kornyjazzman Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 I am going to be a father! I am 24 and going to be a daddy. My recent ex is pregnant, and I am the father. I don't know what to do. I want her back, but I am keeping myself busy so I don't keep thinking about it. I don't know how she feels, and don't know how to ask. I am so confused. I want to tell her the truth about I how I feel, and at the same time I don't want her to know. I don't want the child to grow up with split parents. I would love to make all this work, but I don't know the first place to start. Please help me figure some of this out. thanks Link to post Share on other sites
basscatcher Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 I am going to be a father! I am 24 and going to be a daddy. My recent ex is pregnant, and I am the father. I don't know what to do. I want her back, but I am keeping myself busy so I don't keep thinking about it. I don't know how she feels, and don't know how to ask. I am so confused. I want to tell her the truth about I how I feel, and at the same time I don't want her to know. I don't want the child to grow up with split parents. I would love to make all this work, but I don't know the first place to start. Please help me figure some of this out. thanks You just need to find your 'Kaa-Hon-nees" and talk to her. First of all that baby may not be yours. You can only hope until you know for certain. She may have slept with someone else even just once.!! You need to tell her how you feel and what you want and also your fears. The only way to resolve this is to just face it with truth and honesty and work it out TOGETHER,, If you can't come together to deal with this and work it out you will be split., Link to post Share on other sites
Love_the_Loni Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 I think what you just told us is honest and endearing and EXACTLY what you should say to her. That should start a conversation in a positive note and figure out how both of you can decide what is the best way to raise your child together. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 Save the lady some face. Be a knight in shinning armor! Give her a big romantic gesture and tell her You are going to be a man, and make her your Queen and don't take no for an answer. GET ON ONE KNEE! Take the plung! Propose! But show her and shower her with love the mother of your child deserves. And if she turns you down, don't stop loving her. Love expects nothing in return and it will lead to a bond with your baby's mother in the end, anyway. God bless You! ps: paternity test is not a bad idea if you have concerns but would be an easy and quick way to chase away a mother when falsly accused, I am going to be a father! I am 24 and going to be a daddy. My recent ex is pregnant, and I am the father. I don't know what to do. I want her back, but I am keeping myself busy so I don't keep thinking about it. I don't know how she feels, and don't know how to ask. I am so confused. I want to tell her the truth about I how I feel, and at the same time I don't want her to know. I don't want the child to grow up with split parents. I would love to make all this work, but I don't know the first place to start. Please help me figure some of this out. thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Author kornyjazzman Posted July 24, 2006 Author Share Posted July 24, 2006 thank you all for your help! I am going to tell her tomorrow exactly what I feel, and make sure that I tell her that I will be there for any and everything she goes through. I want to make this work and think that it would be good to start there. Wish me luck everyone! I need it. Link to post Share on other sites
sugarcane05 Posted July 24, 2006 Share Posted July 24, 2006 That is a really big pickle to be in but don't go back to her for the baby. If that's the reason you want back with her, just be her friend now and let it flow through. But if you want her back for her, you need to go to her and tell her, you really care about and love her and you want to be there for her in her pregnancy and your child when it's born. Either way, together or not you can be there for her, but being together will make it a lot easier. But remember do not get back together for the baby do it for you guys. Link to post Share on other sites
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