aljc123 Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 ok...heres the background...Seven months ago I started going out with a man who at that time was my best friend. From the day we started going out we just fell more and more in love. I pretty much (at his insistance) moved into his house and we spent all our time together, and the few times when we werent together, ie. at work, visiting or parents, we were texting, calling, emailing you name it. At this point we both lived in the city we went to university in. last month due to circumstances beyond our control we both had to move back to our home towns.These home towns are an 11 hour drive from each other. Its not forever, but then again we have no absolute time frame as to when we can live in the same city again. its gonna be at least a year as I am studying a course that is a year long, and he is studying a course that is longer than that. We've been apart now for just over a month, and he has already visited me here for four days last week which was just so amazing and exciting, as the three weeks prior to that felt like forever. But the problem i'm having, even tho we plan to see each other at least once a month, is that the whole time he is not here i feel like i cant get on with anything, or even have friendships with anyone properly because i am just thinking about him ALL THE TIME. its like when you first fall in love but we've been going out for seven months! i have never got to the stage even when we saw each other daily, of not being excited when he walks in a room, and now not being able to see him whenever i want is breaking my heart! Any advice on how to cope, how to be less dependent/obsessed pleeeaasse throw my way because all i can think about is wanting my babys arms around me and knowing i cant makes me so very sad! Link to post Share on other sites
Author aljc123 Posted July 31, 2006 Author Share Posted July 31, 2006 yeeeah im still thinking about him allllll the time!! nothing to share on this one guys and gals? coping methods?! Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 I think that it's important to keep busy. Visit with friends, family etc. Life goes on even through missing one another like crazy. It's nice to hear of such a strong love between two people. Stay focused on maintaining a healthy relationship with trust and security. If you can get through the distance you will get through anything. Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aljc123 Posted July 31, 2006 Author Share Posted July 31, 2006 aw thanks. i was missing him soo much the other day that i thought thats it i cant do it anymore...then i thought hmm whats the alternative? the alternative being breaking up...well if i miss him this much when i talk to him all day long and see him every few weeks how much would i miss him if i never spoke to him or saw him at all?!?! so i realised this stupid long distance thing is just something i cant get away from so im just gonna have to stick it out. and the good thing is it is soooooooo exciting planning/waiting for/being on a visit! like butterflies in my stomach thinking about it exciting!!and tho he may be far away thats better than not having him at all. Its greedy of me to expect some one so wonderful to be fully accesible to me at all times!! Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted July 31, 2006 Share Posted July 31, 2006 Awww that was soooo sweet! He sounds just as deserving to be with someone like you! You're right, you listed no real grounds for a breakup and that would just be putting yourself through unneccessary torment. Just realize that you can't devote all time toward thinking about him. You have goals to accomplish, dreams to fulfill! You guys really do sound like you've got something good. IME the problem with most LDR's are the insecurities and lack of trust. This does not sound like an issue for you guys at all! You sound like you have something very strong and lasting. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aljc123 Posted July 31, 2006 Author Share Posted July 31, 2006 nice of you to say so i really think youre right! fact remains tho...i miiiissssss hiiiim Link to post Share on other sites
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