Kirlin Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 Hey do any of you think 17or 18 is to young to get married? ive been with my boyfriend 4 a year and a half and we wanna get married in a year im 16 now hes 18 .. Link to post Share on other sites
einahpets Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 Way, way too young! -sorry Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 Much, much, MUCH too young. You're too young to know how much you don't know yet. Believe me, it's TONS. Link to post Share on other sites
BareGoddess Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 The guys I liked at your age were no longer my type at ALL only five years later. Marry him if you want to be divorced within five years. That's more than likely what will happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Just another teen Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 If you two have the money of a successful entrepreneur, the maturity and experiences of a 50 year old, then I think it is alright to get married Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 hate to rain on your parade, but it's an awful idea to get married when you're teenagers. Mostly because someone that age lacks the mental maturity to deal with things that will pop up in a marital relationship, the kind of maturity that comes with experiencing life and doing things to help you prepare for a lifetime of living with the same person. off the top of my head, I can think of a handful of people whom I've met in my lifetime (and there have been literally thousands, due to the field I'm in) who married when they were 17, 18 or 19 and lasted through the first couple of years (which are hard) and have been married 30-40-50 years. And the only reason they have been married so long is because their generation had a whole other understanding and expectation about marriage; they didn't go into it with the thought of divorce as a viable option. simpy put, you're way too young to be looking at that kind of permanency without experiencing life first. Do you want a career? Do you want to go to school? Do you want to travel? All those things are going to take a backseat to the reality of marriage, of having to make things work for two, as well as any kids that come along, and I think they'll show up sooner in your marriage rather than later. get college out of the way, or whatever big goal you have that only you can achieve – if you two are serious about marriage, it can wait 5-6 years until you've got your accomplishments under way. Link to post Share on other sites
tikigods Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 WAAAY to young! Most people at your age think that they are going to spend the rest of their lives with their young loves, but generally as we grow we find that the people we were attracted to when we were that young are no longer people we want to spend our lives with. There is a reason that the statstics work against young marriages, and thats cause they generally don't work. There isn't the maturity or the real world know how to make it work Link to post Share on other sites
lil_angel Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 well, i have a slightly different perspective. having a marriage work isnt about age, but maturity. right now, yes, its probably a bad idea to get married. and people are probably right that it wont last. but that being said i have a neighbor who was married at 17 and now 14 years and 4 kids later theyre still just as happy. my grandma was married at 17 and stayed married until my grandpa died. sure, more older people than younger are gonna be mature enough for marriage because theyve had more life experience, but a young marriage isnt necesssarily destined for failure. however, if you're having to ask on a forum if you should be getting married this young, you probably shouldnt be. Link to post Share on other sites
einahpets Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 i completely agree with you about the maturity. but i do think that unfortunatly being 17yrs old 14yrs ago is a lot different than today. Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted July 29, 2006 Share Posted July 29, 2006 haha well everyone is saying too young, I also think so too. What you feel like now wont be what your feeling like later. Not that you wont have feelings for him any more but time changes everything. This is your first relationships and the chances of it lasting forever aren't really there. Give it more time Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 29, 2006 Share Posted July 29, 2006 Wait. It's fun to think about - but don't do it. Link to post Share on other sites
lil_angel Posted July 29, 2006 Share Posted July 29, 2006 i completely agree with you about the maturity. but i do think that unfortunatly being 17yrs old 14yrs ago is a lot different than today. 14 years isnt really that long ago......40 years sure, but not 14. the world hasnt changed quite that much. its not like she was 17 and out on her own and working and being an adult. she was a normal high school kid, got married as soon as she graduated, lived with her parents til the wedding. Link to post Share on other sites
The slayer Posted July 29, 2006 Share Posted July 29, 2006 14 years isnt really that long ago......40 years sure, but not 14. the world hasnt changed quite that much. its not like she was 17 and out on her own and working and being an adult. she was a normal high school kid, got married as soon as she graduated, lived with her parents til the wedding. Ask yourself in 14 years time how different you think society is and you might change your view.... Of course it is different for eveyone, the OP might well stay with her boyfriend for the rest of her life, but IMHO I think it is always more advisable to wait there is just no need to have to rush into marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
xFallingAwayFromYoux Posted July 29, 2006 Share Posted July 29, 2006 I'd wait a bit, a year and a half isn't that long....but on the other hand if you two are very close and mature then go for it . If you watch neighbours theres a similar thing going on there with two characters called Boyd and Janea. I suggest watching that programme for some ideas (strange advice, yes but its worth a try). Good luck . Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted July 29, 2006 Share Posted July 29, 2006 Hey do any of you think 17or 18 is to young to get married? ive been with my boyfriend 4 a year and a half and we wanna get married in a year im 16 now hes 18 .. It's not too young if you truly grasp this - that you are committing yourself to another for the rest of your life. Are you clear about your reasons for getting married? Do you understand what love is? These other people are just bitter. Sure - people change, but if you are committed your love will grow as you embrace these changes. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted July 29, 2006 Share Posted July 29, 2006 You can always haul out two or three stories of people who succeeded in marriage despite marrying after only knowing each other half an hour or despite having been still in kindergarten when they married. What you have to realize is that the stories of people who married in those situations and failed - some miserably - outnumber these few tales by the millions. Yes, a person can be struck by lightning five times and live. Yes, a person can fall out of an airplane with a broken parachute and live. But there are a few thousand times more people struck by lightning or parachuteless plummeters who are dead. IF you love each other, you don't have to marry right now. If your love is strong enough to last a lifetime, then it will last until you are in your mid-twenties and better suited to marry. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted July 29, 2006 Share Posted July 29, 2006 IF you love each other, you don't have to marry right now. If your love is strong enough to last a lifetime, then it will last until you are in your mid-twenties and better suited to marry. Worth thinking about! Anyway, engagement rings are expensive. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted July 29, 2006 Share Posted July 29, 2006 IF you love each other, you don't have to marry right now. If your love is strong enough to last a lifetime, then it will last until you are in your mid-twenties and better suited to marry. Exactly right! Why the big rush to get married, Kirlin? Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted July 29, 2006 Share Posted July 29, 2006 Why the big rush to get married, Kirlin? It will put those "commitment-phobe" rumours to rest. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted July 29, 2006 Share Posted July 29, 2006 It will put those "commitment-phobe" rumours to rest. I just read Bemused's thread...now there's some commitment phobia! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kirlin Posted July 29, 2006 Author Share Posted July 29, 2006 i now think i am way to young im going to wait until i am 20 to get married Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kirlin Posted July 30, 2006 Author Share Posted July 30, 2006 i dont know Link to post Share on other sites
ShoeGirl Posted August 4, 2006 Share Posted August 4, 2006 What is the point of getting married so young... why not wait a few more years (a few of the years that you change so much) to see if that is really what you want for the rest of your life... I am guessing that you don't want to be married at 17 and divorced at 19 or 20. Just wait a few years!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kirlin Posted August 4, 2006 Author Share Posted August 4, 2006 good point i will wait till im 20 or 22 lol good age? Link to post Share on other sites
Brittjean06 Posted August 4, 2006 Share Posted August 4, 2006 Maybe 20 and 23 is too young to. But much better! Why not just get some promis rings and see where it goes and if it lasts for many years than you've made it If not than you can be lucky you didn't get married right away:) yay P:s and when I say rings I don't meen engadement rings! Link to post Share on other sites
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