera to record the event. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 23, 2006 Share Posted July 23, 2006 I had a baby and breast fed for 6 mo. During that time one breast was always bigger than the other, so after I stopped, I had stretch marks and flap jacks with one nipple hanging about 2 inches lower than the other. I am 5'5" and 120 pounds and in shape, so I did not have a weight problem during all this. I could no longer wear any shirts without a padded bra to hide this, and it was terrible finding a swimsuit that looked decent. My husband is a butt man, so he did not care what I did. I did not do it necessarily to improve self esteem, I just wanted to wear my pre-pregnancy clothes again. I looked at it like we wear makeup and color our hair to make ourselves more attractive, so why not go with modern medicine and do what makes us feel good. I had an implant in one and a lift and implant to the other. I went one size bigger just to fill the skin, they look great! They are not tight, they don't look like someone placed water balloons on my chest, and they do not rise out of my shirts. I think it is all in what you already have that makes the shape. You can go too big. Make sure you do plenty of research before picking a doctor. It has been a year now and I still have pain where I had the lift, and the scar is quite noticable, but no one see's it, and my husband does not mind. I don't regret it at all. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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