Guest Posted July 24, 2006 Share Posted July 24, 2006 Hi there, I have made a couple of previous postings on here as last my boyfriend of 5 years (who i have a little boy with) called things off saying that he didnt want to be with me. Anyway at the weekend i had around 40 texts of him saying he didnt mean it. he was just feeling down and he wants us back together as he loves me. i guess i am just really confused now as he was adamant that he wanted us to split but then got really annoyed because i didnt contact him and removed his phone number off my phone. Anyway i do love him but am not in love with him ....should i just say no to a second chance or should i tell him everything that needs to change and see how things go. Obviously my little boy has to come into consideration in this too i want whats best for him (No 1 priority). Link to post Share on other sites
mariJane Posted July 24, 2006 Share Posted July 24, 2006 Hi there, I have made a couple of previous postings on here as last my boyfriend of 5 years (who i have a little boy with) called things off saying that he didnt want to be with me. Anyway at the weekend i had around 40 texts of him saying he didnt mean it. he was just feeling down and he wants us back together as he loves me. i guess i am just really confused now as he was adamant that he wanted us to split but then got really annoyed because i didnt contact him and removed his phone number off my phone. Anyway i do love him but am not in love with him ....should i just say no to a second chance or should i tell him everything that needs to change and see how things go. Obviously my little boy has to come into consideration in this too i want whats best for him (No 1 priority). huh the post reply button was gone so had to reply by quote, but look if you are not feeling it then take it slow tell him maybe he should take you on a date or something, slow def will not hurt you because you have the kid you are automatically attached for many more years, so you know you have time to go slow, and if he cant accept that then ditch him. but tell him what i just said, 'we will be seeing eo for looooooooong time so dont get insecure baby!!!' if he cant hang with that then i would say **** him. DOES ANYONE disagree with that??? and never ever stay together for you kid. ok. it is really better to do what is best for you when it comes to this, it is what will be best for the kid, and this i know as fact OK!! ok now best of luck to you, k peace Link to post Share on other sites
akashalestat Posted July 25, 2006 Share Posted July 25, 2006 40 freaking texts, hmm; straight out, he's desparate, he wants contact, he's sorry for what he said; he's the father of your son, he wants to make things right, he does not want to lose you or the seed of your union, nor does he want to envision you with another man, do you feel he really wants to be with you? This is where the change will take place. The change would have to come from you, men, man, have a [bad?] habit of being comfortable with the status quo once they have found their woman. In addition, as far you are concerned, and humanity, society,as a whole, I have a big problem with the situation, or often used phrase of, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you." Such a grand gesture to say, "I still love you," but, such a selfish often unknowing admittance, to acknowledge, or hurt someone by saying I'm not in love with you. For me, and this is my humble opinion from experience, this means, "I'm no longer in that infatuation beginning phase of love that we used to have." This disappears for everyone, regardless of who you are after a certain amount of time. Witness all these stupid entertainment shows that chronicle stars love life's and what not. Give the guy a chance, see if he is true to his word, and let his word be in person, not a text, not an email, not a phone conversation, but a face to face conversation. My best to your situation Link to post Share on other sites
frag111 Posted July 26, 2006 Share Posted July 26, 2006 hi there thanks for the advice given ....latest news is we are back together but are taking things very slowly we had a chat yesterday and think with hard work we can get back on track but we also both agree if a break up happens again ...thats it game over. I would like to wish every one all the happiness in the world and once again thanks for the advice. Link to post Share on other sites
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