heart_broken1 Posted July 26, 2006 Share Posted July 26, 2006 just confessed to the love of my life recently that I cheated on her twice since we've been officially going out. We had a long distance relationship and during the 10 months that we had been going out officially I fooled around twice with two different girls. We had only met each other 3 times in those 10 months but we were deeply in love and I had cheated on her once after we met face to face for the first time since we met on the net. Then I cheated on her again after we met a second time. I confessed to her recently because we were confessing to each other what we had done before we met up face to face. Even though we hadn't met yet we were supposedly in love but she had also done some things I never would have expected her to do, but since we became official she was faithful and I slipped. But I really do love her and it hurts so much now that I've lost her. She wasn't able to forgive me after I had told her. I did everything I could have done to show how sorry I was. The night I told her I drove 12 hours to see her. During the time I spent in her city, I bought her flowers, sang her a song on her doorstep, bought her a gift and cried with her. It has been a month now and she is still in alot of pain and so am I. I've stopped calling her because she said it only makes things harder. She is the most beautiful and the best woman I've ever known. I know I could never love anyone like I love her. I really am sorry and regret what I did. Everyday I pray that she will somehow come to forgive me and take me back. "Once a cheater always a cheater" is not always the case as I am proof it is not. I confessed my mistakes and have turned from them. I know that if she takes me back she won't regret it. I want to know if anyone thinks things can still work out between us. Are there any success stories out there? Would any of you ladies forgive me for what I've done? Please help me. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
DieselPWR Posted July 26, 2006 Share Posted July 26, 2006 Hey man God Bless you and your remorse. There's not much you're going to able to do at this point. Can it work? That really depends on a few factors. Mainly, if she is able to forgive you, and only she can decide that. Don't be overbearing with gifts, excessive phone calls, etc. Look under the divorce section for the 33 tips. Although it deals with marriage, a few things will be true in a BF/GF sense also. You've done your part it sounds like, and let her do hers. If she forgives you, great, if not, learn from expierence and don't do it again. She will the one that has to decide and nothing that you can say at this point to her will change her mind. She is going to have to come to that decision on her own. I hope that everythig works out for you. I'm a guy and would have a hard time forgiving my W for cheating on me, but I know that I love her enough to do so. I don't know if that helps, but that's my take on it. I am a newbie around here, maybe some of the ol hands can help out a little more. Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted July 26, 2006 Share Posted July 26, 2006 "Once a cheater always a cheater" is not always the case as I am proof it is not. Keep in mind you weren't "once" a cheater, you were TWICE a cheater, so you conciously made the decision TWICE to betray her. She may not be able to get past this. If not, you should learn from this and truly never cheat on someone again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author heart_broken1 Posted July 27, 2006 Author Share Posted July 27, 2006 hey guys.. its me heart_broken1... yes i did cheat twice but the first time was shortly after we met the first time and the second time was shortly after we met the second time.. it seems I couldn't control myself for wanting her so badly.. I fooled around with randoms.. I have learnt a lesson but I don't think I could get into another relationship after what I've done.. It doens't seem fair for me to.. I also told her I'm willing to wait for her.. until she gets married.. then I'll have to let go.. but I promised I will not touch a girl for at least 2 yrs.. I want to prove my love to her. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted July 27, 2006 Share Posted July 27, 2006 Once the trust is gone, well... you know. I would just make sure I learnt from my mistakes. It's tough - but people can only see what you've done, not what it truly inside your heart. Always think about things from the other person's point of view. Link to post Share on other sites
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