Leena Posted July 29, 2006 Share Posted July 29, 2006 Hi all, I am feeling much depression over this matter. My ex and I was together for 6 yrs when we broke up. We have been for the past 1 year. He was seeing someone else, his colleague and they had slept together. And now, he wants to get back together again. We were frequently keep in touch over the year and I was waiting for him to come back. I thought maybe he would. Although I may be happy that he is finally coming back to me but I still have this issue that he has slept with another girl after me and now he is back with me. I find it so hard to accept that he had slept with another that its tearing me apart. If any of you out there has been through this or have some advice on how do I handle this situation, please help. Link to post Share on other sites
HopefulOne Posted July 29, 2006 Share Posted July 29, 2006 Something similar happened to me years ago... He went off with this other girl and said it's what he wanted and she made him happy, months later he came back and asked if we could work things out, I tried honestly, saying that we should work on our friendship first, he didn't really like that and it frustrated him but he did it, I however could never get past it. He always said he felt like it I didn't really love him and that's why he did that and that she did love him. I just couldn't do it, I tried for over a year but it was never the same again. I am sure that you can if you really want to, you really have to work on it, you need to have communication and honesty and above all you have to forgive him and get past it, if you don't it will end up like mine. I never forgave him and it was always in the back of mind. You have to leave the past in the past if you ever want to move forward, that was what I learned from my experience. I hope this helps and really I do wish you the best. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 Hi all, I am feeling much depression over this matter. My ex and I was together for 6 yrs when we broke up. We have been for the past 1 year. He was seeing someone else, his colleague and they had slept together. And now, he wants to get back together again. I find it so hard to accept that he had slept with another that its tearing me apart. If any of you out there has been through this or have some advice on how do I handle this situation, please help. My advice to you is to listen to yourself (to that little inner voice) and be aware that whatever decision you make you will have to live with it not us. Can you accept this man back knowing where he has been for the last year and be able to trust him fully? What has changed now versus a year ago that will make this relationship workable for you two? If you have any doubts about this relationship then you should probably bow out gracefully now! Theres a reason why it ended 6 years ago and it just strikes me a little weird that he wants to get back together again right after breaking off with someone else. I have been there and done that and it didnt work out for me. However as I said you are your best judge because you know more about this man and what your relationship was like then we could ever know. But, If you are having any serious doubts about whether or not you could trust or forgive this man then it makes no sense to be going back into a once failed relationship with him. Choose wisely!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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