BatteredByLove Posted July 17, 2006 Share Posted July 17, 2006 I was just wondering how long did it take for an ex to realize their faults and come back after they dumped you? Same goes for the dumpee, have you guys ever gone back to an ex? If so how long did it take? I'm just living on a single spark of hope inside my heart for my ex to come back. Thanks, any replys are greatful. Link to post Share on other sites
jorgeajorge73 Posted July 17, 2006 Share Posted July 17, 2006 Ask yourself why you broke up in the first place. I broke it of twice with my ex and on the third I had to let her go for good. Take a look at your situation, what happened that ended the relationship? And see if it's worth it in getting back together. With my ex, I worked two jobs in order to pay for the mortage and the bills. I cooked for her, washed her car, cleaned the house, did laundry. What would she do for me, you may ask? Cheated behind my back. While I worked late hours, she was hooking up with her ex and other guys. Also, going out with her friends drinking and clubing, coming home late or not coming home at all. And when my grandmother died, she was not even there for me. I knew then that she was nothing more than a B*%#@!!! So, if you feel that the circumstances that ended your relationship are forgivable, then give it a chance. Remember, you can not change a person, they have to change on their own. I have no contact with my ex, I even changed my # and job. She betrayed me and I stand firm with my decision. Link to post Share on other sites
tearful_soul22 Posted July 17, 2006 Share Posted July 17, 2006 When someone rejects you, or chooses not to see you again, s/he is giving you a gift — the gift of time. You don't have to waste one more minute of your precious time on this particular person who, for whatever reason, doesn't want to be with you. You are free to move on, if you see it that way, to get closer to the person who you want to be with, and who wants to be with you. This is a quote i'd read somewhere that i'll always remember. I use to feel the way you do..but sooner or later you have to wise up and know that even with all the pain involve, you will Survive! Be firm in your convictions and to answer your question, NO, i never gone back to any of my ex's, not now or ever. Take care of yourself and i wish you the best. Link to post Share on other sites
BrokenSpirit Posted July 17, 2006 Share Posted July 17, 2006 Well I think everyone's situation is obviously different. I think if you can take a step back from the emotions and look at it rationally and logically, Jorgeajorge73 said it best. Evaluate the situation and think if its something that you can work on or something you want to talk to your ex about working on. After you think about it talk to your ex about it. Find out how he/she is feeling. You can't change anyone but if your differences are worth workin on then try it out... Link to post Share on other sites
YourThrone Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 I was just wondering how long did it take for an ex to realize their faults and come back after they dumped you? Same goes for the dumpee, have you guys ever gone back to an ex? If so how long did it take? I'm just living on a single spark of hope inside my heart for my ex to come back. Thanks, any replys are greatful. Well, My ex girlfriend (We were engaged to be married) We were living together and I thought everything was fine, very seldom did we ever have an argument so, one day I came home from work to find her gone. Not so much as a goodbye,NOTHING! so,I checked the rooms etc and all her clothes and things were gone. I started to really worry and I came to the conclusion she left me. As the months went by,I moved on with my life, an year later she calls me out of the blue begging me to take her back saying she made the worse mistake of her life. So, We talk for about an hour and my feelings and emotions came back. I asked her why did she leave me and her response was I seemed perfect(To good to be true) I'm thinking to myself WHAT! and there's no way I'd take her back, never had the second chance with her.It took her an year to finally come to terms with her issues that apparently to my surprise she had coming in to our relationship. Sorry for rambling! Just saw your thread and thought I'd post my experience instead of making new thread. I'm sorry about your situation and hope everything works out for you... Best of luck! Link to post Share on other sites
saiga Posted July 18, 2006 Share Posted July 18, 2006 It took 3 months for my ex to ask me back. I followed no contact and the whole deal to the letter. It worked. she was 100% intent on getting me back. I gave it a shot (she didn't appear to sleep with anyone else so I figured why not). Less than one month later, I came to realize 2nd chances are not always a good thing. I pressed the issues, and when it was do or die time the ship went down. She didn't change at all, we still had the same old problems (no I was not the one to breakup). We are now broken up for "real". If you find someone who can change for you, chances are they won't go to the breakup level. Point being....second chances might be necessary for you to determine if you made the right decision....but they usually don't work out...at least not for me. Link to post Share on other sites
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