moomies Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 Hi everyone! Im new here. Im just really confused and was hoping for some insight. Im not really sure where to start, but here goes. Five years ago I met and started dating a guy that i completely fell in love with. we dated about 2 years and have been broken up for 3. We have always kept in touch and have remained friends. About a year and a half ago I got married to a man that i had only known 11 months. we got engaged after 9 months. the problem is, i never stopped loving the first guy. i think about him all the time, and like i said we still talk on the phone and email each other. We have lunch together occasionally, but nothing has happened between us since I started dating the man I am now married to. But even though i love my husband, I believe i am in love with the first guy. I dont understand why I cant stop feeling this way and just be happy with who i am and who im with. I was just wondering what you guys think. and what i should do??? Thanks for reading my post! Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 Hi everyone! Im new here. Im just really confused and was hoping for some insight. Im not really sure where to start, but here goes. Five years ago I met and started dating a guy that i completely fell in love with. we dated about 2 years and have been broken up for 3. We have always kept in touch and have remained friends. About a year and a half ago I got married to a man that i had only known 11 months. we got engaged after 9 months. the problem is, i never stopped loving the first guy. i think about him all the time, and like i said we still talk on the phone and email each other. We have lunch together occasionally, but nothing has happened between us since I started dating the man I am now married to. But even though i love my husband, I believe i am in love with the first guy. I dont understand why I cant stop feeling this way and just be happy with who i am and who im with. I was just wondering what you guys think. and what i should do??? Thanks for reading my post! The first thing you need to ask yourself is, do you want things to work with your husband. If the answer is yes, then you need to cut all contact with this other guy. No phone calls, no emails, no meeting for lunch, nothing. Its hard to get your marriage back on track if theres a thrid party like this other guy involved. I might be wrong, but since the guy you married you only dated for a short period of time, my guess is you married him to perhaps to fill the void in which you felt after the break up with your ex? Weigh your options and see whats most important to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Becoming Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 What does the other guy fulfill that your H doesn't? Anything? I agree with JJ--you're playing with fire. You made a commitment to your H to forsake all others, and you're not. You're toying with a fantasy and about to lose reality. Is that what you want? Check out marriagebuilders website for help with your marriage and preemptive prevention of an affair. Link to post Share on other sites
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