Guest Posted July 10, 2006 Share Posted July 10, 2006 So it seems that my relationship has reached a kind of impass and I'm not sure what to do . . . My bf and I are both 26 and have been together for 4 years. I have always known that he would like to have a child in the future, and for the most part I have always been unsure that I will ever want kids. I don't think that I ever want to go through a pregnancy (many reasons) but have not ruled out adoption. While at the moment I feel for the most part that I would not want kids, I also feel like that I cannot say that with 100% conviction - who knows how I will feel 5, 10 years from now. This is something that has been on my mind a lot lately, and I really needed to discuss it with him to be sure of where he and I stand. It's basically yes, he absolutely wants a child one day and right now I say no but am not completely sure. Where the hell does this lead this relationship? Do we keep going in hopes that I will change my mind when I am finished with school and have a job? Or do we call it quits now - why take the risk of investing more time and energy into a relationship that could potentially end because of this disagreement? I know this is such a huge issue and that it is a deal breaker for many because there is no where to compromise when it comes to kids. I'm not sure how comfortable I feel with the idea of "taking it as we go" - how committed does that make us to each other when our future is uncertain? We also currently rent an apartment together, meaning that if we broke up we would be kind of financially screwed. I've never felt so confused and unsure - anyone else out there have this dilemma or know someone that did? HELP Link to post Share on other sites
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