Do you keep it or not

[DesperatelyUnsure]

Ok..This is a somewhat unusual question and I wasn't sure where to post this. I am going through a divorce..to which a child was born of the marriage. My soon to be ex husband bought me a beautiful wedding set when we got married 10 years ago aprox 6500.00 in value. He always took pride in it saying he always wanted people to know how much he loved me when people looked at it. However he got envolved with another woman 8months ago and now there engaged to be married. I left the marriage due to his relationship. My ex2b told me I could keep this ring and when my daughter was old enough he wanted me to pass it down to her. I have somewhat mixed feelings on this. Had I left the marriage due to me being unfaithful I would feel differently. However I left because he was the one who found somewhere else to be.

 

So my question is this...am I obligated to pass this ring down to her, per his wishes or is the ring technically mine to keep and do with what I wish. I was infact the one who invested 10 years of my life,tears, heartache into this marriage.

[UnknowingOW]

IMHO, the ring belongs to you. You were the reason it was given. It is yours to do with what you want. He has no dog in that hunt. And there maybe the chance your daughter might feel odd taking a wedding set from a broken marriage...but then again maybe not since it is from her parents.

 

If my parents had divorced I would in no way want my mother wedding set b/c it would remind me of her own pain.

 

Now, having my grandparents set...that means the world to me because I loved them so. However, even saying that. My grandfather was a dog! He carried on a EMR for 15-years. But in the end he stayed with my grandmother. Don't know if that was a good thing or not. And from my mom told me the OW kicked my grandfather to the curb one night...I don't know why.

[michelangelo]

And keep the cash for your daughter's education fund. college ain't cheap and rings don't pay bills.

 

Who cares what he wants to do with it.

 

 

That ring is yours to do with as you wish to.

[Buttaflyy]

It's yours. Do what you want with it. He has no right to tell you what to do with it.

[quankanne]

the ring is rightfully yours to do as you please, but before you decide anything final, put it aside for several years, at least until your little girl is old enough to say "yes, I'd like it as a keepsake" or "no, I don't want anything that SOB gave you because he lied." Or, she might want to trade it in for a nice piece of jewelry of her own.

 

my two sisters were divorced about the same time, in the late 80s, and even though neither was on good terms with the father of her children, both kept the jewelry they got from those men. I know my niece got the engagement ring her dad gave her mom, and has it as a keepsake; I think her brother told his wife to take whatever she wanted from the collection, he didn't care. Other sister's boys I think each took something – a couple of weeks ago, I saw the older one, and he had his mom's wedding band on a chain around his neck, so I know it meant something to him to be able to have that from their short-lived marriage.

[Buttaflyy]

I think maybe you don't want to give it to anyone at all and just keep it. That's fine too.

[amaysngrace]

I had a beautiful diamond solitare and diamond band from my ex. We have a daughter together.

 

There is no way I would want my daughter to have bad karma from my ring. No way! But I am a bit unique, so maybe you don't feel this way.

 

I sold my rock and then was going to keep my band and have it made into a toe-ring, where it properly belonged. But then I thought better of that idea and sold it not long after I sold the engagement ring.

 

Personally, looking at them both made me want to puke. Like our bedding. I got rid of that too.