Just went through a painful divorce!!!

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We were happy together for the past 8 years. Our life was turned upside down after going through in-vitro & miscarriage. I was miserable during this invasive in-vitro procedure. I went to Europe for a year to take classes and to forget about the pain I've been through. We still see each other every 3 months. He was supportive about it. I went numbed without realizing that he felt abandoned.

When I came back he was living a double life, while I live in Europe he was seeing someone, (unfortunately a low life gold digger) bought her a car, housed her and bought her jewelries I never ask for in my life. Spent our money on a lifestyle that we cant afford.

 

I filed for separation because he is burning our savings and he decided he wanted a divorce and chose to be with this woman who has two kids and had two husbands.

 

I was so hurt, I started seeing somebody. He found out and realized he is not happy with this woman. They separated and gave up the relationship.

Everytime we would see each other we were in tears, you can tell there is so much pain as well as the thought that we still love each other but we can't figure out how to be in this path of forgiving and reconciliation.

 

During the divorce procedure he begged me to sell our stocks/community property because it is the best time to make money to pay for our margin debt. He had inside information as he works for the company. My lawyer and financial advisor advised me not to, because you're not supposed to during the divorce process. Nobody should make a large transaction. It was difficult for me trust him as well because he dissippated so much money. SO I decided not to sell our stocks which I owned half.

 

Now the stocks were low and everything was liquidated bec of our margin debt. We lost a lot of money. He is very angry with. I still care for him dearly.

 

I feel I should not be blamed and not soley responsible for this financial lost. I didn't think much about the money at that time, I was seeking for reconciliation. Although he expressed he wants to stop the divorce but he never acted on. He would see for lunch but never made an effort to reconcile, he spents money a lot of money and acting like college kid. I want to stop the divorce but my advice that I get from friends and family are take what you could before he dissipates it in Las Vegas or Strip Clubs.

 

Now....he blames me and he is angry at me for that money. I still love him and still willing to forgive him......