Never has this happened to me...

[Buttaflyy]

Yeah, maybe I should remember that next time jerk-ex-guy starts his antics [rolleyes]

 

We all should! When it's only been a few weeks it's pretty easy.

[agnf666]

Oh gheez... Talk about how this is going to be hard... He had a really bad day and I am going to add too it... I don't know what the hell to do!

[Devrapunzel]

He had a really bad day and I am going to add too it...

 

O.K. you're scaring me with that talk...sounds sort of enabling or something. Stop it. Did he care when you had a bad day getting into an accident? Just one example, I'm sure you can think of others. And it's only been a month!

[Chinook]

Oh gheez... Talk about how this is going to be hard... He had a really bad day and I am going to add too it... I don't know what the hell to do!

 

Yup, it's hard. Break-ups are. One of two things is happening here...

 

1. You're unconsciously making an excuse not to do it because it's hard (note, I didn't say intentionally) which would indicate that you're really not sure you want to do it.

 

2. His instincts are telling him that you're about to do this. He tells you he has had a bad day to make you feel sorry for him... because he's not sure you want to do it either. Meanwhile he may as well get a little attention for himself and have you falling all over him.

 

You're not responsible for his bad day.

[laRubiaBonita]

Oh gheez... Talk about how this is going to be hard... He had a really bad day and I am going to add too it... I don't know what the hell to do!

 

did he have a bad day cause he's an ass? a**h***s always Have bad days!

[agnf666]

Yup, it's hard. Break-ups are. One of two things is happening here...

 

1. You're unconsciously making an excuse not to do it because it's hard (note, I didn't say intentionally) which would indicate that you're really not sure you want to do it.

 

2. His instincts are telling him that you're about to do this. He tells you he has had a bad day to make you feel sorry for him... because he's not sure you want to do it either. Meanwhile he may as well get a little attention for himself and have you falling all over him.

 

You're not responsible for his bad day.

 

It's horrible because I wanna do it but I don't I don't know why thought. It is soo stressing. I was going for the thing earlier, stick it out maybe once he gets some of his drama a little better it will be better...

[Chinook]

It's horrible because I wanna do it but I don't I don't know why thought. It is soo stressing. I was going for the thing earlier, stick it out maybe once he gets some of his drama a little better it will be better...

 

You know... he's going to play you on that indecision. You need to think about YOU and what you want.

 

From the red flags you posted earlier and the fact that he isn't exactly falling all over himself (which at a month you'd think you still would be) then I'm sorry but I'd be on that hoss riding outta Dodge my lady.

 

Besides, I bet he had a marvellous day. If he knows you're gonna pull this, he's gonna want you feeling sorry for him.

[Devrapunzel]

If you stick it out until his "drama gets a little better", you may be sticking it out for 10-20 years. No offense here...just how I see it.

 

There is no best moment for a breakup. If you're so against it today, then do it tomorrow. Just don't make tomorrow the next day, then the next day, and so forth. Please remember it has only been a month! Most people are in honeymoon phase during month one. You deserve better than this.

[agnf666]

You know... he's going to play you on that indecision. You need to think about YOU and what you want.

 

From the red flags you posted earlier and the fact that he isn't exactly falling all over himself (which at a month you'd think you still would be) then I'm sorry but I'd be on that hoss riding outta Dodge my lady.

 

Besides, I bet he had a marvellous day. If he knows you're gonna pull this, he's gonna want you feeling sorry for him.

 

Well, he had to turn his car in today because he couldn't afford the payments. His rent went up like $400 and he left his keys in the car when he turned it in. So, in which he has had a pretty nasty day. haha

 

I know he is going to play me out on indecision I told him back before we dated that was one of my problems was my indecision. I have horrible problems with that.

[agnf666]

If you stick it out until his "drama gets a little better", you may be sticking it out for 10-20 years. No offense here...just how I see it.

 

There is no best moment for a breakup. If you're so against it today, then do it tomorrow. Just don't make tomorrow the next day, then the next day, and so forth. Please remember it has only been a month! Most people are in honeymoon phase during month one. You deserve better than this.

 

When I see him it is all honeymoon phase.. but on the phone and online is where it turns into a mess sometimes... maybe we are talking way too much or something.

[Chinook]

Oh hun, he so has your number. You're not responsible for anything that happened to him. Like Devra says, before you know it 10 years will have passed. This is the fork in the road... this is about what you want - not whether you owe him anything. If he'd treated me the way he's treated you in the first month, I'd be waaaay gone.

 

... and to his s*** day he gets to add to the list...

 

1. Car got turned in.

2. Rent went up.

3. B!tch-girlfriend dumped me.

 

Nothing there about WHY or what reason or HIS behaviour. From what I'm seeing, you're setting a pattern that's going to continue.

[Chinook]

When I see him it is all honeymoon phase.. but on the phone and online is where it turns into a mess sometimes... maybe we are talking way too much or something.

 

I never heard of any couple who had problems from talking too much. Yep, the media may suck (text can at times) so maybe that's where the issue is... but go back to your list and think about what you want.

 

I'm not going to try and convince you. But I do think you're setting yourself up for the Noble Doormat role.

[clandestinidad]

I dont think talking too much or spending too much time with someone would cause them to grow such major character flaws and red flags.

[alphamale]

Here's how it goes then...

 

You: It's over. Please don't contact me again.

 

Him: blablabla... honey... blablabla... honey (tears maybe)...

 

You: Goodbye. *click*

you need to add in the dropped call and subsequent re-dial

[Mary3]

The BEST 2 words you could ever say to him are : " Its Over ".

 

Let this game be DONE !

[Becoming]

Pull it! pull it pull it!

 

I'm sorry, but I see you standing back and wanting him to make your decisions for you just like he does you.

 

Decide already and follow through. You know what you want. You know what you need to do. This guy is all about him. And if you don't want your life to be that, you need out ASAP.

 

So you're a bad guy? Who the hell isn't? Get over the idea that you're not Ms Perfect according to some guy you don't like already and move on.

 

"It's over. Don't contact me again. Have a good life." NC/fade . . . .

[a4a]

I am betting that if this R continues he will start asking for $, soon ask you to move in with him, and once you get him back on his feet he is going to dump you like a hot potatoe.

 

I give it 14-18 months of him emotionally abusing you and neglecting you. Using you because you continue to feel sorry for him.

 

Don't you deserve better?

What do you owe this person?

Why the guilt?

 

Find a guy that has his shyte together and that can treat you decently and actually put forth some effort to make you happy.

 

Of course only you can decide what is best for you....... but I cannot help to think this R is not best for you...... that is the bottom line here.

 

It is not like you are married and he hit a rough patch.... the guy left the starting gate with you with less than desirable traits.... look at it for what it is.

[Chinook]

I'd have been lonnnnnnng gone. My hoss would be tired by now.

[Buttaflyy]

I am betting that if this R continues he will start asking for $, soon ask you to move in with him, and once you get him back on his feet he is going to dump you like a hot potatoe.

 

I give it 14-18 months of him emotionally abusing you and neglecting you. Using you because you continue to feel sorry for him.

 

Don't you deserve better?

What do you owe this person?

Why the guilt?

 

Find a guy that has his shyte together and that can treat you decently and actually put forth some effort to make you happy.

 

Of course only you can decide what is best for you....... but I cannot help to think this R is not best for you...... that is the bottom line here.

 

It is not like you are married and he hit a rough patch.... the guy left the starting gate with you with less than desirable traits.... look at it for what it is.

 

 

This is right on the money! (No pun intended) He will without a doubt start asking you to "help" him financially. I bet he's already mentioned this to you OP. Discussing all of his car troubles and financial difficulties.

 

In a months time, if he's done this, the answer to your problem (him) is staring you right in the face! Slam the door shut right in front of him.

[BeFree]

End it... he is a controlling cry baby.

 

Plus, breaking up with him will do wonders for your confidence!

 

Good luck

[agnf666]

Okay check this out. I just broke up with him, because I caught him trying to cheat on me. What I did was created another account online since he keep on saying he was single on there. So, I made this other profile up and messed around with it some. He responded way too well to it. Basically, putting out that he was single and everything. Now remember before reading below this was me under the other screen name when then I gave myself away and he started to make up more lies.

 

Here's a bit of the convo!

 

The bold type is him typing and the italics is me. The second red paragraph is him being all full of ****. He's cousin has never been around his house on that email. I know that for a fact. So, that there was another lie. Plus he told me he was getting off of work at 4:30. That was another lie as well. I know there must have been more then that to him. So god only knows how many other girls he has talked to. I'm so mad and upset right now. Wow. I just don't know anymore.

 

You know what we should do?

 

What?

 

if we talked on the phone, I know we just met and everything so you can block your number if you want and I can give you my, but I would love to get to know you better, but a lot if happening in my life or about to happen and I won't be able to get on the computer a lot anymore so yeah

 

but no pressure

 

yeah you can call me here at ***-***-****.. does that number ring a bell. So, your looking for a serious relationship huh! I only did this because your account said single. I wanted to see if you would really do this to me. Wow. Chris. I don't know what to say

 

and your on the floor right now.

 

I love that one too.

 

huh he is on the floor and this is his cousin who came to work to see him and he got busy and told me to **** around on the computer, that is why I wanted to have the person call me or I call them, cuz it is his account, cuz I was with him when he got the e-mail and I was like oh let me see if I can get that, but let me go get him and tell him his girl is trying to trap him, brb

 

oh yeah I by that one for a minute. That wasn't the tune you were playing a few minutes ago to me.

 

don't you lie to me chris .

 

I thought you loved me

 

******

 

That is when he called me and we had it out. Basically alot of **** this and that and then I was like **** you! That is it I'm done!

[clandestinidad]

Jeeez, what a liar! I'm so glad you're out of that relationship....it would have gone sooo many bad places.

 

You'll meet people a LOT better than him, who are honest and care about you. They ARE out there

[agnf666]

Jeeez, what a liar! I'm so glad you're out of that relationship....it would have gone sooo many bad places.

 

You'll meet people a LOT better than him, who are honest and care about you. They ARE out there

 

He just keeps on lying too. I talked to him the other day. He telling me that he is now a state trooper and stuff. You can not be a state trooper with out having 6 months of training. So, I don't know why he is lying about that. I could care less what the hell he does.

 

Now, he is all up with this 16 yr. girl that lives like 3 hours away. Well, I hope she can handle him and his lies. Tells her he loves her on her myspace today. That made me a little mad because obivously he just says that to every girl no matter what. He makes me sick!