Ukwizard Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 I would like to call my ex girlfriend. Not now! I mean in a few months maybe October, or December. We split up in October 2005. The story, and quite complicated and its here if you want to know about it, http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t85611/ She met her new man in around May 2006. I was still contacting her up till then, but unfortunately she has now stopped, text, emailing me. Has anyone contacted an ex after a while of non-speaking? We never fell out, and we didn`t have an argument, nor was it a bad break up. What are your thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 Why would you want to get in touch with her if she has a boyfriend and she's stopped all contact with you? What is your purpose for doing that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ukwizard Posted July 30, 2006 Author Share Posted July 30, 2006 Good point. However it is good to catch up. Although I miss her, I miss her kids too. She did say before she went on a date before the man she is going out now that she had a date. I wished her good luck, and she replied "I hope we can still be friends". When we split up she did say "That we`ll still be friends, go out for dinner, and drinks", and "You`re welcome to my home anytime". Its not like her to stop emailing or texting. Either the new man is involved, and influenced her or her friends. She used to reply to all my emails, and texts. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 I would say it's best to respect her wishes on this. Regardless of whether her new man asked to stop corresponding with you, or if she chose it herself, she is clearly trying to make that relationship work and does not want contact with you. You're just beating your head against the wall if you continue to try. She knows how to reach you if she wanted to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ukwizard Posted July 30, 2006 Author Share Posted July 30, 2006 Thanks norajane. You have a nice way of putting things. I will respect her wishes, and point taken. I won`t then phone her. Yet lol. Maybe I ll leave it for a year or so? Goodness knows where I ll be then. What do you think if I still email her jokes, and funny attachments, and no talking about the old relationship and stuff? Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 Email us the jokes. I think it's just an excuse to keep hanging on. Instead of a year, be thinking a decade. Maybe never. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 What do you think if I still email her jokes, and funny attachments, and no talking about the old relationship and stuff? This is what I think: You're just beating your head against the wall if you continue to try. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted July 30, 2006 Share Posted July 30, 2006 It sounds to me like she's moved on and that's what you should do as well. Cut your losses (as she has) and get on with your life (as she has). All those nice sounding things she said were likely just that and she answered texts and emails until she found a new interest. You're no longer a part of her life. Now's your opportunity to get on with a wonderful one of your own and in time, you'll meet someone new as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ukwizard Posted July 30, 2006 Author Share Posted July 30, 2006 Curmudgeon, thanks for your opinion. I think you are right. She only just kept on emailing me, and replying to my texts to make it seem what she did was alright to leave. I cant believe what she has said or done to me after she left. In fact it still hurts. Sometimes I get so wound up, and fustrated about it. I m learning to keep that in control. Like someone said, here or in another forum. I can`t remember where, Who cares what people say about moving on. People do, but they will do it in their own time. For the people who are insensitive to you, then they are the ones that have never loved Who says I havent moved on. Its been 9 months since we split up. At least I m a man of my own words, and kept my side of the bargain. She has broken all her promises, and what she has said. She`s now got everything she wanted. I`m left with nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
johnnytable Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 Don't even think about contacting her. She has a new bf. She does not respond to you. You need to move on. She said that she wanted to be friends in order to make the breakup easier on herself. Women do this all of the time. If you play into it, it removes their guilt and any regrets that they have while hurting you. Once they get a new bf, you get what you are getting now! Link to post Share on other sites
mariJane Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 sounds like your left without closure, and this event has shocked you, if you need to tell her an email that you think its sour to treat you like that or something, THATS IT THOUGH, only contact her once more if you are having a problem getting on, and would help you end it for closures sake only, thats what i think. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 Yes - a short message like, "I love you, and I want you back," will give you closure. Just kidding. Link to post Share on other sites
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