sistergirl Posted July 16, 2006 Share Posted July 16, 2006 OK...I'll try to keep this short, sort of: I dated this guy over 10 years ago and we fell in love thinking we were soul mates. He and his wife at the time were going through a divorce. She wanted him back and he ended up going back to her for their child. I was heart broken of course but got over it and got married myself. Later I found out that they did in fact divorce but I was already married by that time. Since I was gone he decided to try again with his wife and they got remarried to keep his family in tack. I saw him again not too long ago and what happens? We do the do and old sparks fly off the hook, etc. etc. And guess what? It was our very FIRST time together too! Our love way back then had been based on the knowledge of who we were as people, the inner person of the heart, not the physical and that's what made it so special. He was willing to wait for me until we got married back then too. The feelings of love are still there and we feel the same about each other BUT our circumstances do not allow us to be together. What the heck do I do now? Link to post Share on other sites
lil_angel Posted July 17, 2006 Share Posted July 17, 2006 so he was having an affair w/ you while he was married? if he would do that to his wife, what makes you think he wouldnt ever do it to you if someone else came along? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sistergirl Posted July 18, 2006 Author Share Posted July 18, 2006 so he was having an affair w/ you while he was married? if he would do that to his wife, what makes you think he wouldnt ever do it to you if someone else came along? Who knew my husband would cheat on me and be emotionally abusive? We just NEVER know. Love offers no guarantees. We did not have an affair. They were divorcing because his wife cheated on HIM. Besides we did not end up together did we? Nope. Can I call this a "one time" get together? Yes (especially because we live several states away) but the feelings, like I said are still there after all this time. Not all people who get together after divorce would cheat on the next person they are with, but like I said love offers no guarantees. I guess I just really need advice on how to keep these renewed feelings in check, especially now since the dynamics of our friendship have changed. Link to post Share on other sites
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