luvncurls Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 Hi all, A questions as to how I should approach this. About a month ago I finally got the neeve up to let my friend know that I thought her brother was attractive and that we should talk. She emailed and said that she would set something up. A month later, I waited patiently, she invited me to a club that they were going to be at last Saturday, she told me that she told her brother about me and he said he'd like to meet me. I drag a another friend with me, because I need a safety, I am excited, get all dressed up and we go to this club. As it turns out they didn't let us in. My friend wasn't wearing the right shoes and we really didn't have any other options. My friend, whose brother it is, came out with her fiancee and they tried to explain to the people at the front that we were with a large group. No go, we had to leave. I emailed her later, apologized and said that I would still like to meet her brother. question is, what now? Do I push it, ask for him number, wait for my friend to do it on her own time. He's cute and I haven't been interested in anyone in a while, but it seems that whenever I pursue a guy, it explodes in my face So now what? Any advice in highly apprecited. Link to post Share on other sites
Poboy Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 she sets you up after a month. thats quite long time in my book ... anyways , where was he when all of you were outside the club ? you should have asked his number there only yes , ask for his email / number and dont involve his sister/ your friend too much in the process. Link to post Share on other sites
Author luvncurls Posted July 22, 2006 Author Share Posted July 22, 2006 He was inside the club. I don't know if he knew what was going on, this all happened in a matter og 5 minutes. I am not sure if he is really interested or is just sort of "ok, sure why not" about the whole deal. I think that I agree with you, not to involve my friend. I think that I was just weirded out by the whole thing because she is my friend and has been such a long time. On top of the time that I think that he is am out of my league. He's 9 years older and quite successful and intelligent. I have thought that he was attractive for awhile, but have never told her anything, because I wa always distracted by something/someone else. I'm on summer vacation (I'm a teacher) I could just be bored. Oh brother!!! Link to post Share on other sites
JCD Posted July 23, 2006 Share Posted July 23, 2006 You have to sort yourself out first. Are you looking for a fun guy or a serious guy to have family with, etc. Once you decide then you go for it. I have no problem with an attractive girl coming up to me and starting things off. She just can't be a wacko like too possessive or jealous, etc. If she's normal and has good personality, relatively good looking ie. cute not a super model or barbie girl type then I'm all up for it. So don't be afraid of going after a guy but don't be too wacko about it. That's a turn off. Probably best if you start out as being friends first and then slowly turn that into something romantic. Don't make a big deal out of it if he's not into you because he has a right to decline anyone just like you. Link to post Share on other sites
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