confused15 Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 I just found out that my fiance has been talking to his ex-gf (she was his first love, partner, etc) on myspace, discussing getting together for drinks and all that. Okay thats fine, but he didn't tell me about it and has been hiding it for a couple weeks now. I confronted him on it and he said she initiated everything, but it was him who began talking to her and telling her that he's going to be in their hometown so they'd be able to get together. From what he says she's one of those crazy controlling girls that has always been in love with him and never wanted to let him go. I want to trust him, but why would he hide this from me? Why would he talk to her if he knew she'd jump at any opportunity to be with him? Am I justified in feeling insecure? HELP! Link to post Share on other sites
megnog Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 yeah i think you have reason to be having these feelings. first off, he lied. this could mean one of two things: -he lied to prevent you from getting upset about something innocent OR -he lied because he was planning to do something worth hiding either way, suggest you come with them. it could be awkward, but it could be better than not knowing what happened that night. if they were just meeting up for drinks just to chit chat like friends then there should be no reason you can't go. this would prevent HER from moving in on your guy or trying to bring up one of these kinds of conversations "remember the time we went to the beach...?" if you'd rather him not go at all, then voice that to him. he should be understanding because afterall he probably wouldn't want you going to meet up with your ex for drinks. bring this reversal situation to his mind and see how HE feels. and i see your point, if shes needy and stuff like that why the hell would he want to even be in the same room as her again? something is fishy and its up to you to figure things out. just don't accuse, ask him to help you get a better understanding.. good luck and let me know what happens! Link to post Share on other sites
purspeed Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 Your insecure because you have low self esteem and you don't realize that the world is full of wonderful men that can make you happy. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 yeah i think you have reason to be having these feelings. first off, he lied. this could mean one of two things: -he lied to prevent you from getting upset about something innocent OR -he lied because he was planning to do something worth hiding either way, suggest you come with them. it could be awkward, but it could be better than not knowing what happened that night. if they were just meeting up for drinks just to chit chat like friends then there should be no reason you can't go. this would prevent HER from moving in on your guy or trying to bring up one of these kinds of conversations "remember the time we went to the beach...?" if you'd rather him not go at all, then voice that to him. he should be understanding because afterall he probably wouldn't want you going to meet up with your ex for drinks. bring this reversal situation to his mind and see how HE feels. and i see your point, if shes needy and stuff like that why the hell would he want to even be in the same room as her again? something is fishy and its up to you to figure things out. just don't accuse, ask him to help you get a better understanding.. good luck and let me know what happens! good advice. Link to post Share on other sites
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