Buttaflyy Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 NO...by "ambition" most women mean career-wise and earnings-wise. Most women don't give a rat's ass if the guy will fix the busted garbage disposal I he's "ambitious" enough and makes six figures then someone can be hired to fix whatever needs fixin'... I agree with you Alpha that ambition (in my mind anyway) has nothing to do with takin out trash or tuning up the car. A man that doesn't do this is what I'd call lazy. But you are far fetched with your description too. Yes, ambitious is mostly thought of as career wise. I dont agree with the earning wise part. An ambitious person is a go getter. Someone who is motivated, knows what he wants and tries hard to attain it. Link to post Share on other sites
SoCalCatman72 Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 By ambitious I mean not lazy as another poster mentioned in this thread. For example, if the shower leaks, he'll fix it. If the fence needs repair, he'll get off his butt and fix it. If my tires are low he will take my car and put air in the tires, change my oil and wash my car and pick up flowers for me on his way home:D Not to sound snippy, but from where I'm from that's called the responsibility of being a man. Link to post Share on other sites
Luvmykids Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 I think a man should have a good sense of humor, be intelligent, thoughtful, masculine, and confident. I like a man to provide for his family. That doesn't mean he has to make 6 figures. But we both should contribute to our family. Money is not that important. I don't need things to know I am loved. I would rather have my husband home, and treat me well instead of working alot and never being around just to buy me things. I also do not like selfishness or laziness. And same rules apply to me too. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkwall Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 I'm attracted to a man who is confident and good at listening. Link to post Share on other sites
bluetuesday Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 career-driven guys always turned me right off. i think spending more and more time at the office just to have a bigger car, a bigger paycheck, a grander house, a promotion, designer clothes, whatever, is an utterly vacuous, utterly soulless and largely pointless existence. i just don't get why people would want to work 14 hours a day for some stupid firm just so they can accrue money they'll never have the time to spend. what a waste of a life. material ambition is one of the most off-putting qualities a man can have. i like men who are kind, intelligent, funny and wanting to come home at 5pm. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 just so they can accrue money they'll never have the time to spend. Now that's a tragedy! One should always make enough time to spend money. (The Internet can help.) Link to post Share on other sites
Kirlin Posted July 29, 2006 Share Posted July 29, 2006 if he treats you with respect, hes honest , loyal, a great friend, never break your heart mostly personality i hate how ppl go by looks even tho looks are awesome a relationship is based on trust, respect and honesty and if the person isnt like that the girl deserves much better unless shes the same Link to post Share on other sites
Kirlin Posted July 29, 2006 Share Posted July 29, 2006 dont listen to anyone else Money means nothing if all a girl wants is money then its lust and shes using you if she really likes u she wouldnt care whethere u were poor or rich its whats inside that counts Link to post Share on other sites
sugarplum Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 I don't dig pretty boys either. No skinny, scrawny boys. I like a blue-collar guy. One who knows how to use his "tools". Watching men working physically really turns me on...a little sweaty, strong, muscles bulging........ And I prefer dark hair - although I married a blond And he cant have rotten teeth. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 I like a blue-collar guy. One who knows how to use his "tools". Watching men working physically really turns me on...a little sweaty, strong, muscles bulging.... Well SUGARPLUM.....I know some blue-collar dudes who are labourers and they say that when they tell good-looking chicks what they do for a living the chicks get turned off. I know a dude whos like around 42, good looking, good shape, dresses very nicely but he's a professional welder with no college. He bitches constantly that the good looking broads aren't interested in him. He says they usually go after the doctors and lawyers and businessmen. What do you say to that? Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 i'm a little disheartend that no-one said 5'8 ,thinning at the crown, broke, big eyes with long lashes, wimpy, and loves his mother Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 5'8", high bald spot, romantic, dreamer, big eyes with long lashes, sensitive, and loves his mother. Is there anybody like that out there?! Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 5'8", high bald spot, romantic, dreamer, big eyes with long lashes, sensitive, and loves his mother. Is there anybody like that out there?! too bad your'e a guy cause you got great taste Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 PS: I forgot aspiring writer. And cute butt. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 I like my men masculine, and rugged. Dirty hair, sexy tanned arms, stubble... pretty boys are not my cup of tea. Let me guess. Like he just sprouted out of the ground, right? You must be young and full of romantic daydreams of what a romantic guy should look like. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 PS: I forgot aspiring writer. And cute butt. magic, please, soon everyone will know we're living together Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 Let me guess. Like he just sprouted out of the ground, right? You must be young and full of romantic daydreams of what a romantic guy should look like. Said like the quintessential pretty-boy you are. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 magic, please, soon everyone will know we're living together Damn!!!! That cute butt comment gave it away... damn! Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 I like my men masculine, and rugged. Dirty hair, sexy tanned arms, stubble... pretty boys are not my cup of tea. Why are 'masculine' and 'filthy' considered synonyms? 'Dirty hair'? Speaking of icky fetishes.... Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 Ask a woman what her ideal guy is like, and compare that to the guys she's been with. Not a lot in common in most cases. Ask a woman what she's looking for while she's single, and then compare that to what kind of guy she ends up with. Not a lot in common in most cases. Ask a woman who is in a new relationship what her perfect guy is like and it will be a list of the traits of the guy she's with right now. Then wait until the honeymoon is over and ask again, and find the list has changed a little to remedy some of the things she's getting annoyed with with her current guy. Considering that the list is different in almost every case, the only thing you can do to keep your identity and self-respect is just do what makes sense to you. If it's your nature to burst out crying at the end of When Harry Met Sally, you might as well just do it. Somewhere there is a woman who is ok with that. I personally find most men repulsive and figure women must be pretty damn forgiving to be with them. I figure if they can be who they are, then I'm ok how I am. I don't derive confidence from it, but I've given up trying to emulate other guys thinking that that will make me more attractive. It doesn't. I don't know what will, but it's not that. For the record, that movie doesn't really affect me that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 Let me guess. Like he just sprouted out of the ground, right? You must be young and full of romantic daydreams of what a romantic guy should look like. Romance isn't appealing to me in the slightest. That was not the factor I was refering to in this instance. I just prefer men to be men, not men who care more about their appearance than I do My idea of romance is a man who wants to spend a few days back-country climbing the Sentinel with me. Now that would be a perfect man Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 The qualities I find most attractive are intellect, sense of humor and kindness. I basically fall for nice, sweet guys that I really enjoy talking with. (I also can easily fall for guys who are very good at talking and are total jerks.) The more interests we have in common, the better. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 I know a dude whos like around 42, good looking, good shape, dresses very nicely but he's a professional welder with no college. He bitches constantly that the good looking broads aren't interested in him. He says they usually go after the doctors and lawyers and businessmen. What do you say to that? For some reason, I thought you worked in IT alpha. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 Well SUGARPLUM.....I know some blue-collar dudes who are labourers and they say that when they tell good-looking chicks what they do for a living the chicks get turned off. I know a dude whos like around 42, good looking, good shape, dresses very nicely but he's a professional welder with no college. He bitches constantly that the good looking broads aren't interested in him. He says they usually go after the doctors and lawyers and businessmen. What do you say to that? I say those girls are crazy!!!! I like blue collar guys also and money is not a motivator for me either. Doctors, lawyers and businessmen work too many hours, are stuck up and aren't as good in bed. Money means nothing without your man being there for you instead of at the office. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 Well Love in Life, I asked this question to the guys for the ladies. So it is only fair to answer this one... My perspective of course I love a sense of humor in a man someone who can laugh at pretty much anything. I like men who are confident however when men try to hit on me that is a turn off. I like the one who takes his time and gets to know me then asks me out. I have to get to know him first. Looks are important but there has to be that unexplained chemistry as well. He has to know how to be passionite and love to have sex,make love, F***, be erotic, all of the above..... A strong sense of compassion and sense of self without being self centered. The physical is important as well as his essence. and a man who has a passion for something or takes pride in something that he enjoys. Also someone who shares something about themselves with you even though you just met...like a common interest. Turn offs: man who is jealous man who complains all the time long finger nails man who only has one point of view. Link to post Share on other sites
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