What's good about marriage?

[Tony T]

Funny, minus the sex comment these are the same reasons I gave my wife about why we should get a dog.

 

Dogs are great to snuggle with, they are always happy to see you, they aren't so moody, they appreciate being taken out (to do their business), etc. By golly, a dog is the answer to a very happy marriage!!!

 

As far as the sex comment, everybody seems to like doggy style best!

[whichwayisup]

Question....Is being married 50 years love or a habit?

 

Probably both.

 

I mean, after 30 or 40 years of being with the same person, do you think either of them want to end it and live alone?

 

Maybe it's companionship for some. And that is OK!

 

My grandparents HATED eachother, but when my grandmother died, my grandfather was a basketcase without her. He grieved and cried.

 

Ha, I remember he used to take out his hearing aids if he didn't want to listen to her!

[amaysngrace]

(except kill bugs - that's his job alone - mine is to run screaming and tell him where the bugs are!)

 

 

OMG...I thought you were a dude!

[Mz. Pixie]

Gosh, my inlaws have been married 40 years! They adore each other. My FIL calls her "an angel" and says to her "Momma, I know I've asked before a million times, but this is the last time I'm asking- will you please marry me and let's make this legal?"

 

My ex in laws have been married 37 years.

 

I know lots of happy couples as well.

[bab]

My in-laws are celebrating their 25th this year. They still call each other pet names, and my MIL constantly sits in his lap when we are all in the living room together.

 

I'm excited that I now have someone to share my life with. Someone who will witness my life and I his. For the next 50 years anyway, then I told him I'd have to reevaluate our relationship.

[Marquis-de-Carabas]

Here are my thoughts about what is good in my-husband's and I's marriage:

 

To accept and love each other for being who they are, without judging or attempting to change them.

I did not marry my man to change him, and I don't 'let him' do what he wants. I'm his wife, not his mother.

 

To tell each other when the other person is spouting BS about......anything.

That usually happens when he asks how I'm doing and I say, "I'm fine."

 

To support each other when it is needed.

I remember when I sprained both my ankles at once, I had to have my husband's assistance to get in and out of the shower. I didn't shower by myself for 4 months. What a guy!!

 

To have intelligent conversations about anything at all.

Discussions ranging from what kind of insect is flying around the porch to whether or not the conflicts of the Middle East can be solved.

 

To share our interests with each other.

Gardening, exotic foods, camping, canoeing, cheesy B movies on Sci Fi channel, Hard Rock.............

 

To have great sex whenver it is possible.

On an almost side note: I always thought it was a shame that married couples can't go on and on about their sex lives with their friends. Only because their friends won't believe it!

 

To experience new things together.

We went to an amusement park and rode the roller coasters. We both had never been on a stand-up one. Once we were rolling back to the drop-off point, I looked at my husband and said, "OW!" We won't be doing that again.

 

Having someone to snuggle next to on a cold night who is warm.

Having someone who will do dishes, clean, and make dinner without nagging.

Not having to do everything by myself.

Having someone who does not consider me to be 'wierd'

[Becoming]

Another note of appreciation for DH who

 

• takes out trash, and it seems to always be pouring rain on garbage night
  
• gets rid of dead mice in mousetrap (I'm phobic about mice)
  
• cleans up dead animals the cat he didn't want drags in
  
• mows the lawn
  
• cleans off my car in winter just because
  
• gets up early to shovel walks of snow
  
• gets up early to see kids off to school when I've been working late
  
• stays up late to talk and snuggle with me
  

 

Well, I could go on and on . . . :bunny:

 

I am blessed. But how often do I say it? Not often enough.

 

Maybe we're so focused on the few things that aren't great that we're missing the good stuff and actually creating bad.

[Rob In NC]

Another note of appreciation for DH who

• takes out trash, and it seems to always be pouring rain on garbage night
  
• gets rid of dead mice in mousetrap (I'm phobic about mice)
  
• cleans up dead animals the cat he didn't want drags in
  
• mows the lawn
  
• cleans off my car in winter just because
  
• gets up early to shovel walks of snow
  
• gets up early to see kids off to school when I've been working late
  
• stays up late to talk and snuggle with me

Well, I could go on and on . . . :bunny:

 

I am blessed. But how often do I say it? Not often enough.

 

Maybe we're so focused on the few things that aren't great that we're missing the good stuff and actually creating bad.

 

No wonder you're so happy. You basically have a slave to do your every bidding. Poor guy.

[Becoming]

:laugh: I'm going to take this as a joke, knowing you don't know me and our life together. But you might want to know what you're talking about before you say he's a "poor guy." And you don't. In this case, assuming just makes an ass out of you, not me. :laugh:

 

Which brings up another thing that's good about a good marriage:

 

Mutuality.

[a4a]

:laugh: I'm going to take this as a joke, knowing you don't know me and our life together. But you might want to know what you're talking about before you say he's a "poor guy." And you don't. In this case, assuming just makes an ass out of you, not me. :laugh:

 

Which brings up another thing that's good about a good marriage:

 

Mutuality.

 

 

:lmao:

 

mutilation...... I mean mutuality, yes.

 

When he can blow himself I will start taking out the trash on rainy days.

 

Is that what you mean by mutuality?

[Becoming]

:lmao:

Sure. But there's great mutuality there, too!

 

Both caring for one another's needs, not just one doing all the work for both people's benefits.

 

I can't stand mice; my DH can't stand to cut up a raw chicken or mix meatloaf by hand or clean out the gunk in the bottom of the sink. That stuff doesn't bother me, so no problem. Neither of us likes to change the oil in the car, so I take it in to JiffyLube. Neither of us likes to go shopping with our dear daughters for clothes, so I spare him on that one.

 

In other words, we work as a team with both members contributing.

 

And all members getting sexed.