laRubiaBonita Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 Holy cow, I try to post and like 8 posts appeared since I pressed send! slow slow slow...... are you still using dial-up? Link to post Share on other sites
Chinook Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 Ahhh can't you hear us all chanting PULL IT PULL IT PULL IT..... from behind our keyboards..... get rid of the loser...... do it ...... do it now! Better yet just go Stealth NC....... don't give him the satisfaction of a call or chat Aaah no, the 'fade' isn't fair. Link to post Share on other sites
Chinook Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 LRB -- ha ha ha! NO BLOODY BROADBAND!!! You guys talk too much (and lord is it good to be back online ) Link to post Share on other sites
basscatcher Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 At least grab your kaa-hoonies and be a man and say "I don't feel a long connection with you and I don't want to see you anymore" to the gal and then go stealth-NC.....Shieeett.. At least she would know you didn't die or get abducted by aliens.... I couldn't handle someone disappearing on me. I can handle a rude break off or even a gentle one. But disappearing would drive me insain. I care to much about people even those I almost 'hate' to have them fall off the face of the earth.. Why can't men have any gutts to face women with the truth? Men are stronger and more respected if they are honest then to be cowards and just disappear or avoid the cut. By diappearing the woman (if she cared about you) would go through hell wondering if your ok..... Dang.. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 ahh..b_0 is the voice of reason. if there is a "talk" then it will just give him one more chance to hem and haw and then you'll both decide to stay together and then the whole cycle will start over. and you two have only been dating for a month?? WT*! how much can you invest in someone after 30 days? I agree with alpha agreeing with me. No really, no long talk explaining your reasons is really necessary. People know how they are and 90% of the time they already KNOW why you're breaking up with them. Especially if, like all the men I've dated (except for one, who just started cheating on me with my bestfriend when I was on vacation and left a note on my door) they are just acting like huge throbbing a**h***s in order to get you to do the dumping for them. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 OUCH..... . By diappearing the woman (if she cared about you) would go through hell wondering if your ok..... Dang.. sick: Well maybe that is the idea :lmao: I like it! (or did you mean diapering the woman? ) Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 Stealth NC Rocks! Link to post Share on other sites
Chinook Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 Aww now guys come on, the stealth NC and fade, whatever you wanna call it, it's crap. It pulls the rug. You might not give a crap but friends of mine have done it and ended up with a bunnyboiler on their hands... cos pooroldgirl goes into 'wtfdidido?' mode. Anyways, like B_O says, no explanation needed "it's over". That's all that is needed. Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 No really, no long talk explaining your reasons is really necessary. People know how they are and 90% of the time they already KNOW why you're breaking up with them. In this case it is definitely not necessary. They've "dated" a month and he mistreated her. She owes him no explanation, nor do I think she'd get any "closure". OP, If you want to tell him off, do it after he's contacted you wondering where you've been for the past few weeks. Link to post Share on other sites
basscatcher Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 Well maybe that is the idea :lmao: I like it! (or did you mean diapering the woman? ) No not diapering... Just speak the truth and bamn thats it. Why keep a person looking up and down the streets for you? Why keep someone hanging always wondering? Would you like it if someone did that to you? Abandoned women tend to become clingy women and distrustful women.. Why make more scars in society. I think its respectful thats all. If a man told me that he didn't feel or think we were a fit and disappeared I may not be happy that it didn't work but at least I will have peace of mind and closure. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 OUCH..... Damn dude. That would hurt. At least grab your kaa-hoonies and be a man and say "I don't feel a long connection with you and I don't want to see you anymore" to the gal and then go stealth-NC.....Shieeett.. At least she would know you didn't die or get abducted by aliens.... trust me PADA....she knows exactly why I split. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 You might not give a crap but friends of mine have done it and ended up with a bunnyboiler on their hands... cos pooroldgirl goes into 'wtfdidido?' mode. . A bunnyboiler will be a bunnyboiler regardless of the mode of break up. I think this guy will laugh in her face just to demean her more if she attempts to explain her reasons to not see him any longer...... my bet is he attempts to sucker her in and make her feel like the ass....... Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 If a man told me that he didn't feel or think we were a fit and disappeared I may not be happy that it didn't work but at least I will have peace of mind and closure. Yeah but if they treated you like crap or were nuts you do not owe them any respect or peace of mind. I have cleaned out an entire 3 story house of furnishing while an ex was at work......no note....no call......nada...... Link to post Share on other sites
basscatcher Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 trust me PADA....she knows exactly why I split. If she knows why and it was expected then thats different. But to just disappear on someone out of the blue and hit them upside the head is different. My mouth tastes better now... (cig too) Link to post Share on other sites
Author agnf666 Posted July 7, 2006 Author Share Posted July 7, 2006 You got your concensus... he's looking for a break-up. Lots of red flags here. Oh, also... if you do break up with him... he's likely to also be all "wounded soldier" too !!! ... and not to mention you'll obviously be the ex-from-hell-b!tch who had the nerve to dump him!! Drama drama drama, do you need this..? that is why I was going to try and make him be the one that does the breaking up, because he is an attention whore and I know exactly what is going to happen with all of this! Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 that is why I was going to try and make him be the one that does the breaking up, because he is an attention whore and I know exactly what is going to happen with all of this! Then your plan to confront him will not matter. If he treats you this badly after a month and disrespects you so, just don't call him anymore. Believe me, he's trying to hurt you. Chuck him up as a bad experience. Link to post Share on other sites
basscatcher Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 Yeah but if they treated you like crap or were nuts you do not owe them any respect or peace of mind. I have cleaned out an entire 3 story house of furnishing while an ex was at work......no note....no call......nada...... Im sure he knew from previous conversations and/or comments why then.. There was warning.. I dated a guy for a week and he just disappeared. Everything was great and then POOF.... GONE... He was the romancer and he was the one who disappeared. I was like WTH... ???? I still don't know if he died in a accident or what the heck. I still wonder to this day.. It's been over a year.. I wonder because he was sweet, kind, attentive, charming and bragged to my friends about me. Then Poof... I tried to find him to make sure he was ok and I couldn't... Even his phone was shut off so I don't know if he got into a car accident or what. It's weird and uncomfortable.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author agnf666 Posted July 7, 2006 Author Share Posted July 7, 2006 The stealth NC will not work, he will keep calling my a** until I answer the phone. I know it. So, it is just easier to just say, "Look I'm throwing in the towel here, I can't deal with this anymore!" and let that be all I say. Link to post Share on other sites
Chinook Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 that is why I was going to try and make him be the one that does the breaking up, because he is an attention whore and I know exactly what is going to happen with all of this! You know, even knowing that, I'd still have it over with and just dump him. Just say 'it's over' and don't explain. Don't get drawn into the drama. My only addition to the stealth no contact (or what we call 'fade' in the UK) is that I'd simply say it so that boundary is laid. He knows it's over. Once that's done, you walk. No explanation. No feeling sorry for him. No adding to his drama. No giving attention. Do it and run. Otherwise, if you wait for HIM to do it, before you know it 10 years will pass and you hate each other's guts Link to post Share on other sites
basscatcher Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 The stealth NC will not work, he will keep calling my a** until I answer the phone. I know it. So, it is just easier to just say, "Look I'm throwing in the towel here, I can't deal with this anymore!" and let that be all I say. Exactly. Then NC is deserved. He has an answer and knows... I'll bet he probably accepts it also.. (with some hesitation.) Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 Then you HAVE to tell him never to call or try and contact you in anyway......cause you never want to hear from him again. Link to post Share on other sites
Devrapunzel Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 Let him go IMMEDIATELY. It's only been a month - no long explanation needed here..avoid the drama. It will only thicken otherwise. What kind of start is this? I disagree with some on here that he actually wants to break up. Judging by his needy behavior, I don't think he does at all. Rather I think he is looking for the attention. If you've been mentioning it, he's leaving it up to you because he doesn't really want out. He likes the drama of you threatening it, then staying and making up. Either way, YOU have to do this. He will not. Link to post Share on other sites
Chinook Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 Here's how it goes then... You: It's over. Please don't contact me again. Him: blablabla... honey... blablabla... honey (tears maybe)... You: Goodbye. *click* Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 Here's how it goes then... You: It's over. Please don't contact me again. Him: blablabla... honey... blablabla... honey (tears maybe)... You: Goodbye. *click* Thumbs up Chinook! Link to post Share on other sites
Chinook Posted July 7, 2006 Share Posted July 7, 2006 Yeah, maybe I should remember that next time jerk-ex-guy starts his antics [rolleyes] Link to post Share on other sites
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