jemeal_anna Posted July 23, 2006 Share Posted July 23, 2006 I think I need a guys point of view on this if it's posible:o but willing to take advice from anyone if you can plez help me with this yhank u My huband and I jus got married and I am in love with him and I am feeling as though he resents me after we got married . The whole getting married was his idea and now that were married He has shut down from me and he never comes to me and talks to me about things when they are bothering him until we get into a big fight or like a few months down the line but mostly when we get into a fight . I don't know what to do he never come's to me and talks to me anymore as he did befor we got married (why has this changed)? is he telling me that i'm a disapoimtment to him or what I feel as though he hate's me or something we have been trying for a baby for about 91/2 months now and a few days ago all of a sudden he is only trying to have a baby cause i want one I though haveing a baby is suppose to be both our choices since were married? I am totally confused and I'm not even pushing him to do anything like have a child or getting married for that matter I put the wedding off like 2 times and he still wanted to go on with getting married plez help me I don't know what to do anymore???????????????? Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted July 23, 2006 Share Posted July 23, 2006 It sounds like he's unhappy. Maybe he enjoyed the chase but isn't into the kill. Maybe he thought marriage was going to be something other than it is. Are you putting a lot of pressure on him to have a baby? That can really put a big dark cloud over the sex department, I imagine. Have you two ever tried counseling? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jemeal_anna Posted July 23, 2006 Author Share Posted July 23, 2006 No I haven't been presuering him on haveing a baby. we both wanted one togeather it was his choice on trying to start trying for a baby of our own. I wanted to put the wedding off for another year or so but he didn't and now i feel as though I did something wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted July 23, 2006 Share Posted July 23, 2006 Have you ever told him how you feel? Have you guys been to counseling? Maybe the both of you had unrealistic expectations of married life and are now dealing with the let-down of it all. Just a thought. Link to post Share on other sites
Becoming Posted July 24, 2006 Share Posted July 24, 2006 He probably doesn't even know what it is that's bothering him, is what I suspect. Worse case scenario, he's passive aggressive, in which case, have I got the book for you: How to Live with a Passive Aggressive Man. Fabulous book. Check out marriagebuilders.com together and talk through some of the things there. That might help him have the understanding he needs in order to share what's going on with him. Good luck. My H was like this when we first married, and I wish we'd have gotten good counseling at the beginning. It would have saved us years of heartache. Link to post Share on other sites
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