Crazy-Eyez Killah Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 hello, I am due to get married in a few weeks and love my gf and have never cheated or thought about it but the other night when I was out with a group of friends, I bumped into a beautiful woman (way out of my league) I sort of knew, but hadn't spoken to properly before. I got chatting to her, she is really nice and we seemed to click and spent hours talking. Nothing happened but she told me that she really liked me and wished we'd met a few years ago before I was with my gf, but made it clear she wouldn't be part of any cheating. She said she wanted to keep in touch and we exchanged numbers and we have exchanged a few general text messages since, all of which she sent and I replied to I now can't stop thinking about her. I keep looking at my cell phone hoping for another text message and trying to stop myself from sending her a message, even getting a crazy idea about calling her to see if she wants to meet up any advice on what to do? Link to post Share on other sites
Toni_no12002 Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 I think the best thing to do is not to text her.It sounds as though your in lust with this woman.The best thing to do is to stop it before you get any more attatched to her.Sometimes lust can destroy things so its best not to let it go too far.If you trully love your gf you would stop incase something does happen.Ive seen couples break up because of things like this.Lust never lasts though it fizzels out over time.Love lasts alot longerso dont go and ruin it. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
confused15 Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 Thinking is one thing, but doing is another, if you are doing something to pursue this girl (ie texting or calling or meeting up) then maybe you shouldn't be getting married. And If you can't stop thinking about this new girl, then maybe you aren't as in love with your fiancee as you thought. Link to post Share on other sites
Toni_no12002 Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 Maybe you need to ask yourself what you actually want from her? Link to post Share on other sites
megnog Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 i was angry when i read this because i began to think this could happen to me if i was your fiance. and it just hurts. but then i realized people can't help feelings even so, you still need to stop contact with this woman if you like her/think about her like that then you can't continue any kind of relationship with her thats my opinion . Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 If you plan to chase after every beautiful woman you see while you're married, you'll have a miserable life and you'll cause your wife misery as well. I suggest you not marry if you can so easily forget your love for your gf when you see a pretty face. Link to post Share on other sites
purspeed Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 Smart man. Keep her nice and close. The jealousy will keep your marraige together and wife loyal. If your wife threatens to leave or get bored (unlikely with a prettier girl in the vicinity), then you have cheap insurance. Get a few more numbers while you're at it. Remember this: the finer they are, the worse you treat them. They love *******s. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 Smart man. Keep her nice and close. The jealousy will keep your marraige together and wife loyal. If your wife threatens to leave or get bored (unlikely with a prettier girl in the vicinity), then you have cheap insurance. Get a few more numbers while you're at it. Remember this: the finer they are, the worse you treat them. They love *******s. Wow... I can't believe the crap that you are typing. Jealousy is not a healthy thing in a marriage. Your wife should trust you. If you are doing something that you would not want your soon to be wife to do then you should either stop the communication or end the relationship with your fiance. I am married and have been for 2 years now. My last ex bf that i was with for 3 years has just recently contacted me again. I never stopped loving him. I told my husband that I was talking to him again, He doesn't like it one bit. But I am in a perdicament b/c I am married and wish that I was with the other guy now. Don't put yourself in my situation. Figure out what you want before it is too late. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 Wow... I can't believe the crap that you are typing. Jealousy is not a healthy thing in a marriage. Your wife should trust you. If you are doing something that you would not want your soon to be wife to do then you should either stop the communication or end the relationship with your fiance. I am married and have been for 2 years now. My last ex bf that i was with for 3 years has just recently contacted me again. I never stopped loving him. I told my husband that I was talking to him again, He doesn't like it one bit. But I am in a perdicament b/c I am married and wish that I was with the other guy now. Don't put yourself in my situation. Figure out what you want before it is too late. Yikes, doesn't anyone understand sarcasm anymore? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 any advice on what to do? Do nothing. You're going to meet attractive women your whole life. Doesn't mean you need to do anything about it. Doesn't mean you need to act on it. Doesn't mean you can't take the ego boost, enjoy the fun conversation you had, and forget about it. One conversation with a beautiful woman doesn't compare to the love of your fiancee. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 Yikes, doesn't anyone understand sarcasm anymore? Sorry... didn't catch the sarcastic tone. oops! Link to post Share on other sites
Crazy-Eyez Killah Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 thanks for all your advice. I am wondering whether the situation is arising because of last minute jutters about getting married I dont think I'm in lust with her because it not ever anything sexual I'm thinking about just chatting to her and spending time with her. in terms of what I want from her Toni, I think maybe deep down I am wanting to spend some more time with her to prove to myself that its my gf i really want to be with. Interesting point guest made bout the ego boost, I hardly get any attention from women at all as Im not great looking at all. maybe thats affecting my judgement I've spent three days now doing nothing but think about this woman. I dont think i'll do anything about it, although she might contact me, i know i sould forget about her but I'm finding it particularly difficult Link to post Share on other sites
Toni_no12002 Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 Its sounds very similar to the problem i had.When i was abit younger i didnt get much attention from blokes.Then i got a bf and after a while i seemed to be getting loads of attention from men which i never had before.I enjoyed it and in a way i tried to cram in as much of what id missed out into that space in time.I ened up ruining my relationship.These men was only interested in one thing and i lost someone who actually cared for me because of it.It was a stupid mistake.But i craved attention! Link to post Share on other sites
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