sickkitty Posted July 13, 2006 Share Posted July 13, 2006 im so angry its unreal, iv posted in other threads about my situation and the long and short of it is, my boyfriend broke up with me 3 wks ago coz he needed 2 'find himself' yet only one wk later i an shocked 2 find out he is round a girls hpuse that he used to fancy b4 me and she still fancys him!!! i no i shouldnt have done this but i no his passwords 2 his email address so i had a look, 2 my horror there were several e-mails from here one stating do u want do go 2 Ikia and test some beds!! another saying "u tase good aswell" and just recently iv found out he is now learning her lanuage she is from the chec republic i am absolutly guted. Knowing he wants 2 learn her lanuage and take so much time 2 do this is breaking my heart even more The worst thing is he wont even admit he is seeing her he has denied it several times even when i have confronted him with what i have found out he says they r friends. i no they have slept 2gether and the image of them 2gether is making me sick and extreamly depressed. i dont no what 2 do or what he is playng at he stillwants us 2 be friends i want the same, but im confused about if he is seeing her or not any advice guys??? Amanda xx Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 13, 2006 Share Posted July 13, 2006 any advice guys??? Move on. Cut the contact with him, at least for a couple of months. Frankly, he is behaving like an a**h***. For starters, he's not being honest with you. And no-one who is genuinely attached can move on that quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
Bazeballfreak011 Posted July 13, 2006 Share Posted July 13, 2006 I honestly dont know what goes thru peoples heads sometimes. Okay, scratch that, most of the time. My girlfriend and I broke up a month ago after 2 yrs of dating. About two weeks after we broke up she started seeing this other kid. Complete opposite of me. I'm the genuine nice guy, hes the pothead/drunk guy. We have mutual friends and I've been talking to some of them. Probably not the brightest idea, but the two I talk to I trust and I know they wouldnt say anything. They both told me that they were confused as to how she could do this if she supposidly loved me with all her heart. What makes it so hard on me was a week before we broke up, she actually went on my computer and brought up an online calender for 2008. She said she wanted to pick out a wedding date for us to get married the spring after her senior year. I didn't take the specific date to heart, but we always talked about being together for ever and it meant something to me that she woudl actually go out of her way to pick a date. All shes been doing now is going out, partying, hangin out with this new guy. She's the total opposite of when we dated. A friend actually told me that he saw her at a party with a beer in her hand. Kinda hit me hard because she almost broke up with me one night because I was drunk and she asked me nto to drink. I thought she didnt trust my actions when I was drunk so I kinda immaturely felt I had to prove myself. Turns out she has drinkin issues because her Dad was a drunk when she was little. Not to mention me and her used to make fun of people that only went out and partied and got drunk all the time and what not. We barely talk anymore. I know what its like to good snooping. I have her password for myspace and hotmail. Couldn't help wanting to snoop so I did too. Foudn out she had been talkin to a mutual friend, pretty much bragging that she broke up with me and she didnt care if I hated her cuz she moved on. I actually confronted her abotu that, never told her I went in her email. I said a friend told me that she had been like that. Wouldn't tell her who because it was a blatent lie, she woulda found out if I made up a name and she confronted the person. I guess what I'm trying to say is, your not alone in this. Don't ever think that. That's been my problem all along. That's why I turned to this. I lost all my friends because of that girl. We hung out everyday and I never talked to my friends. Once in a while one would call me to go play football. Most of the time I didnt go because I just wanted to spend every waking minute with her. I've been trying to rekindle friendships but all the plans I make seem to fall thru. I'm really starting to go into a rut of depression. I've really been considering going to a counselor. You can only tell friends a story so many times before they get sick of hearing it. Kinda, either sh*t or get off the pot, as my mom would say. No matter what she does now, I can't help be still love her with all my heart. She was my first true love and my first serious gf. I know I have a long road ahead until I finally get totally over her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sickkitty Posted July 14, 2006 Author Share Posted July 14, 2006 its so hard 2 get over some one u love and i dont no y he has done this 2 me every waking minute of my life now im crying or thinking about him with her! Thats been a hard kick in the teeth 4 me 2 deal with. i new this girl had feelings 4 him and he always sed he wasnt interested in her like that and the where just friends and when we broke up i had a heart 2 heart with him and sed the worst thing he could ever do 2 me is 2 go out with this girl!!! Lol and wot does he bloody do GO OUT WITH HER, i am totally in bits i cant stop thinking about him i loved that man 2 pieces and he nos im distraught and he just doesnt seem 2 take my feeling in 2 consideration and he is consantly lying still saying they r just friends The stupid thing is, after all this i still want him back!!! i just dont no what 2 do ne more Amanda xx Link to post Share on other sites
morphius Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 Amanda, You might want him back but it looks unlikely at this point in time. He has blatantly lied to you and treated you like a total ****. 1. Delete the passwords you have for his e-mail, So you can't look! 2. Initiate No Contact! 3. Stay busy go out with friends, go for long walks...Whatever. Anything to stop you thinking about him. Stay Strong. Morph Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 Men often use the "find themselves" excuse as a way to withdraw from a relationship. It's very similar to when women use the "I need to take a break" conversation. Make no mistake: It's over. Follow Morph's advice to the letter and you'll be OK in no time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sickkitty Posted July 14, 2006 Author Share Posted July 14, 2006 Thanks morph 4 ur advice i no its over between us, i think in still in abit of shock 2 all this, see deep down i new this whole thing was going 2 happen and i dont think i wanted 2 believe it i was trying 2 make excusses but now its right in front of my eyes, i just cant believe i was so stupid I keep telling myself hes an ar$e and i deserve much better and that he couldnt of really loved me or he wouldnt have done what hes done but it doesnt stop the pain im feeling Unfortunalty many of my friends have bfs or are pregnant or have kids so they dont really have a social life. im kinda felling alone and rejected i no il over come it, i just have to take one day at a time (really just want the pain to end) Amanda xx Link to post Share on other sites
morphius Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 Thanks morph 4 ur advice i no its over between us, i think in still in abit of shock 2 all this, see deep down i new this whole thing was going 2 happen and i dont think i wanted 2 believe it i was trying 2 make excusses but now its right in front of my eyes, i just cant believe i was so stupid I keep telling myself hes an ar$e and i deserve much better and that he couldnt of really loved me or he wouldnt have done what hes done but it doesnt stop the pain im feeling Unfortunalty many of my friends have bfs or are pregnant or have kids so they dont really have a social life. im kinda felling alone and rejected i no il over come it, i just have to take one day at a time (really just want the pain to end) Amanda xx Most of us see it coming but don't have the balls to do anything about it cos were in love. The shock will fade then you will move on to the next stage, there is a process you just have to ride with it. You say you have no social life, Girl you are in the capital city of the UK. London is heaving with things to do, if your friends cant be there for you make some new ones. Go to the gym or join a club, (it sounds sad but it works!) Talk to someone you haven't spoken to at work, you never know you could become good friends! Morph Link to post Share on other sites
Author sickkitty Posted July 14, 2006 Author Share Posted July 14, 2006 Thanx babes 4 all ur help and im planning 2 go out this sat n live it up i no u only live once (im only 20) and i will get over this it really does help when u talk 2 ppl who r or have been through the same thing as u Link to post Share on other sites
morphius Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 No worries thats why LS is here. Morph Link to post Share on other sites
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