agnf666 Posted July 20, 2006 Share Posted July 20, 2006 Wow, I don't know what to say. I told one of my friends that my Ex-boyfriend was single. I was just saying that, didn't think she would honestly jump on that. Well, I find out they have been talking for a week now and he is taking her out to dinner. She asked me if I was okay with it, and I said yes... I have a boyfriend and stuff but damn if I am not jealous over this. I don't know why, we broke up like months ago... So, she is going out with him tonight. I know that they are going to have a fun conversation about me. UGH! Link to post Share on other sites
megnog Posted July 20, 2006 Share Posted July 20, 2006 I think your reaction is probably very common and I'm sure this isn't the first time this situation has happened in the history of man-kind. If these feelings of slight jealousy persist, maybe you should talk to your friend just letting them know you aren't ready for them two to start dating. I would be understanding if I were your friend. On the other side, try not to let it get to you. Remember that you moved on and so did he. He just happens to be moving on with someone you already know. Don't let what he is doing get in the way of YOUR life or your relationship with this new guy. It sucks, I can completely relate, but theres nothing you can do at this point. I once dated my friends ex boyfriend. I felt bad but it turned out better for me than it ever could for her. I'm sure that sounds bitchy but just listen. They dated for all of two weeks and she had ME sent to break up with him for her(highschool bull****). After that, me and him began talking and had a year and a half relationship. We are long since broken up now but I think my relationship with him was was better than his relationship with her. My point is, he could be better off with her - they could really hit it off and you should be happy for them if that ever happens. Its hard but you two broke up for a reason and you have moved on with someone else now. Theres not much you can do except come to that realization and go back to thinking life is just peachy Link to post Share on other sites
CrushedOrgans Posted July 20, 2006 Share Posted July 20, 2006 it might be bothering you more that this past part of your life is being brought back again, which it will if your ex is in your friend's life for some time. maybe you're also thinking about the fact that it may break up your friendship. if she stays with this guy, there's a chance she might start seeing you as "his ex-girlfriend" rather than "her friend", which can cause a huge problem in friendship. then there's the "is she/was she better better than me" coming from you AND your friend but i think it is normal that you feel that way, and it doesn't mean you want him back. it just beings back a lot of crap you don't need is all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author agnf666 Posted July 21, 2006 Author Share Posted July 21, 2006 Honestly, I would have never mention him to her if I didn't think they had potential. I just hope that if they start dating he doesn't do the same stuff he did with me to her. I will be sure to keep my eye out on that one so she doesn't get hurt. That is the last thing she needs. He is a slow mover though. Maybe me and him might have a better friendship from this. I mean I did a nice thing and told her about him. So, who knows. We will see how this goes... I need a drink. lol Link to post Share on other sites
CrushedOrgans Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 Honestly, I would have never mention him to her if I didn't think they had potential. I just hope that if they start dating he doesn't do the same **** he did with me to her. I will be sure to keep my eye out on that one so she doesn't get hurt. That is the last thing she needs. He is a slow mover though. Maybe me and him might have a better friendship from this. I mean I did a nice thing and told her about him. So, who knows. We will see how this goes... I need a drink. lol but that's part of the problem. because you all know each other, and you used to date him, she may think you're trying to cause drama out of jealousy, being his ex and all. and if you get "friendly" with him, she may see it as a threat more than if it was some random girl. the problem is going to be between you and your friend, if a problem happens at all, and maybe it won't. good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author agnf666 Posted July 22, 2006 Author Share Posted July 22, 2006 Well here is an interesting addition to this story. On monday, I'm going to hang out with the both of them. What is wierd is that, my friend is like we all need to hang out. I was like are you sure he wants to hang out with me, and she was like it was part his decision as well. Now, he has been talking to me online. So, I don't know what to make of this now. Trying to be nice with me so he knows he has a chance with her? Most likely, because me and him getting back together would not happen. lol. Link to post Share on other sites
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