alwaybroken Posted July 12, 2006 Share Posted July 12, 2006 ok is this possible to work out? Has it happend with you or anyone you know? i saw this girl for 1.5 years, stupidly broke up with her because i was a commitmentphobe. we had only been broken up for 2 weeks before getting togeather again. Problem is we both had sexual relations durring the break (not meaningful). Is it possible to get back togeather without killing eachother and getting in arguments all the time about why either of us chose to be sexual with someone else. Also, she said she was waiting and said she was not going to see anyone else. surprise i find out she's hook up with somone else. does this count as cheating on me? oh by the way we're both in college, so we dont have a lot of experience with other people, this just ads to the list of people i already hated that she had been with. how can i not fight with her over this new person? Link to post Share on other sites
Author alwaybroken Posted July 16, 2006 Author Share Posted July 16, 2006 no one has ANY input? have you heard of other situations that get past this? would this count as cheating? anythin gpeople1! Link to post Share on other sites
lil_angel Posted July 16, 2006 Share Posted July 16, 2006 sure, you can still get back together if you want to. the first thing id do tho is ask why she lied to you. tho not technically cheating, dishonesty is never a good way to start a relationship, or restart one. Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted July 16, 2006 Share Posted July 16, 2006 I'm a little confused why you seem fixated on whether SHE cheated on YOU. Didn't you have "not meaningful" sexual relations with someone else as well? Do you think you cheated on her? Is the pot calling the kettle black here? I'd say you can either decide that both your actions cancel each other out and live with it, or break up again if you think you can't deal. Link to post Share on other sites
neiu Posted July 16, 2006 Share Posted July 16, 2006 if you neither of you can be at peace with what has happened and accepted the fact that both of you had sexual relations when broken up then i would suggest breaking up for good until you get over it cause if you don't it will eventually dissolve what you have left and it ain't looking so good as it is. honestly though broke up for 2 weeks and getting back together isn't the smartest idea either, nothing really gets resolved and you don't get time to reflect on what has happened and what needs to change for it to work. Instead, both of you have just added to the problems. oh on a side note, its about you and her and not her and whose she's been with cause those people don't matter anyway, if you really care and love this person. then again if you're able to sleep with someone else after being with her for 1.5 years, to me it doesn't seem to be much love there to begin with. and not o place blame on anyone, with this situtation it goes both ways and it something both of you need to talk about. if anything communication is the key Link to post Share on other sites
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