want to move on Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 No one can believe it! I filed for divorce and financially everything started going down hill. We have rental properties and they started causing a financial strain. To make a long story short... my attorney and his attorney said the only way this divorce can go thru is if we both live together until our house is sold. Now I know I was emotionally not in the right frame of mind. I have no relatives around here (they all live at least 2 hours away). So I only had friends at work to talk to. I have no where to move without quitting my job. We have 2 boys ages 8 and 12. My ex could move in with a relative but he said "I am not paying a house payment for you to live here". In our divorce decree it states child support will start after home is sold. I am so stuck... feet in cement. I don't know how much longer I can take this. I call my mom and sister and just cry... how could I, and why did I agree with this??? Our house has been on the market for 5 months. I am thinking of taking the chance and just moving out even though I can't afford to. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 Why isn't the house selling? 5 months is a long time to be on the market. Have you gotten any offers? Is it priced too high? Does it need a little work to make it more attractive to buyers? Is it too crowded with furniture, are the kitchen counters jammed with small appliances and 'stuff', are the closets overstuffed, or is the place full of kids toys when buyers come to look at it? If your realtor hasn't raised these issues with you, you need a new realtor. Link to post Share on other sites
NEWDAY Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 I know how you feel. My divorce has been final since Jan. 2006 but my ex and I are still living in the same house waiting for it to sell. We have lowered the price 5 times in 6 mo. and get lots of lookers but no buyers. He won't help maintain or pay for anything and I have to try to do everything myself, so I mow the grass, clean and paint and fix as best I can. He is an alcoholic slob who only cares about having a good time. I can't wait to be rid of him, but I need the money from the home to start over, I can't buy him out or afford to move yet. Try to relax, find ways to avoid tension and conflict. Set aside a sanctuary in the home for yourself where you can be alone, keep busy enough for the time to pass quickly. I started working out a lot because I was so angry I had a hard time sleeping. It's easy when you're exhausted. The worst part of this situation is that I wanted a friendly divorce-just 2 people with different goals going their own way, but I don't see that happening now. Link to post Share on other sites
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