Boyfriend denies downloading child porn

[Outcast]

Well I'm not wireless and don't wanna be. Got my lil' router

[FredTravels]

I have heard that there are people that roam the streets looking for open networks. A lot is benign and they just want to connect to the net, but others are looking for the presence of Quicken, your bookmarks (where yo u may store passwords, etc, or any passworded files that can be deciphered at a later date.

 

I have the security enabled on my network at home and have never had a problem. It also monitors any attempted accesses which there were none. But then again, I live in a gated community and I can see everyone's network that ives by me--so there is no need to mooch.

[SoleMate]

I fully agree that calling him at work and screaming was not the right way to approach it. It's true, he could be innocent. Even if he's guilty, there's no need for screaming. The right thing to do would be to wait until he got home, sit him down, and calmly let him know what you have found and whether he knows how it got there. It's not too late for that even now.

 

If I had clear and convincing evidence that my male partner was using child pornography, I believe I would call the police. Believe me, the cops understand roughly what evidence is required to convict, and they also know that "a virus made me do it" is a very easy and effective defense. The chances of a unwarranted conviction are slim at best.

Bottom line: Get your spyware, anti-virus, firewalls, and all other defenses up in place and check them often. If you suspect the presence of child pornography on your computer, see legal counsel and expert IT assistance. Don't ever tolerate child pornography in any form - not in your life, not in your partner's life, not on your computer.

[amerikajin]

You have a right to be very concerned and you definitely were right to confront your boyfriend about this. Screaming at him over the telephone was counterproductive, though.

 

I think what you should do is simply get more evidence. Look at his internet history, look at the temporary files folder. Chances are good that if - and I stress that we don't know this yet - but if he's downloading this stuff he's also probably looking for it. There might also be a way to look at search engine history as well. It'll depend on what his settings are, but if he intended to download this stuff, and if he's not being careful, it's possible that he might have left a record of his searches.

 

As for whether or not it's a virus, I think you can assess that by looking at the overall performance of the computer. A trojan horse usually affects the performance of the computer. It usually makes it more difficult to close out programs properly, slows down the web browser and sometimes even locks up the computer. Sometimes it completely hijacks the computer so that you can't even control it properly. I would surreptitiously think of a way to ask him about the computer's performance yourself to see if he's experienced anything unusual. Or maybe you could use it yourself and see if you notice any of these things on your own. If the computer is otherwise functioning properly, I think that increases the likelihood that he's the one doing the downloading here.

 

Someone earlier raised the possibility that he made a mistake and clicked the wrong file. That could happen once, maybe twice, but not again and again. See if there are other files on his hard drive. Go into the shared files folder. Check out my documents to see if he's created any special files. I'd also check out the recycle bin, as it's possible he's hiding files from you thinking you won't check there. Look for more evidence and see where the road takes you. If you find more smoke, there's probably a preponderance of guilt and you simply must act on it. It is highly illegal to possess child porn, a felony federal crime. Not to mention that's just disgusting stuff...makes me want to vomit when I read/hear about it.

[Guest]

It certainly was counterproductive to scream at him. i wish i had not and just waited till he had come home and asked him about it. But truthfully, it was simply my first reaction. I’m so sickened by child porn. And the thought that it was on his computer just casually downloading... I just flipped out. i just couldn't wait the 6 hours till he finished work to find out his side of the story. I would have gone completely insane with every minute that went by. The waiting and not knowing would have done my head in. it’s not everyday you come home to this.

 

Although if someone had accused me of downloading this stuff, I too, would have an extremely negative reaction.

 

This unknown device is something attached to the internet. We live in an apartment block, so everyone is in close vicinity. It’s almost like someone has the activation key for our broadband and is using it. But my brother tells me that this would not make a difference.

 

I haven’t watched the videos, but I could see the opening frame for each file and it certainly was porn. But wether it was child porn is something I don’t know. Its true that files may just elude to child porn, but I think people shouldn’t even be searching for videos of this nature in the first place, wether it be real or not.

 

He is reformatting his computer, so hopefully the Trojans will go, should this be the case.

 

Again, thank you all for responding. Every point of view is appreciated.

[amerikajin]

But my brother tells me that this would not make a difference.

 

Someone could take your broadband signal and feed off of that if they have a wireless connection as well. I'm not sure what effect this would have on his computer.

 

He is reformatting his computer, so hopefully the Trojans will go, should this be the case.

 

He could be getting rid of the trojan but he may also be attempting to get rid of any evidence of porn that he may have on his computer. I would watch him very carefully from now on. It could be an honest misunderstanding or indeed it could be a Trojan horse, but you just don't know. See what happens here.

[norajane]

But my brother tells me that this would not make a difference.

 

Someone could take your broadband signal and feed off of that if they have a wireless connection as well. I'm not sure what effect this would have on his computer.

 

All that means is someone is 'borrowing' (or stealing, if you prefer) his broadband to surf the net, and it will slow his internet download speed a little. Unless there are a lot of people who are 'borrowing' his network, he probably wouldn't really notice the slow-down in speed.

 

Basically, without putting the security on his wireless, other people can get 'free' internet connection. If the boyfriend knows how to reformat a hard drive, then he ought to be capable of turning on the security features of his wireless router.

 

I just don't think that's the source of his porn. People borrowing your signal are just using it to get free internet.

[amerikajin]

I just don't think that's the source of his porn.

 

Frankly, I'm skeptical myself.

 

She blasted him and he immediately responds with f* off...

 

...it's as if he knew he'd been 'caught' but was angry that he got busted.

 

Again, do I know this? No, I don't. But I think if I were her, I would be really watching him and I would start doing some other investigative work. If he's a true porn addict, he'll start getting porn again from somewhere. These people are just plain sick in the head...can't be cured.

[Guest]

I noticed that there are some asian men who like black, latina, and their own asian females. People say that when a asian guy doesn't like their own females, they like white women more.

 

When a asian guy doesn't like asian females, most of the time they like a white female. I know one asian who likes every race. Another one just tells me every girl tries to hit on him, but he is friends with mostly blacks and latinos.

 

Some people say that Brooklyn is a place where all races sick with their own. Not where I live,but I only see mostly blacks and whites, very little asians with blacks.

 

I have mix black/asian sisters and cousins, one of my sisters and cousins of the family resemble me. I know I probably don't make sense, but I'm trying to!

Do asian men at least try to make an effort in making the moves on black women, and try not to dis them because their black?

[JackJack]

Your question doesn't have anything to do with what was orginally posted. You might want to start another thread.