ponder24 Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 Has anyone experienced fluctuating attraction to your spouse? Somedays finding them very attractive and other days not getting turned on by them? I would imagine this is not healthy for a relationship....... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 No, it IS healthy. Noone is going to be turned on and ready to go 24/7. Life just gets in the way! Things get stressful, people get sick, kids tire you out. It only becomes unhealthy if it continues to happen alot, leading to other problems in the bedroom, a spouse feeling hurt or rejected. If you are having non sexual feelings for your spouse, maybe something else is going on that needs to be talked about and fixed. Link to post Share on other sites
stacym75 Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 That is a natural thing.I have been married for 13yrs and i do the same thing,one day its like soon as i see him or smell him its like OMG i want him or i think he looks sexy that day .Same thing back i can tell when he thinks i look sexy.And i think i look my worst and he thinks different.So don't think theres something wrong . Link to post Share on other sites
BareGoddess Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 I'll have to agree. I'm married 11 years and have experienced the same thing. I know my spouse doesn't think I'm sexy all the time either. Sometimes we look at each other with "new eyes" and other times it's like we're just "there" if that makes sense. I think it's perfectly normal. I mean for me, my H is like a brother to me or a friend and at other times I look at him with desire and realize how attractive he still is to me. It does fluctuate. I wouldn't worry about it unless you NEVER see him as desirable. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 Has anyone experienced fluctuating attraction to your spouse? Somedays finding them very attractive and other days not getting turned on by them? yep – it all depends on what's going on in our marriage and how we respectively feel toward each other that day. I love my husband, but there are times (whole days even) I just want to pinch his pointy little head off or I do not want to be around him because I'm angry or he grosses me out with some of his habits. There are also times I enjoy being around him because he makes me laugh like no one else can, or he's just incredibly sexy to me. It's like getting "all four seasons in one day" sometimes, lol ... Link to post Share on other sites
holding on Posted August 1, 2006 Share Posted August 1, 2006 I'll have to agree. I'm married 11 years and have experienced the same thing. I know my spouse doesn't think I'm sexy all the time either. Sometimes we look at each other with "new eyes" and other times it's like we're just "there" if that makes sense. I think it's perfectly normal. I mean for me, my H is like a brother to me or a friend and at other times I look at him with desire and realize how attractive he still is to me. It does fluctuate. I wouldn't worry about it unless you NEVER see him as desirable. How long dose it take till you can say never see him desirable? What I mean is how long a period of time do you see him as not desirable? Link to post Share on other sites
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