Challenging heart

[Mitch]

Hello my name's mitch, I'm 17 and I live in western australia.

 

and....i'm very confused :/

 

I recently put a posting on here 'Selfish or sucked in' for the first time and found the replies where very helpful so thanks heaps to those pplz who replied

 

I guess my problem is, is i can't work out why i only fall for girls i know i either can't or will find very difficult to have. For instance my ex fiance' lived 100km away yet we where toghether for over a year but it was hard. Now 6 months or so later i've falled for a girl 130km away who has a b/f!!

 

yes...i know.. stupid :/

 

she came to me as a friend wanting help cos her relatonship with her b/f was going very downhill, ontop of that he's moved to melborne on the other side of the country for 6 months or maybe even never come back and she's drifting apart from him and has tried to say look this is'nt working maybe we should see other ppl for a while so i can sort out what i want in life. anyway..she's fallen for me and i've fallen for her but unlike her it's in a big way

 

she still love's him, but like's me and she knows deep down she can't have her b/f because it's just not working and he's geographically too far away!

 

her heart is breaking and being healed constantly. I don't know how to help this girl, if i say look it's not working between u and ur bf cos of this this and this she goes defensive and says you don't even know him ect ect {which is completly understandable} but i mean..he cheated on her already, and if their relationship was so good then why is she falling for me?

 

anyway this posting is getting too drawn out i'm sorry about that so i guess what im asking is 1. why do i fall for girls i can't have

 

and 2. how do i show her i love her without putting the pressure on her, and get her too let go of her b/f {for good reason's though i might add he's not treating her right}, i guess i want her to pursue her feelings for me further, but i don't know how