Guest Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 I have a question. Theres a name and number in my husbands cell, but yet he seems to know nothing about it. He says he doesn't remember who it is and maybe its been in there for along time. However there was awhile where I saw this persons number show up on the cell bill, where this person called my husband right often. The calls where not that long though. BTW this is a mans name and number that he seems to know nothing about. I questioned him about it before and I stopped seeing the calls on the cell bill. Now all of a sudden I have seen in my husbands cell where he(my husband) has called this person. I never saw where he called before I always saw where this guy called my husband. This is one of the things I don't get, The mans name is beside the number in husbands cell phonebook, I tried to call it before and the man never asnwers but it goes right into voice mail. However the mans voicemail is not the same name as the name out beside the number in the cell. Why is that? It will say Hi you have reached (insert name) leave a message and I'll call you back. He never answers but he must have caller ID becasue he will call back. I have not aksed this man how he knows my husband and maybe I should, but I don't get why his name is in the cell phone but his voicemail message says another name? Does anyone know why it would be like that? Link to post Share on other sites
megnog Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 wow this is a confusing one. it could be a number of things.. and i'm not trying to be funny but it really could be 1- your husband is interested in males 2- your husband is maybe doing something illegal well thats all i could think of but don't fret about it too much.. it could be something very innocent. i don't know, this puzzles me. i guess keep trying to call him and find out who he is!! i think you could even go to 411.com and type in his phone number and find out who the hell this person is!! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 there is always the possibility that it is a lover. But there is also the possibility of other things. I guess it depends on how badly you want to know what is going on. Do you want to find out if your guy is bi? If you don't want to know and rather be left in the dark no matter what it is, then don't call it and don't persue it anymore. I would personally want to know no matter what. I would call the number and leave a message. Even if it is a message where you tell him you are doing a servey and would appreciate a call back. Then ask questions about his job/life/etc. Either that or ask him straight up. if he doesn't tell you then you know that something is fishy. Or say something like "my husband has told me all about you". Then he will fess up.. or should... it all depends on how well you read people and how much you want to know. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 Why can't you show him the cell record where he's called this guy and ask why he called? Or show him the past records where the guy was calling him? He can't say the number's been in there for ages and he can't remember who it is if you show him that the call activity is recent. As to the names...no idea. Drug dealer comes to mind, but you'd probably have noticed if your husband was on something, no? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 wow this is a confusing one. it could be a number of things.. and i'm not trying to be funny but it really could be 1- your husband is interested in males 2- your husband is maybe doing something illegal well thats all i could think of but don't fret about it too much.. it could be something very innocent. i don't know, this puzzles me. i guess keep trying to call him and find out who he is!! i think you could even go to 411.com and type in his phone number and find out who the hell this person is!! Hi thanks for the replies. You know the number one thing that comes to mind for some odd reason is, maybe he is doing something illegal. I have no clue why I feel that way, but when I saw this guys number start showing up on my hubbys cell after so long, I got a very bad feeling. I can't describe it, but its just that I feel something is not right. Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 I agree something sounds odd, but why not do as another suggested. Take the cell phone bill and show your husband this number that keeps showing up on there and point blank ask him who it is. Be very causual about it, not in an accustory way but just be calm about it and see what he has to say. If you feel something is not right then chances are its probably not. JMO. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 I agree something sounds odd, but why not do as another suggested. Take the cell phone bill and show your husband this number that keeps showing up on there and point blank ask him who it is. Be very causual about it, not in an accustory way but just be calm about it and see what he has to say. If you feel something is not right then chances are its probably not. JMO. Jade Someone had asked if I have tried looking it up on those reverse phone lookup sites, I have. I have tried several of them. Its a cell number and wont give it to me. I already know the name and number of the person, I just don't know who it is. There was a time back when I saw the number on the bill alot, one day out of the blue, my hubby came to me and said, "Who is this number thats on the cell bill alot?" I said, "I was getting ready to ask you the same thing, becasue the number is called to YOUR cell phone, not mine." I then asked him if he knew who it was, he told me no. This is someone he knows too, becasue the name and number is stored in his cell phonebook. I just loved how it kind of all of a sudden asked me who the number was, but yet it was showing it had been called to HIS cell. I think he was trying to put something off on me. He must think I'm stupid or something, it wasn't even called to my cell number. I really am not sure what to do right now. I am one of these people who would like to figure out or get to the bottom of something myself if I can. But I don't have any real clear cut answers other than the fact he calls my husbands cell and he claims he doesn't know who it is. A PI is out of the question right now, to expensive. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 Have you tried Googling the two different names? Since you know where he lives, it might not be too hard to find something out there that might give you a clue. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 Have you tried Googling the two different names? Since you know where he lives, it might not be too hard to find something out there that might give you a clue. I googled the name in the cell, it brought me to nothing. The other name on the voicemail message says, "You have reached "Mr.Jordan" no first name. I don't have an address just the name and cell number. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 I googled the name in the cell, it brought me to nothing. The other name on the voicemail message says, "You have reached "Mr.Jordan" no first name. I don't have an address just the name and cell number. Maybe if you Google Jordan and the city or state of the other name's address... I think you can go online and find one of those companies that runs background checks, it's not that expensive. You can at least try for the name/address you have. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 Maybe if you Google Jordan and the city or state of the other name's address... I think you can go online and find one of those companies that runs background checks, it's not that expensive. You can at least try for the name/address you have. Ok I typed in the first and last name of the guy. It brought me to 4 people by that name in our area. I can't get the other info without paying for it. How expensive is it? I don't want to pay for it on the credit card or by check he will know something is up. Is there another way I can pay to get the info? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 Ok I typed in the first and last name of the guy. It brought me to 4 people by that name in our area. I can't get the other info without paying for it. How expensive is it? I don't want to pay for it on the credit card or by check he will know something is up. Is there another way I can pay to get the info? I've never used one of those sites, so I don't know. It should say somewhere how much it costs and how you can pay...maybe a PayPal account or money order? Link to post Share on other sites
nicki Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 Have a trusted girlfriend pay for the background info from HER computer with her credit card. Then pay her back for it. I think it is worth it. You need to know what is going on. Trust your gut. You have a history with your husband. You'll notice all kinds of subtle shifts. If something seems off to you, I'll bet you are right. I'd also confront your husband with the phone bill and tell him you KNOW what's going on and it's time to explain. Then be absolutely silent. If he gets defensive, just walk away and tell him you will listen when he is ready to talk. Don't say another word until he does. Something is not right. He knows he made and received those calls... Link to post Share on other sites
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