d1rtysecret Posted July 22, 2006 Share Posted July 22, 2006 I met a fantastic girl online 6 months ago, we got on brilliantly, spent hours and hours talking almost everyday. Things have been going great, well up until now really. Its a long story but i need to share it because i just dont know what to do anymore. The first 2 months of our relationship online were great, we would chat all the time, she would flirt and sometimes even talk dirty, while i knew about her past as we talked about those sorts of things quiet often i knew she was wasnt that comfortible with that sort of thing, i understood and just let things be. After about 3 months things started to change, i go paranoid about well nothing really but it put a strain on our relationship, i stupidly went to what i considered at the time a friend for advice only for that to totally back fire on my and i almost lost her, after a long talk about how we both felt about each other things seemed to be back on track. That was the case as well for a good month - 6 weeks, while there was little sexual contact, she did flirt from time to time, but it was often over the moment i mentioned anything remotely "dirty", but i understood her situation i know what she has gone through in the past and i can understand why she is cautious. About a month ago i decided its time for us to meet, she was happy about that, even looking forward to it, so i started to save a little money to go over the Budapest, im from the UK btw. A week ago i booked my flight, due to fly over at the beginning of august, i've told her and she still wants me to come over as far as i can tell , but these past few days she has been very cold towards me. We still talk togeather but there's zero emotion involved, she hasnt said the "L" word in 3-4 days, when she used to say it everyday. Ive tried talking with her about things but it almost always ends up with one or both of us being upset and/or crying. Should i go over to Budapest and meet her, maybe the lack of contact is starting to show and by finally meeting that spark will re-appear, i dont know. I do know that i love her but there are times i feel she is slowly drifting away from me. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 15, 2006 Share Posted September 15, 2006 Sounds to me for whatever reason, she got cold feet. Online relationships are fun because in some ways, they aren't "real." When you take them to the next step, making contact in person, all of a sudden you can't pretend anymore. Since some time has gone by since you posted, I'm curious what happened. Did you visit her? How was it? Are you still together? Any advice? Best, Liv Link to post Share on other sites
tearful_soul22 Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 Trust your instincts and use common sense. Be alert of red flags especially inconsistent information. Because of the anonymity of online dating, it can be trickier than conventional dating, so the only way to resolve this issue is to meet her and make your decision after that. Take care and good luck to you! Keep us posted...thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
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