samsungxoxo Posted July 20, 2006 Share Posted July 20, 2006 I'm just wondering because it's been already almost 2 years I'm in college and I'm still invisible. Not to say I never been in one, I have (one from high school), but I had to edn it 7 days after being b/f anf g/f after I found out some real shady information (not good stuff). This why I got online, but lately I don't believe in online romance anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted July 20, 2006 Share Posted July 20, 2006 I am very excited for college ( community college that is ) But my mom says that the chances of finding someone are very slim( In college ). Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted July 20, 2006 Share Posted July 20, 2006 I met and married my exHusband in college. But I really think that you have to spend time on your own, live alone, be responsible for yourself, pay all your own bills, and have some independence time before you should settle down and committ to someone for the rest of your life. My exH and I communicated recently and we both agreed we were too emotionally immature, we were only 21 and 22 when we married, he had just graduated and I had one semester left.... I think there are too many other important things to think about. Career goals (IME they change after you start doing internships and get exposure to different work environments), and finding out who you are and what's important to you. Relationships can stunt that development, because you put "You" aside in order to focus on "us".... Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted July 20, 2006 Share Posted July 20, 2006 Absolutely. Many people do. Just don't be one of those women who go to school for the sole purpose of meeting a man who is getting a college degree. I remember asking a girl in one of my courses my freshman year what she wanted her major to be, and her response was, "Oh, I'm really here for my MRS degree." All nonchalantly like that was normal. I almost spit my drink out I was so shocked. I had always thought that was a joke and nobody actually did that! Have more self-worth than that!! I also agree whole-heartedly with Otter. Once you finish school and start working, your ideas about what you want out of life will change. And possibly drastically. If you do meet "the one" in college, he'll still be around after you've been out of school for a few years. (I know that you didn't say that you were looking for a husband, I was just so traumatized by that experience with that girl that I like to express my opinion) Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted July 20, 2006 Share Posted July 20, 2006 If not for the romance, you do meet some of you future best friends. Depending on the school structure, cohort, class, section, etc.. Your fellow classmates tend to travel in packs like a bunch of lemmings trying to find their way. You will notice the same people in the same econ, acct, history, and other classes. Class groups get formed, people talk, and voila some sort of relationship forms. Some of them fellow students may very well be in your wedding party! As spouse, wedding party, FWB, BF, GF, SIL, affair, EA, PA, BoF, friend, etc... One set of my friends met in college and now have kids! Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted July 20, 2006 Share Posted July 20, 2006 Plenty of people meet "the one" in college. (several of my friends) Others hook up years down the road with friends/aquaintances/exes(!) from college or even high school. FInding that one person is an "anytime, anywhere" thing. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted July 20, 2006 Share Posted July 20, 2006 College is such a great time to explore who you are! There are lots and lots of clubs and activities that give you a chance to try different things and see what you like to do. The best odds of meeting a guy you'll click with is to meet one who is involved in something that you like to do, too...you'll already have that thing in common, whether it be hiking or tennis or drama or whatever. Don't worry about finding the love of your life, just find things you love to do. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted July 20, 2006 Share Posted July 20, 2006 And try not to hang out at bars too much. Lord how many years of my life did I waste going to bars and dating the dirtbags I met there? Link to post Share on other sites
Ross_K Posted July 20, 2006 Share Posted July 20, 2006 I met and married my exHusband in college. But I really think that you have to spend time on your own, live alone, be responsible for yourself, pay all your own bills, and have some independence time before you should settle down and committ to someone for the rest of your life. My exH and I communicated recently and we both agreed we were too emotionally immature, we were only 21 and 22 when we married, he had just graduated and I had one semester left.... I think there are too many other important things to think about. Career goals (IME they change after you start doing internships and get exposure to different work environments), and finding out who you are and what's important to you. Relationships can stunt that development, because you put "You" aside in order to focus on "us".... I don't see why Ailec1987 should put aside boyfriends and relationships and just concentrate on careers instead. Relationships, dates boyfriends are important learning experiences in life too. Ailec, if you're quiet and a little shy in college that could be reason why you feel invisible, being shy and quiet could make you come across as unapproachable. But yeah, sure relationships can be formed, I think college is probably where most peoples (obviously just the people who've been/are going to college) first relationships have formed. So what makes you not believe in the online thing anymore? Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted July 20, 2006 Share Posted July 20, 2006 I don't see why Ailec1987 should put aside boyfriends and relationships and just concentrate on careers instead. Relationships, dates boyfriends are important learning experiences in life too. I didn't say she shouldn't date. But maybe not make a lifetime committment to someone in college, like I did. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross_K Posted July 20, 2006 Share Posted July 20, 2006 Oh okay, it sounded like you were saying she shouldn't have relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted August 1, 2006 Author Share Posted August 1, 2006 Ailec, if you're quiet and a little shy in college that could be reason why you feel invisible, being shy and quiet could make you come across as unapproachable No, not anymore, at least not like before. This shy, reserve nature approach doens't work instead I'll go for the direct outgoing on, the one where you're a bit aggressive and know what you want. What I meant by stating I'm invisible is that everytime I take class, all me a guy were to talk about is about the exam and how it went or an assignment, other than that he's boring and doesn't care to proceed into more convo not delaing with school related subject. So what makes you not believe in the online thing anymore? As to why I don't believe in online romance is because it wasn't really work. I guess it's better when you actually see the person face to face and do get to spend time knowing them better. As for how is it going so far, NOT MUCH, oh well. Guess I gotta keep looking. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross_K Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 Good luck hun. Link to post Share on other sites
Admiral Thrawn Posted August 7, 2006 Share Posted August 7, 2006 I'm just wondering because it's been already almost 2 years I'm in college and I'm still invisible. Not to say I never been in one, I have (one from high school), but I had to edn it 7 days after being b/f anf g/f after I found out some real shady information (not good stuff). This why I got online, but lately I don't believe in online romance anymore. You have a very attractive avatar so I'm assuming that it's your actual picture. I find it hard to believe that you are invisible, I think you are invisible to the type of guys you want to attract, you have to be getting allot of attention. If you can look like how you do in the picture then I dont understand how you are invisible. My theory is, the guys in your college are too intimidated by your beauty to approach you, so you need only maintain eye contact or smile to look more friendly, so you'll get more approaches, because sometimes, they may think beautiful girls have attention of lots of guys and may be mean to them if they approach you. You can disprove that myth by just smiling at people looking or staring at you and appear friendly and just choose from all your approaches. So, don't worry little sister, you'll find the right person. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted August 7, 2006 Author Share Posted August 7, 2006 Yes that is my real pic. on the avatar. Funny, now I have many of them hitting on me on myspace.com and wanting to know me better. There's one I first starting talking to, I called him first and guess what, he likes me too. We met in person yesterday, so far far so good it's alright. Link to post Share on other sites
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