Bazeballfreak011 Posted July 20, 2006 Share Posted July 20, 2006 Ok this is a really big issue. One of my best friends came to me the other night. We were having casual conversation when all of the sudden she asked me to promise not to tell anyone anything abotu what shes about to tell me. She asked me like 10 times to promise. We had been flirting a lot that night so I was expecting her to jokingly say something that she likes me a lil or thinks I'm cute, just cuz we were playing around like that all night. She tells me last Sunday her boyfriend and her were hangin out. He was drunk. Her mom asked her to go outside and talk to him about something, so she went outside and did what her mom had asked. If was a jerk to her so she got mad and punched him. That really set him off because he turned around and punched her a few times in the face. Busting her lip open. I asked how long this had been going on. Shes like thats the first time he ever hit me, but for the last month, whenever he'd be drunk he woudl push her or throw her around. I guess often times her mom would question why she had bruises on her wrist but of course she would lie. She told me she came to me because she loves me and really cares about me, and has actually had a thing for me but I had a gf and she had a bf most of the tiem as well. I've always kinda had a thing for her too. The reason I say that is because we've been trying to make plans to hang out. And emotions have been running high with us and neither of us know what might happen if we do. I told her she needs to get help soon or find anotehr way out of the relationship before it gets worse. If we hang out, I'm more worried about what he might do to her if he finds out. But I want her to get away from him and realize she doesnt have to settle for that. I'm worried that next I might have to hear about him putting her in the hospital, or worse:(. I need advice ASAP. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 Do a search on 'domestic violence warning signs' and 'domestic violence' and pick some really good sites. Maybe print out the lists of warning signs for her. A LOT of women don't know about the 'cycle of abuse' and how abusers only get worse - dangerously so. Mind you, she had no business punching him, either. I think both people are trouble and, while you may like her, you may be in a similar situation if you go out with her. By all means help her get out if she'll accept help, but I wouldn't rush into a relationship with her right away if I were you until you find out if she's got some anger issues of her own. Link to post Share on other sites
michelangelo Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 she may want to use you to show him she can get another guy interested in her despite his hitting her. I also would worry about the boozing and her own hitting too. Don't step into the middle of something that you have no idea of what is really going on. Don't play knight in shining armor. Link to post Share on other sites
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