Is it normal?

[Guest]

I sometimes stop by this site as I deal with my own questions about my relationship. I have been married for nearly eight years - some good, most ho-hum, some bad, some real bad (at least from my point of view. The problem being that my wife can be real mean at times; name calling, putting me down, etc.)

 

Anyway, despite the bad stuff, I don't really want to give up on our marriage. The problem I have, that I need to know whether it is normal or not, is it normal to find yourself interested in (falling in love with) other people? I can think of at least two women in my past and obviously since I am writing this, I feel as though I am in this situation now. I have never acted on my feelings in a physical way, but I recognize that I may have become too emotionally connected with these women.

 

I guess, could this happen because of the problems I have with my wife? I also wonder if anyone has experienced this despite having a really good marriage? In that case, am I having these feelings for others because its normal, but possibly I get too involved because of the problems I percieve in my relationship?

 

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

[PandorasBox]

I think its good that you have reconized the fact that you have these feelings for others, and accepted that fact. However, its in the best interest of you and your marriage not to act on it. I'm sure you are aware of this as well. Yes these feelings you are having probably stem from the fact you and your wife are having problems within your marriage. The main thing you need to ask yourself is, are you and your wife both willing to take the nessicary means to work on or save your marriage? If the answer is yes, then I would suggest you all getting into some marraige counseling ASAP.