Thursday_le Posted July 25, 2006 Share Posted July 25, 2006 I have a few questions. Im a guy and I was wondering how to make the ex work for me. I mean...Im not at that point but Id like to get an idea. How slow is taking it slow? And What are some examples of making them work for you?....I understand that if theres no challenge then it kind of makes things too easy and they can lose interest.... Any Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
Ukwizard Posted July 27, 2006 Share Posted July 27, 2006 It depends what you have in mind my friend. What is your story? How long have you split up? When I tried to get back with my then ex girlfriend, I tried to text her every couple of days, and phoned her around twice a month. I suppose I was frightened she would forget about me, and would have moved on. I know that may have been a bit too much with texts. Unfortunately you give no indication if you have split recently, a long time or if you speak to each other at all. How slow is taking it slow? How long is a piece of string? There is no definite answer. You could also ask yourself how fast is fast? No one knows. It depends on the level you pursue her. If you go in to deep, and send texts, and emails too often the nthat could be too fast. I would start off with, however you used to communicate the most. For example if you used email. You could send her a wee email first to prompt a response. If she replied real quick then you do too. If she responded a few days later, I would too, but dont make it too slow of they will think that your playing games. As they say, try to go with the flow. Link to post Share on other sites
Sun_Conure Posted July 27, 2006 Share Posted July 27, 2006 I would suggest to use the rule of reciprocation: intitiate the contact (email, text, phone), wait for her reply. If the reply contains any questions or indicates otherwise that she wants to continue to communicate, go on. Otherwise, do not do anything, let her to initiate the contact. Ideally, both of you should show similar amont of interest to each other and call (email, etc.) to each other similarly. When I do not want to talk to a guy, I take my time to answer the phone, often I do not call back the same day or ever. If I am interested, I can even call myself and take the phone or call back the same day. Hope this helps Link to post Share on other sites
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