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Uuuum, it's usually better when you have sex with a partner... :lmao: :lmao:

 

Especially when the option is to have sex with yourself.... :p

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any of you have experienced it with a partner? in detail how was it and what was the sensation.

 

Andy if your 14 and that pic is of you. I think you need to slow down a bit about gathering too much information about sex at your age.

 

You might be the next one to come on these boards talking about sex addiction or masterbation addiction which is ruining your life and health.

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i'm not really 14. it's just a number that i randomly picked. i'm just curious. thats all. nothing else.

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i'm not really 14. it's just a number that i randomly picked. i'm just curious. thats all. nothing else.

 

I read some of your other posts. I see your 16. My son is 16 yrs old so I can see and imagine what you are dealing with.

 

Your curious, your exploring your world and the world around you. You are curious about sex because it is so publicized and shoved in your face all the time.

 

I know my son also has the same curiosity's you do. Take it one step at a time. Don't rush yourself. Everything will happen for you in time. If you jump in too fast you will become overwhelmed with life and it will be difficult to understand, control and sort out. Don't rush yourself..

 

I remember when I was your age. I had already been date-raped, my virginity stolen, I had been exposed to abuse of all kinds, my parents were divorced, my dad was pretty much MIA. I began to journal about the age of 12 and expressed my thoughts, feelings, curiosity's. I wanted to know things but to experience them was very scary and traumatizing to me.

 

Be careful what you want hun.. You could do yourself more damage then good by digging into things your really aren't ready for.

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Sex with a loving partner in a serious is a wonderful, amazing thing. However it takes practice and patience to get it right!

 

I'm not going to post details, I doubt many will give you graphic details.

 

Are you simply asking if it's better when shared? :confused:

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Sex with a loving partner in a serious is a wonderful, amazing thing. However it takes practice and patience to get it right!

 

I'm not going to post details, I doubt many will give you graphic details.

 

Are you simply asking if it's better when shared? :confused:

 

i'm just curious. classmates from my school sometimes talk about it often.

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i'm just curious. classmates from my school sometimes talk about it often.

 

 

Be careful what you believe and hear.

 

From lessons learned in my own teenage years--theres a lot of big talk that isn't true. There's exaggeration and lies to fit in the group, to be popular, to get attention.

 

I had boys talk about me that wasn't true and it was ruining my reputation.

At your age (16) I walked past the office in High School and just as a student came out of the office I heard two of the Office Secretarie's talking gossip about me. They were saying I was pregnant and I wasn't. I wasnt even having sex at that time. They over heard other students talking garbage about me in the hallways and used it for their own entertainment which was all garbage. (I did walk into the office-I spewed that they were telling lies about me and then skipped school for the rest of the day.)

 

If you want to be a decent guy you will stop the gossip your friends or associates are spreading and tell them to speak the truth..

 

Feeling the High School love and romance is a exciting time in growing up and developing. Be careful what you believe.. Your friends will be the first ones to lead you astray and fill your beliefs with garbage and things that aren't true to real normal life.

 

Even in christian summer camps, church events and even private christian schools have just about as much garbage gossip in them as do public events and institutions.

Careful what you believe..

 

Love will come for you when its ready for you.

Sex will come when its ready. Don't rush it.

It has a lot of complications to it and will create emotions that will confuse you and make you feel unbalanced.

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Be careful what you believe and hear.

 

From lessons learned in my own teenage years--theres a lot of big talk that isn't true. There's exaggeration and lies to fit in the group, to be popular, to get attention.

 

Pada's hit the nail on the head here. There was so much talk of sex when I was your age. Barely 5% of it was probably anywhere near true. Many people saying they'd had sex simply hadn't. And most of the people describing sexual acts had never actual performed them!

 

Don't feel the need to be pushed into talking about stuff you haven't actually done as of yet.

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Alot of the sex stuff I heard was from cousins and friends whom stole their parents playboy/playgirl magazine or porn movies.

 

They read stories or watched the movies and made up info about what they know and said they did this to so and so..

 

It's mostly bragging and trying to get attention.

 

I've heard other kids talk about what their older brother/sister said they did.

 

Typically its your older siblings or cousins that you learn the most from and they aren't always right. Rarely do they even know what is real or true.

 

The best info you can obtain about most of the issues you are asking about on LS you can get better answers from your parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, councelors, church leaders. Finding an older adult is where you will get your best examples of experience. (Provided you can find an adult you are comfortable talking to about this stuff.)

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okay, i'm just curious, i'm not going to do what you think i'm doing. i just wanted to know and then forget them. can we please stick to my question.

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okay, i'm just curious, i'm not going to do what you think i'm doing. i just wanted to know and then forget them. can we please stick to my question.

 

 

As littlekitty said "I'm not going to post details, I doubt many will give you graphic details."

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Then get a mate to buy you some porn... or even a Mills and Boon! :)

 

We're happy to answer most types of questions, but I for one, will not post titillating details of my love life for a 16 YO to read.

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well thats the centre of my curiosity.

 

 

Your 16 hun. What we (older) experience, feel and know is beyond your ability to understand and comprehend. Your intellectually not developed enough. You can't force yourself to be intellectually knowledgable. It comes with maturity and experience.

 

Let relationships, love and sex come as it does.

 

Sex is beautiful and pleasureable. It is mostly oftenly abused and used.

You're trying to lose your innocense by filling your head with sexual images before you actually experience in its truest sense.

 

Telling you details and stories will only give you imaginative knowledge and when the real thing happens you may be disappointed and view it as not as wonderful and great as youi imagined it to be.. Don't desensitize yourself with illusions and dreams of other peoples stories. They are only words and stories recanted by other people.

 

As you grow up and have your own experiences you will learn by all your senses what its like.

Let the mystery be that it is. Mystery...

No one can possibly comprehend sex by listening to another person tell about it unless you have experienced it or something similiar to bring up those feelings and dreams of it to understand.

 

You want to fill your head with fantasys. Things that you can't relate too. It will only be an illusion to you.

 

There are many persons on LS who have above and beyond expereinces with sex that would totally blow your mind away. If you feed yourself with all this you will only harm yourself and possibly another person down the road with your expectations...

 

Because you have a xmas gift under the tree do you need to see the person buy it, wrap it and put it under the tree for you before you can open it and have it?? The Mystery is what is so beautiful.

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I dont know if I agree w/ the suggestion that you watch porn to find out what sex is like....

 

the porn industry is male-dominated, meaning that the dialog and events are orchestrated in such ways as to be appealing to some men.

 

There is a LOT of generalizing and repressing of women. While it may be sexually stimulating to some, the vast majority of women would NEVER want sex to be like that. (well, maybe at times...but certainly they would not want their sex life to ALWAYS be so aggressive and belittling)

 

Sex should be about so many other things than porn shows you.

 

Now, if you're asking 'how does sex FEEL', thats different. No porn can illustrate how it FEELS in the physical sense.

 

I'm not a male, but male and female physical responses to sex are quite similar, and males have described it in words.

 

They say that it's tingly, there's some inside pressure sometimes, someone once said "it feels like a warm blanket".....

 

If you masturbate w/ lubricant, its somewhat similar...but everyone says actual intercourse is much more intense (which may be physical and/or emotional---because you are emotionally connecting with that person)

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If you had specific questions I would be glad to answer them.......

 

Sex is highly pleasurable when someone knows what they are doing.

 

I agree with the others who have said do not believe what the kids are saying at school.

 

When I was in high school a guy thought it was a big deal to stick his hands down a girls pants and play with her. The only problem is that none of them knew what to play with down there to bring a girl pleasure! :lmao:

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Sex is awesome (duh). But, it is one of those things that you'll never know until you do it.

 

It's like asking what walking on the moon is like. Neil Armstorng can describe the sensations, and how he felt while doing it, but I, never having been to the moon, have no frame of reference so it's meaningless.

 

Sex without love feels different than sex with love, for example. Someone who has had sex without love has no clue what sex WITH love feels like. The with love kind is way better, BTW.

 

I wouldn't listen to your friends all that much. What I did when I was your age was hit the library. I read every manual they had, and all the stuff in the women's section about what they like, what they don't, how to accept their bodies, blah blah blah. I definitely understood the mechanics of it before I tried it.

 

And when I tried it, all of that went out the window. Sex is never the same twice, and changes so much with each different partner that it can't be quanitifed. But I did know where everything was and had an idea of what to expect, so that was a good thing.

 

I would avoid porn, if I were you. The sex that you see in the videos is entirely unlike the act in real life, the women look nothing like women in real life, and it'll prematurely jade you. If I knew then what I know now...

 

Relax and enjoy your age, and the experiences coming your way. As time goes on you'll discover what you're into and what you're not, and what you want out of the whole sexuality thing. Nobody can give that to you, and what is right for your friends may not be right for you. As in most things, you have to find out for yourself.

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It feels nice, but it's not the be-all and end-all of life. People who haven't had it yet think it's a Very Big Thing. It's not but it's also not nearly as good when you do it for the heck of it as when you do it with someone you love.

 

So it is definitely worth waiting to do until you are part of a loving couple. Until then, make friends with your hand (or hands). An orgasm's an orgasm no matter how you get there. It's the other stuff that's different.

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any of you have experienced it with a partner? in detail how was it and what was the sensation.

 

I suggest the lambada. It's very fast, and you want to go to sleep afterwards.

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Alphamale often mentions the hole-in-the-warm-melon method. I'd think if you got a warm melon and scooted up close to the TV with an image of some woman you really dig that would be a good simulation. For the full experience you'd have to force yourself to stay awake and talk some kind of nonsense afterwards. It's something you can script, if you want.

 

It depends, I guess, on what type of experience you're looking to understand. Instead of the staying awake and talking, you could always give the melon $100 and shove it out the door.

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Alphamale often mentions the hole-in-the-warm-melon method. I'd think if you got a warm melon and scooted up close to the TV with an image of some woman you really dig that would be a good simulation. For the full experience you'd have to force yourself to stay awake and talk some kind of nonsense afterwards. It's something you can script, if you want.

 

It depends, I guess, on what type of experience you're looking to understand. Instead of the staying awake and talking, you could always give the melon $100 and shove it out the door.

 

Disgusting! You should be ashamed of yourself!

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Alphamale often mentions the hole-in-the-warm-melon method.

 

Is there a preferred way to warm the melon? I'm a bit worried about using a microwave in case it explodes. And since you probably can't get the back of your elbow into the hole - how do you test to see that it's not going to scald you?

 

Okay, sorry. I've just realised that I should ask Alpha.

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