Imani361 Posted July 15, 2006 Share Posted July 15, 2006 I have an extremely messed up situation that I need to resolve, now that I am done with college and starting grad school/career in the near future. I will try to keep it short but, there's a lot of drama. I met my current "bf" in september of 2003 and we were consistently together, even lived together, until may 2005. We had an awesome relationship, although we had some sex issues that he would not resolve. That kind of tore us apart and I told him that he needs to confront them or we cant live together again, so he told me he needed a break and would be home in a few weeks. Oh no... The whole summer of 2005 he basically lived at friends and left me alone in our apartment to fend the bills, etc. Not to mention to sit around and wonder what is going on. He told me it was just a break until he can get himself together and that he was not seeing anyone. The first 4 weeks, he didnt talk to me at all. Then, he would come home every 2 weeks or so, sleep with me, then tell me the next day he cant be in our relationship. He would have weeks where he would talk to me, and weeks where he would blow me off and tell me I was bothering him. Around September he started coming back into my life, this time telling me he wanted to make it work. At this point I was trying to move on, but I still loved him and would occasionally give it a shot. He was angry with me for dating last summer...although he had left me and told me that he didnt want a relationship. Right...I know, messed up. He messed up everytime. Then around December he straightened up and was completely committed to me. Over the course of the last 10 months, we have been on and off, because I have had major trust issues, understandably, and was seeing other people because I just don't know what to do with our relationship. I pushed him away a lot because of everything. I found out 2 months ago that all last summer he was seriously dating this girl. He told everyone he and I broke up (please note that I lost ALL off my friends basically when he left, all my friends knew he was doing this but since they were his friends to said nothing). So he lied to me. I stopped talking to him for a month, I felt awful. Well, as usual in our dysfunctional relationship, he contacts me on "myspace" and we end up hanging out. I told him I forgived him for last summer, we both had seen other people off and on over the last year and I was willing to commit to him if he was serious about making it work. Yet he still continues to hang out with this girl and talk to her all the time, even though she is engaged. I confronted him and he said they were just friends but I dont find it appropriate. Its just like a huge slap in my face. So now, tehre is a strong possibility he is moving to texas for a job, and he wants us to stay together and do the long distance thing. I don't think its a good idea- I do not trust him and after the last year of heartache, drama and absolute lies I don't think I would benefit by him being in Texas. Problem is, I do love him. Its just hard to get over what he did and now that he is moving to Texas, to live with one of the friends that knew he was cheating last summer the whole time.......I think he will just mess up again and I dont want to pick up the pieces. Advice?? Link to post Share on other sites
Diver012 Posted July 15, 2006 Share Posted July 15, 2006 I would take this as an opportunity to end it completely. Let him move to Texas, wish him well, and say goodbye forever. Its time to move on with your life... Just my opinion of course... Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted July 15, 2006 Share Posted July 15, 2006 This would be a good time to disengage in this relationship with him. You are around as his #2, FWB, ego boost, etc... Just let him go on his merry way and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
BrokenSpirit Posted July 15, 2006 Share Posted July 15, 2006 I would definintly take this as an oportunity to let him go... What better way then for him to move to Texas so you never have to see him, run the chance of bumping into him or even hear about him (if you dont have mutual friends)... It will be as if he fell off the face of the earth and lets be realistic, dont we all wish our ex's would do that! lol (even the ones we still love) ehehe Link to post Share on other sites
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