3 different women, 3 different scenarios, 3 different outcomes

[P1xie]

I first posted her about a porn problem and now realize that the issues grew deeper than just a guy thinking it’s ok to gratify themselves with numerous women. Here are three people with different problems in their relationships. I will refer them as A, B, C

 

A woman husband was addicted to drugs. He would lie to her about using. He would sneak behind her back to get his fix.

 

Her psycho behavior

1. Time him whenever he went somewhere

2. Follow him

3. Monitor phone calls, with id, *69, and access to his cell phone to see if he was calling dealers

4. Ask around town

 

His excuses

1. He didn’t have a problem

2. She was crazy, psycho, controlling

3. Everybody does it.

 

Outcome: They are now divorce after 3 years of dealing with the lies, denial, and accusations of being a crazy psycho. She does say that if he would of come clean with her and admitted that he had a problem she would of stood by him. Because of the lies and deceit they lost trust and she knew she could not live with a person she did not trust.

 

B woman SO has a porn problem. No porn arguments here please. You did not live what I lived through. Right now he’s pretty sure I’m leaving and I guess he’s afraid I will take his Self Love Oil so he put his name on it. He would lie about it, hide it, deny it etc.

 

Her psycho behavior

1. Looking up Satellite shows to verify that there was no such thing as porn on the TV. Ha ha.

 

His excuses

4. He didn’t have a problem

5. She was crazy, psycho, controlling

6. Everybody does it.

 

Outcome: Point blank told him I did not want it in my life. If he wanted in his life then he could control the situation as much I could and ask me to leave. If it comes up like a show in Pay Preview He sometimes tests the waters. I tell him yeah ok just what I want you to do look at other women naked. I don’t look for it but I still think about. If he decides to go back to his ways, I will leave. 4 years of it was enough. I still do not trust him and our relationship is on shaky ground.

 

C Woman’s husband has established an intimate non-sexual relationship with another women. Comes home and treats wife like crap with nasty names etc. That stopped when wife asked if he talked to OW like that. He lied about her, called her the old lady at work, she’s in her early 30’s. Refers to her as his best friend. Spend hours after work with her. No concrete proof of actual sexual encounters.

 

Her psycho behavior

1. Monitoring the PC (they were exchanging e-mails)

2. Spied at his work (they work together)

3. Times him from work and back

4. Checks timecards

 

His excuses

1. He didn’t have a problem

2. She was crazy, psycho, controlling

3. She’s his best friend, how could she take her away from him.

 

Outcome woman is still trying to figure it out. Unsure if it wasn’t more than friendship. No trust right now in relationship. They are trying to resolve things. Hard to do when you are called psycho. Also if it is a friendship then why the dishonesty about it?

 

I have come to the conclusion that it really isn’t the deed. It’s the deceit and mistrust that happens from the situations. When we all talk we basically say, “I know our situations are different but I feel the same way you do.”

 

We all went through emotions of what is more important us or the deed, feeling no self worth, feeling betrayed, feeling like maybe they are right there is something wrong with us!

 

Please note I use the Psycho behavior because that is what each one of us had to hear. That we were imagining things, we are psycho, and we are crazy. I think men and women all do crazy things in the name of love. I just hope it’s never violent. I am not however calling women literally Psycho.

 

I guess my point here it doesn’t matter the situation we all go through the same emotions when we are being deceived. Also maybe people wouldn't have to go through such drastic measures if we were just honest with eachother.

[tinktronik]

You've stumbled onto a truth of the universe here. Many men 1. Use the same excuses . 2. Can not admit when they are wrong. 3. Don't want these three things in a woman. ...

He didn’t have a problem ( a woman who can see his problem)

She was crazy, psycho, controlling ( anyone to expect anything from them)

Everybody does it. (want to face their own issues)

This seems to be the reasons all men that have not grown up use when their relationship is , going bad, gone , or they want to get over with a different woman.